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New mom vs mom vs MIL

Pamela05Pamela05
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My baby is 4 days old. My mom is here for the week. MIL and FIL came yesterday for the night. Ben had a rough night and after finally getting 4 hrs of sleep I woke up faint and nauseous. MIL is sitting here telling me I need to just let him cry and if he doesn't sleep long enough give him carnation/PET milk. I tried explaining why I needed to wake him to feed after the 4 hrs because his blood sugar could get low and he's too young to realize. She's diabetic so she should understand. He really is a good baby and doesn't cry just to cry (at least not yet). Thankfully my mom came in and distracted MiL so I could say I needed a nap and kicked them all out before the tears started. Now I'm wanting a real breakfast not the donuts FIL brought but don't know how to call in my mom without offending MiL. Thankfully they leave soon.
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  • Firedancer1013Firedancer1013
    That stinks :(  The last thing you need to be worrying about is other people- forget about offending them, take care of you and baby.  Hope it gets better and they head out soon.
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  • kiley&mattkiley&matt
    Oh you poor thing!  Don't be afraid to ask for your mom or for a decent breakfast.  You need your strength so you can heal and recover.  It's too bad that you have to worry about offending your in laws when you really need to be focusing on learning how to be a mother and getting rest.  Do what's best for you, and don't worry how it will look to others for right now.  You can always apologize in a few weeks if they seem offended by anything you do or say right now.  They'll forgive you - you just had a baby.  And setting boundaries now (if you have the strength), might actually be a good thing.  Good luck and get some sleep!
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  • wishin&hopin2008wishin&hopin2008 member
    Can you send your Mom a text message?
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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member

    Just call your mom.  You have to do what is best for yourself and your baby.  If the ILs feelings get hurt in the process, oh well.  I guarantee it will not be the last.  Trust me the world won't end if their feelings are hurt and no I do not htink you need to aplogize later.  You need your mom now, not them and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. 

    Oh and your MIL is out of her mind with that kind  of advice. 

     

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  • kimskikimski member
    This is the kind of crap that I'm worried about as well but I don't think I'm going to be as nice and tactful as you've been. i'll probably just tell people to get the hell out. ;)
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  • Lucky_DragonflyLucky_Dragonfly member

    sorry but you MIL is a douche to suggest letting a 4 day old baby CIO!!! all babies need to eat every 2-4hrs.

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  • Pamela05Pamela05
    All is good. Called in DH and had him make me eggs while my mom distracted MIL. She means well but really is uneducated (did not graduate high school). Somehow 3 of her 4 kids turned out really smart and productive though, PET milk and all. I did send my mom a text last night when she was upstairs to come answer spitup questions.
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  • JAnalynn3767JAnalynn3767

    you do what you need to do to take of yourself and your new family!!

     As my sister told me the other day ?nobody stays mad at you for very long, when you have a baby? they want to be able to see him. 

    And anyway you can always blame it on the hormones!


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