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How to handle temper tantrums?

LilyB2521LilyB2521 member
in Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months

As we're approching 2, I need help when DD throws a temper tantrum, I'm just not sure how to handle it.

This just started.  It's been things like wanting to walk instead of ride in the stroller, which normall would be fine, but she doesn't like to walk on certain tile floors, so when we're at Kohl's for example, she'll only walk on the carpet, and throw a fit when we pick her up or try to get her to cross the main isle!  Or lately when she doesn't get her way, she'll throw herself on the floor screaming, or if we're holding her she'll throw her body around kicking.  I know that this behavior is normal, I just don't know how to handle it...advice?  Even book/website recommendations or anything?  Thanks.

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Re: How to handle temper tantrums?

  • DDearingerDDearinger

    My friend just gave me a book recommendation that you may want to check out as well.  It's called The Parenting Book by John Rosemond.

    Here's a link to a little review she just did on it if you want to see what it's about.  I'm sure I won't agree with everything the book says, but to me it sounds like a good place to start. 

    GL!

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  • AugustAnnAugustAnn

    Ugh, I don't know, but I can't wait to read the responses to this because we're in the same boat-- only my LO is 15 months and she has started doing this sometimes. When we're in the store and she throws herself on the ground, I just stand there and stare at her. I pretty much just refuse to acknowledge it, and she winds herself down after a minute. (Of course, I move her away from high traffic areas so she can commence her meltdown in peace.) Sometimes I try kneeling down to her level, putting her in my lap, and holding her arms down. She just screams herself silly and then calms down. 

    I also just posted a question about disciplining a 2yo because I watch a little boy twice a week. He has had one meltdown in the store and I pretty much did the same thing, except I also said, "G*, you need to calm down and use your inside voice," over and over again.

    I guess I just don't know what to do either. :/  

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  • Hot Sauce on a StickHot Sauce on a Stick

    Ignore her. Like PP said, make sure she's in a safe place and don't look at her. (Obviously, you'll want to keep an eye on her, but I would always pretend like I was browsing the items near to where he was on the ground screaming.)

    Keep saying things like, "I know you're upset, but screaming isn't going to make it any better." or "I want to help you feel better, but you need to stop screaming first."

    This isn't based on a book or a "system" but is based on my experiences with DS.

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  • M+K=3M+K=3
    DS has started this too. I have found that counting works for him. Essentially I count to three slowly. If I get to three he's disciplined. Mainly removal from the item or situation that is causing the meltdown. This is has worked tremendously with the falling out scenarios.
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  • Hot Sauce on a StickHot Sauce on a Stick

    imageM+K=3:
    DS has started this too. I have found that counting works for him. Essentially I count to three slowly. If I get to three he's disciplined. Mainly removal from the item or situation that is causing the meltdown. This is has worked tremendously with the falling out scenarios.

    And it teaches them to count! My DS would count to three all the time, lmao Smile

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