Nudity...

Ashleygoo · January 2011

How do you feel about your SO and yourself being naked around your kids? What age would you stop the nudity if you're alright with it now?

Personally, I hate it. I dont want DH walking around naked if Annabelle is around and I sure dont walk around naked with her. When I was breastfeeding, I would wear less, but since I stopped I dont feel comfortable being naked in any sense around her.

ajtjirsnow · January 2011

I don't mind myself being naked around my kids.. I don't walk around naked, but if I'm getting changed in DD1 walks in I don't care that much. But I don't like DH naked around DD1, but DD2 is still too little to notice. She is surprised by her own belly lol.

doremi29 · January 2011

I don't really care right now, but I won't like DH (or I) to be naked around DS much at all. It just weird me out. My aunt and uncle both sleep in the nude and their kids were early elementary-aged and still coming in on the weekends to jump in their parents bed. I'm just not down with that!

ajtjirsnow · January 2011

doremi29:
I don't really care right now, but I won't like DH (or I) to be naked around DS much at all. It just weird me out. My aunt and uncle both sleep in the nude and their kids were early elementary-aged and still coming in on the weekends to jump in their parents bed. I'm just not down with that!

eek! I wouldn't want my kids coming into bed with me naked. That is weird to me.

PinkPeony6210 · January 2011

DH does not walk around her if he is naked. If I am feeding her in our bedroom and he needs to get a pair of boxers out of the dresser, he tells me to cover her eyes. In regards to me, I really don't get undressed in front of her either. If I happen to be naked for a quick minute, I try and cover up as quickly as I can.

huber22 · January 2011

We'll probably be naked around him until he starts to notice.

CaitlinJ22 · January 2011

We take showers at night when they are in bed so they rarely see us naked. When I get dressed DS is usually watching morning TV so he never sees me naked. the few times he has he just says mommy belly button. Thats it. If we have to use the bathroom when he is around we are quick.

Breastfeeding to be is natural and DS sees my breasts, but not like I am flashing him I wouldn't feel comfortable with myself or DH taking showers with the kids at all later on. we dont do it now so I dont see it happening later either.

D_Nett86 · January 2011

My DH is not comfortable at all being naked around DS. It weirds him out. It doesn't bother me to be naked around him right now because he doesn't know what he's looking at. I even shower with him from time to time if we're in a hurry. Once he starts looking at me weird or asking questions I'll stop lol.

bakedlaurabean · January 2011

I find it very odd that people are uncomfortable being naked around a baby. I LOLed at covering DD's eyes when dad is naked. It's not like she knows what's going on. I don't think twice about being naked around DS. If he is awake and I need to change clothes or pee, I just do it. He doesn't even notice. I probably won't think it matters until he is around 2 or 3. Whenever he starts being more of a little boy and less baby.

Ashleygoo · January 2011

I'm so glad I'm not the minority! DH came from a family where they went skinny dipping until his early teens (they moved away from their house with the pool, so I'm sure had they stayed, it may of went on longer). I came from a house that is super conservative in most senses. I throw a huge fit every time DH walks around naked or gets out of the shower and Annabelle is in the room. It makes me feel so uncomfortable. He see's no issue with it. Its not like he picks her up or even touches her while naked, but the fact that she can see him makes me feel sooo weird. I absolutely hate it, and he thinks there's nothing wrong with it.

Ugh.

PinkPeony6210 · January 2011

bakedlaurabean:
I find it very odd that people are uncomfortable being naked around a baby. I LOLed at covering DD's eyes when dad is naked. It's not like she knows what's going on. I don't think twice about being naked around DS. If he is awake and I need to change clothes or pee, I just do it. He doesn't even notice. I probably won't think it matters until he is around 2 or 3. Whenever he starts being more of a little boy and less baby.

IMO, I think changing clothes and peeing is a bit different than being stark naked. I will walk around in my bra and underwear in front of DD, but I'm not comfortable with my vagina and breasts hanging out - even in front of DH.

