TTC After a Loss

DH told my ILs (his grandparents) to STFU.

Here's why:  https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/48158955.aspx (Summary: DH's grandpa told me my eggs were getting rotten.)

He called them and told them to just avoid talking about having babies and pregnancy at all. He said that I am still very upset about it and sometimes I blame myself for what happened so bringing it up and bugging me about it makes me feel worse.

He told them that we'll let them know when I am pregnant again but until then to just stop bringing it up, which is smart. I didn't even know what to say to them, so I love that he handled it so well and stood up for me. He is very close to his grandparents, he lived with them for a few years in college and he respects them a lot, so I know that was hard for him, but he's my hero and he always puts me first. I love that about him! 

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  • Way to go DH! You've got a good man :)
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  • Sounds like you have a wonderful husband! Good Job DH!
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  • I'm so happy your DH took charge of that. Yes
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    I'm so happy your DH took charge of that. Yes

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    yay for dh! 

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  • Woah, I had somehow missed that drama, and I had just posted about how supportive I thought your grandmother sounded.  I am glad that your DH is looking out for you.  You need more hugs, (((HUGS!)))
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  • Good for him!!!  That is great to have such support from your DH.  I am sorry that you have to deal with the comments from your in-laws...I know from personal experience how hard that is.  Hopefully they listen to your Dh and leave you alone about what is a private issue.
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  • Way to go to your DH!!!  So glad he said something to them!
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  • Good job DH!!!!

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  • Pats your DH on the back.. You do have a good man!!!!
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  • I'm so glad he said something to them.  Their comments were so rude!
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  • Hooray DH! I love it!
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  • Way to go DH!  I'm so glad he said something, because that was so uncalled for what they said to you.

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  • What a wonderful DH! :) 
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  • Way to go, DH!  What the grandparents did was completely unneccessary to say to you (in front of their friends no less), especially after they knew what you were going through. 

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  • Yay!!  Good for him.  I know it can't possibly be easy to tell someone that you love that they stepped WAAAYYY over the line (and were completely ignorant about the topic), but he totally stepped up and told them how it was going to be.  ((BIG HUGS)) to the both of you!

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  • YAY to your DH!  That's so sweet of him...you've got yourself a keeper!! 

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  • YAY for DH that must have been a hard thing to do but it was the right thing to do. Yes
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  • Oh Ginger I'm so glad he stood up for you, what a great guy! I can imagine it was hard but I hope they take it seriously and back off, you don't need any additional pressure. *HUGS* Hopefully it won't be long before they can start harassing you again in a good way. Fx!!!

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  • That's awesome! What a great DH!
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  • Yay DH! He is a hero for standing up for you.    I missed your original post as I was away over the weekend, but I can't believe how horrible your inlaws were! Who says that?!?!?!?
  • That is awesome of him. Casey sure as hell didn't do that when his family said similar things. 
  • What a wonderful( and esp after yesterdays pic very good looking) guy! That post from the other day upset me and my "old eggs" so I can't imagine how hard it was to sit through. I hope they butt out a bit for you!
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  • That was so good of him! A thoughtful dinner or some other treat is in order for your husband.  Glad to hear he's looking out for you.
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  • I read the post of your title and went "woo hoo!"

    Way to go to your DH for standing up for you to his family. Yes 

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    What a wonderful( and esp after yesterdays pic very good looking) guy! That post from the other day upset me and my "old eggs" so I can't imagine how hard it was to sit through. I hope they butt out a bit for you!

    I'm sorry reading that upset you, I should have put a warning about how harsh it was.

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  • Good for him!  You've got a great man, there! 

     

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  • I'm so glad he stood up to them for you. Their comments were so uncalled for.
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  • Aww, what a sweet DH! Good for him! :-) Glad that they won?t be bothering you or pressuring you anymore.

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  • Yay DH!
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  • Go DH, score some major brownie points for him.  Good for him for standing up and letting them know what they say is hurtful.
  • Glad to hear DH stood up for you.  What an awesome guy!

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  • (((HUGS))) good for your DH! You have found a keeper there! :)
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  • Good job DH!! I'm so glad he was supportive!
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  • Good job DH!  It is excellent that he stood up for you.  What a great guy!
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  • I am so happy he said something to them about what happened.  He's a keeper.  ;)
  • Yes I'm so glad to hear that!
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  • Go DH!
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