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April 2011 Moms
Any single parents out there?
I just ended things with my boyfriend a week ago and he has decided we shouldnt talk and wants nothing to so with our baby; not that i wish that on anyone but is there someone who is goin through the same situation?
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Re: Any single parents out there?
In case you haven't checked, you might want to also try the single parents message board. Depending on where you live, your city might also have some support groups where you can meet and arrange playdates with other single moms and dads.
I wish you the best in your situation!
i will be a single mom.
i think women are extremely strong. We bare all things. Know that you are not alone. That you can do this, and your child will have a loving mother.
the single parenting board is mostly about people that have had invetro or others argueing about child support. i stay far away from that board.
try meetup.com They have single parent groups all over.
Best of luck to you!
I'm in the same situation. Being pregnant and alone is the hardest thing I've ever done - and I'm sure being a single mother will be even more difficult. It's really hard not having a mate to lean on and share excitement with. I hope you have a supportive family. While it's not the same as no one else is your child's parent (and therefore responsibility), it's good to have a strong support system; you'll need it.
Try your best to remain positive. It's difficult to do in the circumstance, I know, but you don't want to miss out on your baby's development because of his/her jerk father. You can't get those times back; jerk father may choose to miss them, but you don't want to as well because of him.
If you have questions re: custody issues/child support, etc. Single Parents board may be a good place for general information, but your best bet is to consult a lawyer in your state to plan for your baby's arrival the best you can.
Good luck!
Baby #4; 7/7/2018
This! It really felt like I was the only one!
yay I was kind of thinking the same! it is nice to talk on a board other than single parents because hey we're just moms too and I don't always feel like talking about just doing it alone. They are very supportive though!
I'll be honest. If the father of my baby came to me and said that he wanted nothing to do with us and he'd stay around long enough to sign over his rights, I'd take it in a heartbeat and never look back. But since he is trying to come around and make my life hell, he's going to have to step up. It's all or nothing. He's going to have to prove that he's fit enough to be a father. I don't want him to come and go as he pleases and have a heartbroken kid everytime it happens. But this is just my opinion.
Try to keep in mind what is best for your child. The support isn't for you, it's for the baby. Unfortunately it sounds like your child's father isn't a good person and is not planning on playing a role in his/her life. I agree with you that you shouldn't beg or try to force that issue, you can't control his involvement.
But you can force him to financially support his child, and that is his legal obligation, even if he chooses to ignore his moral one. If he wishes to not be contacted by you or know about his child, like you said, it's his loss. But you can file with your state department of social services to get child support garnished from his paycheck. You don't want to put un-needed stress on yourself or have your child do without because his/her father isn't involved in their life.
Just something to think about.