IrishBrideND · January 2011

bakedlaurabean:
I find it very odd that people are uncomfortable being naked around a baby. I.

This. Its weird that people are worried about it now, IMO.

I don't know when we'll stop. I'll cross that bridge when we get there. But at 9 months? I cannot imagine this being a big deal. I think throwing a fit because your H is naked around a baby less than a year shows some deeper sexuality/body issues going on.

I am VERY conservative about this sort of thing. But a baby?!?

bakedlaurabean · January 2011

ErinKD:
bakedlaurabean:
I find it very odd that people are uncomfortable being naked around a baby. I LOLed at covering DD's eyes when dad is naked. It's not like she knows what's going on. I don't think twice about being naked around DS. If he is awake and I need to change clothes or pee, I just do it. He doesn't even notice. I probably won't think it matters until he is around 2 or 3. Whenever he starts being more of a little boy and less baby.

IMO, I think changing clothes and peeing is a bit different than being stark naked. I will walk around in my bra and underwear in front of DD, but I'm not comfortable with my vagina and breasts hanging out - even in front of DH.

I am fully naked with DS changing clothes sometimes. Or fresh out of the shower. I am really surprised that people think this matters.

Nichole1121 · January 2011

bakedlaurabean:
I find it very odd that people are uncomfortable being naked around a baby. I LOLed at covering DD's eyes when dad is naked. It's not like she knows what's going on. I don't think twice about being naked around DS. If he is awake and I need to change clothes or pee, I just do it. He doesn't even notice. I probably won't think it matters until he is around 2 or 3. Whenever he starts being more of a little boy and less baby.

This! I have taken showers with Thomas from the beginning.

Dreamsicle23 · January 2011

DH & I both don't give it a second thought right now. I'm sure at some point DS will start asking too many questions or someone will no longer be comfortable with it and that's when we'll stop.

DMCinderella · January 2011

I guess I grew up pretty conservative when it came to nudity in my house. Your body was nothing to be ashamed of but we def didn't walk around stark naked and neither did my parents. I'm pretty sure this scenario will play out the same as Nate gets older.

MrsEricH · January 2011

It weirds me out. If DD is screaming while I'm in the shower, I'll be quick, hop out, and go talk to her while I'm getting dressed, but I get dressed as quick as I can. If If she's being good, I'll leave her in the crib while I get dressed in our room.

She hates baths so DH sits in the tub with her while I bathe her, but he wears a bathing suit. He usually takes a shower after her bath is over (since he's already wet) and sometimes we walk by the door when he's in there, and she can see him showering- but that's it.

I mean, she doesn't know the difference right now anyway, but we're certainly not going to hang out naked.

sherina825 · January 2011

I think it depends on the sex of the child. I don't have an issue with nudity really in any form, but my son doesn't need to see my breasts at 16, you know? With my daughter, it's a different story. My H doesn't feel comfortable with E seeing him naked now, but he has nudity issues. It just depends on the person's comfort level.

two-pink-shoes · January 2011

DC2London:
I guess I'm just a weird crunchy hippie but I don't think twice about it. He's a BABY.

This, except I'm definitely not a hippie. Almost daily I put DS in his jumperoo in the bathroom doorway while I shower and flip up the opaque shower curtain so he can see me. He has no idea what naked means. I can't imagine doing anything to cover up until he is preschool age and starts to know the difference.

WildcatPrincess · January 2011

huber22:
We'll probably be naked around him until he starts to notice.

This, I think it's totally silly to feel weird about being naked around a 6-9 month old.

sherina825 · January 2011

ajtjirsnow:

doremi29:
I don't really care right now, but I won't like DH (or I) to be naked around DS much at all. It just weird me out. My aunt and uncle both sleep in the nude and their kids were early elementary-aged and still coming in on the weekends to jump in their parents bed. I'm just not down with that!

eek! I wouldn't want my kids coming into bed with me naked. That is weird to me.

