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This is lame, but I'm worried...

lms_bridelms_bride
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My SIL is pregnant.  She is a very resourceful young lass and she will be a SAHM.  It is only a matter of time before she is on the bump (maybe she's already on here, reading articles, etc).  I keep wondering if she's going to jump on the boards...

I don't know if she'd "recognize" me on here, and I don't even know if she's the discussion board kind of person (is there a type?) but I feel like I want to protect my little safe haven of pure honesty and venting and online friends.  Silly but true.

Hence why I removed my blog and photos from my signature.  Sigh... I know... 

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Re: This is lame, but I'm worried...

  • susanmosleysusanmosley member

    Man, I hear you!  There was a period of time when I told a few pregnant friends about my great involvement on the bump and my SN.  WHY?  Why did I do that?  

    Without your pic/blog, I think you are pretty safe, don't you?  Especially if she doesn't know you are here - or does she?  It would be pretty random for her to pick out your SN and figure out that it must be her SIL, right? I mean california is a big place with lots of brides. =)  I suppose I wouldn't use your boys' names anymore though.   

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  • ShozziesShozzies member
    I can completely relate.  I keep wanting to tell people about this board because I love it, but I'm too selfish to share my safe haven.  I haven't recognized anyone yet, but with so many of my friends and family members having babies it wouldn't be surprising.  I want to share pictures of my DD, but I don't want to be recognized.  I want to be able to talk about TTC and stuff that I don't want to share with people IRL right now.  I actually had an account before that had some identifying information in the s/n, so I made this account just to be more anonymous.
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  • healthynuthealthynut
    Not lame at all.  I'm actually considering removing all identifying information too.  I recently met up with someone IRL who talked to me about the bump and I didn't respond very enthusiastically b/c I started to worry about being discovered. 
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  • MrsC17MrsC17
    I know what you mean.  Before I moved to 12-24 I lurked there for a bit and actually saw there was a girl I went to HS with on there.  We aren't friends IRL (but "friends" on FB), and at first I panicked because I'd shared a bit on my ppa/ppocd and felt a bit embarrassed, BUT then I also realized I do really tell anyone who asks about it so it's not like I'm sharing new information.  I also don't say much that I wouldn't IRL, so if anyone I know wants to read what I'm thinking, they can go for it :)
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  • lms_bridelms_bride
    imagesusanmosley:

    Man, I hear you!  There was a period of time when I told a few pregnant friends about my great involvement on the bump and my SN.  WHY?  Why did I do that?  Ha ha, I don't know.  The only person who knows I'm specifically on the bump, is my husband. 

    Without your pic/blog, I think you are pretty safe, don't you?  Especially if she doesn't know you are here - or does she?  It would be pretty random for her to pick out your SN and figure out that it must be her SIL, right? I mean california is a big place with lots of brides. =)  I suppose I wouldn't use your boys' names anymore though.   

    She doesn't know I'm on the bump, but she could easily put my initials together if she did happen to get on this board.   I may try to go more incognito.  I am a weirdo, I know.  And yeah, no more boys names.  Bummer.

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  • lms_bridelms_bride

    imageMalloryRae:
    Now you're making me paranoid.  Kinda considering maybe a new screen name/profile pic.......

    LOL, sorry!  I really am not a paranoid person when it comes to most things but its just that this person is very clever and she could easily figure it out if she hung out on the board long enough.  If you're not worried about someone in particular I wouldn't worry about it!  And really, I haven't said too many things I wouldn't say to her or anyone else, but there are certain things I'd like to be left on the board.  Hence why we're quasi-anonymous!

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  • mrsfireflymrsfirefly
    I've thought the same thing.  Maybe you could have two bump identities, one that has your photo and blog link and with which you say nothing controversial, and then this one that you use for the "real" posts.  I keep my photo of LO as a newborn because I figure no one will recognize her that way.
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