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Daycare - WWYD?

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My daycare provider is a woman that we met through my husband's best friend (his MIL).  DD is 2 and she's been there since she was a newborn. Lately, my daycare provider has been experiencing a lot of situations where she needs to have someone fill in for her. Many times it's her 16 year old daughter.  I do think that they both have my daughter's best interest at heart and trust them, however, I just feel as though daycare has taken a back seat in her life.  Yet, when I mention this to her, I am faced with a barrage of information about her finanical issues and many times feel guilty that I am even thinking about removing DD.  

 

I have been researching other daycare providers in my area and I am thinking about removing DD from our current one.  However, I am so terrified of having this conversation! Any tips or pointers on how to structure the conversation since I know that there will be tears and uncomfortableness?  Additionally, have any of you removed your DC from daycare?  How did they handle it?

 

Any help is appreciated, I just feel that this is the best move for my family, but I'm such a sissy. 

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Re: Daycare - WWYD?

  • mtnbride1mtnbride1
    I feel for you!  But it sounds like it's not the best situation for DD and that's who you have to be most concerned about.  I would keep the conversation very matter-of-fact and not allow her to barrage you with her own issues.  Sure, you will feel guilty, but wouldn't you also feel guilty if you kept DD in a situation like that?  Maybe your husband can help broach the subject too. 
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  • aforstaforst member
    I agree w/ pp.  I'm sure you know that your DD has to be the priority.  I can totally understand dreading having that convo though. Like pp said, I would just keep it very matter-of-fact.  Tell her that you understand she is having some issues that are causing her to need to be away from daycare, and that's totally understandable.  I would tell her, however, that you pay HER to watch your child, not her 16 y/o daughter.  I would just tell her that you don't feel this is working out for your family anymore and will be moving DD.  I also agree w/ pp, I would make my DH do it. Stick out tongue He's much better at confrontation than I am.  Also, maybe she wouldn't go into so much detail w/ him.
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  • jessamommy2jessamommy2
    I would tell her that my mom or mom in law can now watch her full time or that I am now going to be able to work from home and can watch her or that Im going to be able to be a stay at home mom now.  oh well..... I know lying isnt the best but thats what i would do..
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  • kyfirewifekyfirewife member
    How long has this been going on? Have you talked to her about the situation? Any idea if there's any end in sight?

    It's a rough situation, but if you really like her, I'd hate for you to pull DD for a very temporary issue, only to perhaps not be happy with the next DCP you find, you know?

    And I guess I never thought about it, but with an in-home DCP, there's bound to be some time when they have someone fill in, right? We all have stuff go on at certain times in our lives.

    I guess my initial reaction is just that if you otherwise really like her, to try to hold on a little longer, and see if the issue will resolve.

    GL!

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