That skeeves me out.

rlscheck · January 2011

We get dressed in front of LO and she sees us naked getting in and out of the shower. It doesn't bother me. We don't walk around the house naked or spend excessive amounts of time doing it. I don't know when we would "stop", we will worry about that when DD starts getting big enough to notice. I might take a shower with DD and if we have a boy maybe DH will shower with him, but that's probably about it.

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ToledoDeux · January 2011

This post is weirding me out. Frankly, I find it freakier to worry about a baby seeing you naked than to just let it all hang out.

Ashleygoo · January 2011

I dont understand why everyone who is alright with being naked around their LO is becoming so defensive. No one is attacking you, no one is saying you're silly or weird or anything at all. Some posters even mentioned that they would stop being naked around their LO once they or their LO are uncomfortable. What is wrong with me being uncomfortable about it now?

AbJams · January 2011

ToledoDeux:
This post is weirding me out. Frankly, I find it freakier to worry about a baby seeing you naked than to just let it all hang out.

I'm sorry, but THIS.

What exactly do you think is going through your infant's mind when they see their mom and/or dad naked?

Being from a European family, I know it's a little different, but there was no nudity taboo in our family when I was very small. I remember taking baths with my mom when I was a young toddler and it made no nevermind to me. No one was like, hanging out in the buff, but it was no big deal to change or whatever. When I was around 5, that's when my parents started being more private. I think that's around when I started asking questions. But we never had any "nudity is weird" kind of attitude in our house... my parents didn't care about us seeing nudity in movies or whatever half as much as they cared about us seeing gratuitous violence.

We have taken showers with DD, we both change in front of her... and DH is a SAHD so sometimes she has to come in the bathroom with him when he has to go... I don't think she is going to be damaged in any way...

Haven1 · January 2011

The bath/shower sharing is strange to me, I'll admit that.

I don't think much about it now, but we certainly don't get naked in front of them very often. In a few moments of desperation, I've taken a crying one into the bathroom to sit in the bouncy seat on the floor while I take a shower. I always feel like they're judging when I open the curtain though.

To break the tension, I feel compelled to point at my c/s scar and tell them "that's where you came out!" I figure, that'll avoid the whole penis/vagina where-babies-come-from talk later. Babies come from a scar on mommy's tummy! See? Easy peasy!

ToledoDeux · January 2011

Ashleygoo:
I dont understand why everyone who is alright with being naked around their LO is becoming so defensive. No one is attacking you, no one is saying you're silly or weird or anything at all. Some posters even mentioned that they would stop being naked around their LO once they or their LO are uncomfortable. What is wrong with me being uncomfortable about it now?

LOL - who's defensive?

Summadaze · January 2011

We had a childhood friend who's whole family would be naked in their house and backyard. It was WEIRD. They even did it while me and my sister were there.. Her STEPdad wore pants when we came over, but she said he was naked when we weren't there. uhm gross anyways, but he wasn't even HER dad. don't want to offend anyone, but thinking back on it all I can think of is the term fire crotch hehe. Her mom was obviously a natural red head! Oh and I was like 6 so my sister and her friend were 10... wtf

Ashleygoo · January 2011

ToledoDeux:
Ashleygoo:
I dont understand why everyone who is alright with being naked around their LO is becoming so defensive. No one is attacking you, no one is saying you're silly or weird or anything at all. Some posters even mentioned that they would stop being naked around their LO once they or their LO are uncomfortable. What is wrong with me being uncomfortable about it now?
LOL - who's defensive?

What else would be the point of pointing out that it is weird, freaky or silly to feel this way. I dont think its any more silly to feel uncomfortable being naked around you LO than it is to feel comfortable around it. (That's not completely pointed at you, you were just the last person to comment.)

