Ds crying..

bed0909 · January 2011

I don't get upset when my dS cries,we are sleep training and he cries for about 35 mins and it doesn't bother me. My dh is on pins & needles till he falls asleep and I could care less. I worried that I don't care for him enough, I care for his needs, and tell him I love him but I don't feel any differently with him then with the children I nanny for. He is just with me 24/7. I was dig with pdd right after birth of ds and I am taking something for it . I haven't been able to talk to a therapist bc my insurance changed I am kinda hopping that someone else is feeling this way and could offer some guidance

calliTyler · January 2011

Right there with you. I do EVERYTHING for him... I EBF, I do almost every diaper change, all his feedings, bath time, bed time... the whole deal. So like you, I take care of all his needs and I love him to bits and pieces, but I definitely have times where I feel like I could care less when he is crying. I haven't been diagnosed with PPD, but I have an appointment for it first thing in the morning...

I guess I don't really have any advice to offer, but just know that you aren't alone in feeling like that! And if you ever need to vent, I'm all ears!

bed0909 · January 2011

Thanks..you the first person that hasn't just looked at me when I told them that. Good luck with your dr appt!

mrsbnlmel · January 2011

I understand this feeling. I don't know how old your child is but for me this got better with time.

I remember when we first brought the baby home I felt like the worst mother in the world because I felt like I loved the dog more than my own child. It sounds terrible, even now, to type it. It was just that my dog was by my side, my best friend for 10 years. We had history. We had built a relationship. And then there was this little baby we brought home from the hospital. I was supposed to love him more than life itself and I just felt like he was a stranger. I would rock him at night and it felt just like when I was babysitting- like his parents would be home any minute.

Bonding takes time. Relationships and history and memories aren't there in the beginning. It takes time. PPD puts up walls in forming these things as well. It does come though, with time and recovery. People who haven't struggled with PPD don't get it. They never will. I can say that I totally do though. You aren't alone.

jkelly41 · January 2011

I experienced this with my DS. I hated feeling that way, but it eventually went away and I became totally enamored with him around 3 months. Often, if someone else was around, I would just automatically let them take care of him. I remember just sitting on the couch watching- so you aren't alone.

With my DD, it is so different although I have PPD again. I can't kiss on her enough, but my PPD has presented itself in other ways. Anger, extreme sadness.

Just hang in there!

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