Which is worse

MandaS08 · January 2011

I can't decide which is worse-to be hopefull and feel like maybe this really will be our cycle, but then deal with extra disappointment when its not, or to squash myself anytime I feel hopeful. I guess you can tell the 2WW is driving me a little crazy.

smallfry5909 · January 2011

I haven't figured out what's better yet, because I've been very hopeful and then VERY disappointed each time. This cycle, I'm gonna try for the "pretend like I'm not in the 2ww" approach to see how that goes.

I hope this is it for you!

jmckeag · January 2011

On a completely unrelated to TTC note, my brother-in-law was going through a bit of a rough patch which was going to culminate in a life altering decision that he had no control over. I told him to "prepare for the worst" because then the let down would be less harsh. His response was that he was going to be equally disappointed with the potential negative outcome so why would he make himself miserable during the wait?

If you are anything like me, I would say take his advice...a BFN is a BFN no matter how you shake it and will sting no matter what. So why not be hopeful in the meantime?

alexa08 · January 2011

I've been bouncing between both - can't tell you which is worse, but both at once is a killer! I'm trying to to worry too much.

hopefulelise · January 2011

I say be hopeful until you're given a reason not to be!

itsmegin · January 2011

I don't know. I think hoping can be both helpful and hurtful, but there's no way to stop yourself from hoping, so just go with it.

jerryliljess · January 2011

That's a tough call...both have been driving me crazy! My sister is getting married so I'm making her a cross-stitch pattern that says "Today I married my best friend" with the names and wedding date. Hopefully that'll help.

I'm wishing everyone else in the 2ww luck. FX!

starrynyt · January 2011

I have been/am so struggling with this. I still haven't fully decided for myself, but I guess part of me always wants to be hopeful just because that's the kind of person I want to be and I don't want this journey to ultimately turn me into a negative person. That's really, really hard and the disappointment is tough to swallow. But I'm guess I'm leaning towards it being better to be hopeful.

opallover · January 2011

all I have is hope so that's what I'm sticking with.

Good luck to you! I'm just barely in the 2ww myself. It's hard.

MommyandKate · January 2011

I'm sorry- I hope this is the one for you!

Gilgenbach2007 · January 2011

Yeah, I'm thinking the same thing today. If I set myself up for a bfn than I would be super surprised for a bfp. I'm just not feeling too hopeful. The last couple cycles I thought for sure were the one, and weren't. I can see ItsmeGin's out look on it too, but I would rather be surprised than let down.

FmrAFBrat · January 2011

I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much....like PPs I'd rather be suprised then let down.

BTW- I'm stocked up on tampons, so if I make it to Sunday then I'll shell out & get a test.

nikki04vb · January 2011

I guess you kinda have to be hopeful. I've tried telling myself it wasn't going to happen, but I never really believe that. I think distraction works best. You're going to be hopeful, but if you can distract yourself and not obsess I think it's slightly less disappointing if you get a BFN.

Tapatio · January 2011

Gilgenbach2007:
Yeah, I'm thinking the same thing today. If I set myself up for a bfn than I would be super surprised for a bfp. I'm just not feeling too hopeful. The last couple cycles I thought for sure were the one, and weren't. I can see ItsmeGin's out look on it too, but I would rather be surprised than let down.

This is the path I take. Sadly, I'm a "the glass is half empty" kind of person. I try not to get my hopes up because then I get so disappointed. I was pleasantly surprised by my last two pgs. Getting those two +hpts I wasn't expecting are moments I replay in my mind all the time. I was fully convinced it wasn't my month. It works for me Smile . In the end...you'll know what is best for you. FX that this is your month!

Izabella22 · January 2011

itsmegin:
I don't know. I think hoping can be both helpful and hurtful, but there's no way to stop yourself from hoping, so just go with it.

This. I try not to get too worked up but it never works and I'm going to be dissapointed at a bfn no matter what... so why not be hopeful?

clauseka · January 2011

I pick the lesser of two evils - being hopeful with the possibility of more disappointment. Without hope, I don't think I would survive the 2WW. hang in there and may this be the time your hope stays afloat! FX for a BFP for you!

Eris-Alexis · January 2011

I know exactly how you feel. I go from hopeful to certain that this won't be our cycle. People always tell me to be hopeful because positive energy can only help, but it is hard. I think I am more scared about how I will handle the disappointment if this isn't our cycle.

Hang in there, and know that you are not alone.

MrsAtch · January 2011

I'm pretty sure the 2ww is rotting my brain. I'm a glass half empty type when it comes to TTC- it's too hard for me to face the disappointment every month. Inevitably I will just cry about it and move on each month but it's not fun. I'd rather prepare for bad news and hope to be pleasantly surprised one of these months. Hang in there.

ewilliams1127 · January 2011

They both suck.

Carolee · January 2011

I go through this every cycle. It's so hard. (((Hugs)))

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