Also, I dont think in any way is it damaging to be naked around your LO. I'm pretty sure they wont remember or care about what they saw as a tiny baby. I'm not trying to imply that. I just was saying that it makes me, personally, uncomfortable and I wondered if DH was in the majority (since he is in no way affected by Annabelle seeing him naked between the shower and dresser) or if I was the one in the majority.

katcarls · January 2011

ToledoDeux:
This post is weirding me out. Frankly, I find it freakier to worry about a baby seeing you naked than to just let it all hang out.

This. They're babies for god's sake.

We don't walk around naked all the time but I don't think twice about DS seeing us naked if we're getting out of the shower, changing, etc. I probably won't start rethinking that until he's closer to 2 or 3.

DC2London:
we certainly won't be sleeping naked when the kids could come get into bed with us. But I think if you treat the human body like a total taboo it makes children uncomfortable or ashamed about their own bodies. Just use common sense, don't run around naked with your six year old and don't have sex in front of your kids. If you need to change your clothes and your DS walks in, finish changing. If you don't draw attention to your naked body, I do NOT see the big deal.

I agree with this too.

BurnNurse · January 2011

DC2London:
I guess I'm just a weird crunchy hippie but I don't think twice about it. He's a BABY. It's not like he's staring at my crotch. I take him in the shower with me about twice a week bc it's easy to wash him off really quick and he LOVES to splash in the water (plus, often, it's the only way I can get a shower in). I would say by the time J is 2, if not before, that will stop. And we certainly won't be sleeping naked when the kids could come get into bed with us. But I think if you treat the human body like a total taboo it makes children uncomfortable or ashamed about their own bodies. Just use common sense, don't run around naked with your six year old and don't have sex in front of your kids. If you need to change your clothes and your DS walks in, finish changing. If you don't draw attention to your naked body, I do NOT see the big deal.

this...except Im not brave enough to shower with LO.

ajtjirsnow · January 2011

Haven1:
To break the tension, I feel compelled to point at my c/s scar and tell them "that's where you came out!" I figure, that'll avoid the whole penis/vagina where-babies-come-from talk later. Babies come from a scar on mommy's tummy! See? Easy peasy!

I tell my LO's this too. It certainly helps explain where babies come from. They grow inside mommy and then the doctor takes them out right here lol.

emsumm · January 2011

I'm throwing my lot in with those who think it's not a big deal

I honestly never even questioned being naked around the babies, and neither does my dh. But, now that I am thinking about it actively, I see no problem with it. We both take baths with them because it takes two people (at least for us, I bow down to those who bathe twins solo!), and I think it's unnecessary, for our family, to use bathing suits. They're bebes, all they see is mom and dad, they could care less whether we are nude or not.

Once they have some body awareness is the time to be more discreet, but I think that will evolve with their own desire to be more private. I guess we're crazy hippies, too!

bakedlaurabean · January 2011

Ashleygoo:
I dont understand why everyone who is alright with being naked around their LO is becoming so defensive. No one is attacking you, no one is saying you're silly or weird or anything at all. Some posters even mentioned that they would stop being naked around their LO once they or their LO are uncomfortable. What is wrong with me being uncomfortable about it now?

Not a single person is being defensive. Thinking it's completely weird that people are uncomfortable being naked around a baby is not defensive at all. I don't feel attacked at all and I highly doubt anyone else does.

There's nothing "wrong" with you being uncomfortable now I guess, it just seems so strange to me that it would even cross someone's mind to have an issue with it. Once DS is old enough to notice, that changes the dynamic and makes it completely different than right now when he's a baby.

