will this be a big issue later on?

roaringrock · January 2011

ginny and I sleep together every night now. for whatever reason the heat in the house keeps shutting down (we've had every "expert" look at the boiler and nobody can figure out the problem.) two of us in a twin bed with lots of wool and polar fleece blankets is pretty cozy.

so my room is now 'ginny's room'. my bed is now 'ginny's bed'. the little girl is so used sleeping with me I'm afraid of what's to come when it's time to go back to her own space. I'm terrified actually. she's incredibly attached to me (for obvious reasons) and I suspect issues down the road.

I could always dish out the $13,000 one guy wants so he can build another chimney to fix the problem. yeah, ok. $13,000...

dundasgirl · January 2011

As an aside...I wish we lived closer! I would get DH to totally help you out. Even if you were in Canada, he could probably get some help for your boiler.

I personally feel that bed sharing is fine for as long as it works. You may have an issue later trying to get her to sleep alone, but I wouldn't worry about it right now. You have to do what you have to do...keeping warm is clearly a priority.

Have you thought about getting an alternative source for heat? A pellet stove? Or an electric space heater or fireplace? Is natural gas available where you are?

OrangeSmoke · January 2011

Obviously I'm talking out of my a$$ here...

But I would put this under "cross this bridge when I come to it" problem. Having her sleep alone is not an option right now esp given how cold it's been and I'm assuming you don't have $13k hidden in the chimney?

I used to sleep with my grandma a LOT when I was a chld, and I turned out just fine (no comments, please).

roaringrock · January 2011

the "problem" is we both love the bed sharing -- cozy and sweet! I'm just anticipating a bit of trouble when spring comes.

dundas! come down for the weekend! we have new marimekko sheets for ya!

EastCoastBride · January 2011

Here's my take... do what works for you now and, as said, cross that bridge when you come to it.

Kids are smart and we can talk to kids in a way to help them prepare for change.

Whether it's in the spring, or next year, or 2 years from now - when you feel you need to get her back in her own bed, TALK to her about it. How "big girls" sleep in their own bed, or whatever approach you think will work.

Give her time to process it. Maybe even give it to her to make the choice on when she does it.

I think about a friend of mine and getting her DD to give up her paci. She didn't give it up until she ws 3, but by then, she was MORE than old enough to get the concept of "big girls don't use paci's. When you turn 3, it's going to be time to stop using it.". I can't say it went 100% perfectly, but it wasn't horrendous either because she understood what was going on and she had a say in the process.

I even think of my son this weekend. He's 25 months. He JUST figured how to climb out of his crib. After the 2nd time, I told him "no no, we don't climb out of the crib. You have to stay in it until mommy or daddy come and get you.".

At one point DH did the following, and the next day I did it too- we each asked him "can you show us how you got out?" and he says "yes" and the proceeded to climb out. But we both reiterated "You can't do this unless we're here. You have to stay in your crib.".

It's only been 3 days - but so far, he hasn't climbed out on his own since. I KNOW he understands what we're telling him.

I just think you can talk to her about sleeping in her own bed when you feel it's time. She may not be entirely happy about it - but if you can involve her in the process, it may help the transition go a little smoother.

LucyPevensie · January 2011

Totally agree with ECB. Every day these brilliant toddlers comprehend more and more; and at some point you can talk it over with her/explain when it's time for a change. You guys can cross this bridge later - big hoopla over a new princess themed room (or whatever) - it will work itself out (and the big hoopla over princess themed room is what worked for my sister when she moved her older cosleeper into her own room.) Enjoy this special time cuddling with G, and don't worry about it.

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