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tying the tubes?

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anyone else plan on making this baby their last?

this is our 4th, and consequently will be my 4th c-section as well. i'm not really sure i want to go thru another c-section after this one. i had always planned on being done having kids by the time i was 30 and i'm hitting that mark next month. 

but i keep flip flopping back and forth. at times i feel like i'm done, and at others i keep feeling like i would like to wait 3yrs and re-evaluate then. financially we can take care of what we have now, but there's potential for dh to increase his salary over the next few years. that starts to make me feel like i could eek out one more kid i guess lol

any plans for the rest of you?

 

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  • jgengo0jgengo0 member
    While these two are our first and we plan to have one more, after that my HUSBAND will be getting a vasectomy. We women do enough...it's the least they can do, plus it is is a lot less invasive. I'd send your husband in. Not yourself! You just never know down the line what you may want. My parents ended up having one more (me) when my mom was 42... It is fairly easy to do a reverse vasectomy if need be.... 
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  • nursebecca79nursebecca79
    Well, if you're a little unsure, I might wait before doing anything permanent. This is my 2nd and DH's 3rd so it will be 4 for us but I'm not sure I'm done yet. I'm kind of like you, I THINK I'm done (I'm 31), but I still have those "maybe" thoughts. DH says he's fine with being done, but has agreed to a 2 year grace period before going for the "snip".
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  • mrs.happymrs.happy member

    If you aren't sure, you might consider an IUD like Mirena.  It is 99.9% effective against unplanned pregnancy for up to 5 years, but can be removed at any time if you decide you do want another one.  I know people have had different experiences with Mirena, but mine was 100% positive.  Super easy, no side effects, and I got pregnant 4 months after having it removed.

    If you want a more permanent solution, I would also suggest your husband getting a vasectomy instead of you getting tubal ligation.  Tubal ligation is a much more invasive procedure (although if it's done at the same time as your C-section, it's not that big a deal, just a few extra minutes of surgery).  It's fairly common for women to have pain with sex after tubal ligation due to scar tissue forming.  Vasectomy is a really simple procedure and there is no risk of pain (after the initial healing of course!) for men. 

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  • SpceCadetSpceCadet

    Not me.  This is our first, so we'll be open to more in the future.

    If this were going to be our last child, DH said he's go for the snip.  The vasectomy is also more reversible should something seriously change our minds. 

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  • thegoods22thegoods22
    This is our first and last.  I can't deal with hyperemesis again.  -_-  I don't even know how I am going to get through the rest of this pregnancy.  Dh will be getting snipped though, I've been through enough!  
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  • aniceucchikaniceucchik
    DH will definitely get cut after this and I am debating on getting the tubes tied as well, just to make sure. Depends on my research and how invasive it really is. I will ask my MIL since she is a midwife and i trust her opinions/judgement.

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  • O2BaMomO2BaMom
    Even when we are done having children I will not have my tubes tied.  If anything DH will be getting snipped but I'm also ok with doing the long term IUD (10 years, I think).
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  • 11kacey11kacey member
    Husband and I are Catholic.. no tube tying or snipping for us. :) Lots of abstaining and working on our timing I guess.
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  • niende89niende89
    I THINK I'm done after this one. We have a boy and this one is a girl so we're pretty sure that we're done with babies but just in case we change our minds in a couple of years we're gonna keep our options open. I don't think either of us will ever do anything permanent anyway. I don't like the idea of making a choice and never being able to say I was wrong, lets do this instead. 
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  • torihindetorihinde
    This is my first so for us, we're not planning on being done. Just wanted to mention my mom had 5 kids via c-section and with the 5th she did have her tubes tied. It was no big deal, has had no issues. If you're not 100% sure though I agree with the other women - select another form of birth control until you make a final decision.
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