Hailstorm20 · January 2011

katcarls:
ToledoDeux:
This post is weirding me out. Frankly, I find it freakier to worry about a baby seeing you naked than to just let it all hang out.
This. They're babies for god's sake.
We don't walk around naked all the time but I don't think twice about DS seeing us naked if we're getting out of the shower, changing, etc. I probably won't start rethinking that until he's closer to 2 or 3.
DC2London:
we certainly won't be sleeping naked when the kids could come get into bed with us. But I think if you treat the human body like a total taboo it makes children uncomfortable or ashamed about their own bodies. Just use common sense, don't run around naked with your six year old and don't have sex in front of your kids. If you need to change your clothes and your DS walks in, finish changing. If you don't draw attention to your naked body, I do NOT see the big deal.

I agree with this too.

All of this! I was raised believing that the body is beautiful. Thanks hippie parents I want to pass this on to my children as well because I want them to be comfortable in their own skin and to not get embarrassed or think its a huge deal when they see someones naked parts.

Now_a_Swearingen · January 2011

bakedlaurabean:
I find it very odd that people are uncomfortable being naked around a baby. I LOLed at covering DD's eyes when dad is naked. It's not like she knows what's going on. I don't think twice about being naked around DS. If he is awake and I need to change clothes or pee, I just do it. He doesn't even notice. I probably won't think it matters until he is around 2 or 3. Whenever he starts being more of a little boy and less baby.

This. I lol'd too and said "really?" I guess I just don't care. It's not like I parade around naked, but if I happen to be out of the shower, peeing, changing I don't care. My husband doesn't parade either, but if he's fresh out of the shower he'll be naked in front of DD. He has said he won't shower with her when she gets a bit bigger which is fine, I'll step in. But nudity isn't a bad thing

rareskirt · January 2011

I also don't see what the big deal is. I do think once they reach a certain age you shouldn't be walking around naked but right now they don't even know what is going on. I think we may stop once he is potty training just because I think he may start looking and wondering how he is different from me or us in general. But right now we both have showered and taken baths with him. We change in front of him, half the time he doesn't even look at us. I often put him in his bouncer so I can shower and I don't run for the towel as soon as I'm done to cover up. And when I was breast feeding If I was at homes at times I would take my top off. And to pump I would too. If this tells you anything I have pumped in the car too many times to count and didn't even think twice about it and didn't or cover up. I think it is only sexual if you make it sexual.

klcl8981 · January 2011

I know my mother was naked around me and my 4 siblings when we were children. She still would have no shame if one of us walked in on her. I guess she's just over it... With 5 kids, they're all bound to see you naked, and walk in on you over and over again.

I remember ONE time where I was in the shower with her, and I pointed to her pubic hair and asked her what it was. It was at that point she must have realized I was too old, because I don't remember ever doing that again. LOL. And, omg, wish I could forget!

I won't let my kids see me naked beyond probably 2 years or something. I just don't want them to see/remember my horrible body. Or ask me about my demolished stretch mark filled belly like I did with my mom. I mean, if it's a situation where covering up somehow is an issue, then whatever. It won't kill them, or me.

I have never seen my father naked. Nor my stepfather (whose been around since I was 1). I'm not sure how DH feels about covering up in front of DS. I've told him that I felt weird changing in front of DS where my boobs are flopping all over, and he agrees that 'he's just a baby'. I can't imagine he has any shame. I just don't even want to see MYSELF naked!!!

2mommiesinoh · January 2011

I am practically a nudist...there I admitted it.

But seriously I am naked around Ky all of the time. I sleep naked and you can sure bet when I was getting up a million times in the middle of the night I did not get dressed to handle it. DW did not get dressed either when it was her turn. I usually wear pants around the house but hardly ever a shirt/bra. When it starts to be an issue I will start wearing a shirt. DW is more modest than me and usually wears a shirt around the house with her pj pants.

sugarisamazing · January 2011

I'm a very naked person- it comes from me being so warm all the time, so the more naked the more comfortable I am. I see nothing of it to be naked when LO is around. B is not about the naked. She is fully clothes at (almost) all times, just not comfortable with the nudity like I am.

I can't speak for XH, but I'm assuming he isn't naked in front of LO much if at all. (Although this has intrigued me to ask him)

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