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Germanwife2b
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How often do you go with your gut?
Germanwife2b
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Tomorrow is my FET and we have chosen to put two in this time. I am getting REALLY excited for tomorrow. The only thing is that I feel like my gut tells me if I put two in, I will get two out. If I opt for one again, it won't work. We have already instructed them to thaw two, so that is what we are planning for, but I am freaking out just a little at the idea of twins. But I want to be pregnant again and my gut tells me that this is the way that it will happen.
Do you usually go with your gut?
My gut told me last time that the pregnancy wasn't right. I wasn't that surprised when I showed up for the u/s and there wasn't a heartbeat.
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Re: How often do you go with your gut?
Do you think you could handle twins? If so, I would just go ahead and transfer two!
Also, how many do you have let frozen? This would be a factor in my decision if say you only have 4 left, I would go with two!
I was scared to death of triplets, but knew my chances were pretty low transferring 1-2 since it never worked before. I went with it, since I knew I would deal with 3 if that was in the cards, because 3 was better then none. Lo and behold, only 1 stuck.
I think you need to take the pro's and con's and weigh everything out.
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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LO #1 - 1 unmedicated/self-monitored IUI w/ donor sperm.
LO #2 - 1 m/c, 2 BFNs, 4th IUI worked (unmedicated/self-monitored with new donor sperm).
Life is beautiful!
2 infertiles' journey to 2 pink lines (and a baby girl)
"our IF story"
It was DH who said "next time we are doing two". The doctor recommended two last time and DH said "No way- only one". So when the miscarriage happened, he changed his tune BIG time!
Oh, I don't think anyone is prepared for twins but certainly we would handle it. I am a high risk antepartum nurse, so my fears are probably bigger than they should be. But we could handle them and would think any baby we get to take home is a blessing.
We have three leftover and we are paying OOP for this cycle.
Hmmm- that possibility never came up. The doctor's just recommended two last time and we didn't listen. The quality before freezing of my leftover embies are not as high of quality as the one that was Patrick and the one that was the miscarriage. That plays a small role in my decision too.
Hmmm- that possibility never came up. The doctors just recommended two last time and we didn't listen. The quality before freezing of my leftover embies are not as high of quality as the one that was Patrick and the one that was the miscarriage. That plays a small role in my decision too.
I am of the belief that if your gut is an educated gut, then you get to trust said gut.
I also am of the belief that you already KNOW the answer in your heart, you just want us to twist your arm a little bit.
consider it twisted. You're making a wise and informed decision, IMO.
NOW, because I believe in full disclosure, I do want to point out/remind that these little buggers DO have the propensity to split on us. There are several examples of that on this board alone. I believe the frozen buggers are less inclined by 2% less than their fresh variatal, but it's a risk none the less. However, I believe in full disclosure to YOU, not to M. You don't need to share that chit with him. lol.
I wish you nothing but a smooth and uneventful transfer tomorrow. You and those ticks will be on my mind all day. ;-)
Ok- I am aware of that. I still think my gut is saying I won't get more than two out. But in my hypnotherapy session I pictured me holding only one baby with Martin and Patrick looking on. So, maybe my gut is full of shiiit??? Ha Ha Ha Ha!!!
the other tick was sleeping in the crib ;-P
You crazy lady you!!!
Tick one and tick two, huh?
My two real life examples. When I was 22, a recent college grad, I was offered a full time teaching position. I had a big, bad feeling about it, but, I did not have to life experience or another plan to otherwise realistically support myself. I took the job. . . And it turned out to be a big, bad situation for me. In hindsight, I really wish that I had at least talked to my parents about my feelings. Our IVF cycle was a roller coaster. I stimmed too fast, they had me coast for a day, the day of my ET, I was so stressed out about our dog (he came up to DC with us, when we tried to leave the motel room at 5:30am, he started barking. I was afraid DH would not be able to leave him, thus not be able to provide his, umm, sample. . . It was crazy and I made myself *sick*). Nothing had been textbook or gave me a positive feeling. I was already mentally preparing myself to cycle again. Well, I was wrong. You've met my LO--we got lucky and my gut was WAY off.
So, provided you are okay with twins, I say go for two.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
go with your gut, Melissa.
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