BMB Vent

StaceyM06 · January 2011

I have been lurking my former-BMB, but I am trying to quit. I don't understand how people can be so dumb/insensitive! I have seen multiple "OMG, I hope my baby is not born on 9/11" OR "All these MCs are freaking me out" posts. Ex:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/48292653.aspx

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/48231121.aspx

I would love a baby born on any day! And it's like other women's losses are inconveniencing these ladies. Maybe I'm overreacting. Thanks for letting me vent.

itsmegin · January 2011

It's really sad how petty and selfish people can be. Going through this really puts things in perspective. Who effing cares when your baby is born? I'll take one on 9/11, Friday the 13th, 4/20, 6/6/06, whatever just give me a freaking baby.

And the whole miscarriage is contagious thing drives me nuts. As if reading about someone else's loss is anywhere near as upsetting as actually experiencing one. These women need to get tougher. If hearing about miscarriages on a message board sends them into a panic, how are they going to handle it when their kids are walking, driving, and going out into the world?

CashewsMommy · January 2011

Ugh! There will always be posts like that. I think every BMB has had at least one if not more. These women just don't understand.

I saw that 9/11 post. What an idiot.

Fallon621 · January 2011

Grrr that really makes me mad! Even on the MCPL board the other day a woman who just lost her baby said that when she gets PG again she would be "depressed" if it were a girl and not a boy! I couldn't help my self and had to say something. the post was titled like 1 week and 1 day or something like that. I was not mean but had to say something.

Muffinhb · January 2011

itsmegin:
It's really sad how petty and selfish people can be. Going through this really puts things in perspective. Who effing cares when your baby is born? I'll take one on 9/11, Friday the 13th, 4/20, 6/6/06, whatever just give me a freaking baby.
And the whole miscarriage is contagious thing drives me nuts. As if reading about someone else's loss is anywhere near as upsetting as actually experiencing one. These women need to get tougher. If hearing about miscarriages on a message board sends them into a panic, how are they going to handle it when their kids are walking, driving, and going out into the world?

Could not agree more with you! i will take one any day of the week, day, month or year.

StaceyM06 · January 2011

Glad to know I am not overreacting. I don't understand these people. Think before you post something that stupid or go back and delete it.

Thank god some people tell them they are being ridiculous. Someone already responded to the 1st post that miscarriages are NOT contagious.

Eris-Alexis · January 2011

I don't care what day my baby is born, as long as it is and it is healthy. I do remember reading the miscarriage posts on my BMB board and feeling very sad for the mom, but also nervous. While I don't believe that miscarriages are contagious (that is absolutely ridiculous) I think those posts hit me close to home because I had problems throughout my pregnancy.

ewilliams1127 · January 2011

Thanks! I had to post my $.02 on the m/c post.

hopefulelise · January 2011

I think every BMB has posts about how all the m/c posts are upsetting them, and it irritates me every time I see one! All the women saying "poor me," "I can't handle seeing all this bad news!" Poor you?! How about the women who are ACTUALLY miscarrying?! Ugh.

sisterrael · January 2011

This is why I don't lurk on other boards anymore. Ya know, maybe having a child on 9-11 could change your interpretation of the day. God knows, a little joy could be somewhat healing.

Gaberinos · January 2011

I was just too curious and was reading through those posts. I was happy to see so many TTCAL'ers that had moved over to the month boards. That gave me a smile. On the other hand, some of the ladies that have never been through a loss just don't get it and I wish they'd understand where others are coming from. It is almost like some girls are thinking that if they don't hear about it, it isn't real. That was my first impression.

HadleyS · January 2011

itsmegin:

It's really sad how petty and selfish people can be. Going through this really puts things in perspective. Who effing cares when your baby is born? I'll take one on 9/11, Friday the 13th, 4/20, 6/6/06, whatever just give me a freaking baby.

And the whole miscarriage is contagious thing drives me nuts. As if reading about someone else's loss is anywhere near as upsetting as actually experiencing one. These women need to get tougher. If hearing about miscarriages on a message board sends them into a panic, how are they going to handle it when their kids are walking, driving, and going out into the world?

Very well stated, Megin, very well stated.

jertie · January 2011

I saw the 9/11 post earlier, but missed the "m/cs are freaking me out" one. I was rolling my eyes so much on the first one, I gave myself a headache.

As for the second one - it just proves something that I've been saying for 6 months now - people suck. Ok, I don't really mean that (mostly), but it totally pisses me off when I see a post on 1st Tri saying that someone is leaving due to c/p or m/c and there are 25 responses but 425 views. As if it's okay to read the gory details and see her ticker to check how far along the OP was, compare to yours and see if you're "safe". And yet, you don't even provide the poor OP with a hug or good thoughts, etc. Just read it and run away fast - I hate that.

Junebug060609 · January 2011

I saw the 9/11 one too.

My fathers bday is 9/11. Yes, people often comment on the importance of the day when we gather for cake, but it doesn't take away from the fact that the day is one of celebration in our family. I'd have been thrilled to deliver on my fathers bday.

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