Babies: 9 - 12 Months

Question from a 0-3 monther....

Be honest... When did things get better? DS only gives me 2-3 hour stretches of sleep at night and cries when I put him down. I am tired and I feel like there is no end in sight. I am also so afraid of starting bad habits that will be hard to break. (i.e. - sleeping in Rock and Play in our room and not his crib, carrying him around with me, etc.) Thanks in advance. I just need someone to tell me things really do get better before I lose my mind.

 

Re: Question from a 0-3 monther....

  • Things didn't turn the corner for us until 6-7 months. And then we have good nights and bad nights. Right now we are in bad nights, she wakes up 4-5x a night. She goes back to sleep but I have to go in there and lay her back down.
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  • Ours improved drastically by the 3 month mark I think.

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  • Yes, it will get better!! You're in the hardest part right now...the newborn fog. It will go back and forth for awhile before it gets too consistent. For us, it got better consistently around 4 1/2 months or so. We still have some bad nights, but it is more good than bad. Hang in there, it's sooooo worth it. Try to get some help, and sleep as much as you can during the day too.
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  • It seems like, for most people, 8-12 weeks is the age when everything starts to take a turn for the better. Hang in there, you're almost there! But be realistic- your baby probably will still wake every 3-ish hours for then next couple of months. That's normal, and expected.

    Dont worry about bad habits- your baby CANNOT develop bad habits as a newborn (not until around a year, or later). Do whatever you need to do to keep your baby happy, including holding him as much as he wants and feeding him as often as he wants. 

  • Probably around the 2-3 month mark.

    But, do NOT worry about forming "bad habits". The first three months are all about survival, you do what you have to do and tell anyone warning you about "bad habits" to suck it.

    X slept wherever worked best at the time, sometimes we coslept, sometimes he'd sleep in his swing, around 2 months he wasn't as picky and finally would go into the cosleeper every night, which he was in until he was 6 months old. We transfered him to the crib in the nursery in one night with no crying or issues at all. Seriously, just follow your instincts and do whatever works (safely of course), you'll all be much happier.

    Edit: I also want to add that you can't hold him too much, you are not going to spoil him! Do you have a moby? That was a lifesaver for me when X was colicky.

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    Ours improved drastically by the 3 month mark I think.
    This, its always harder certain days more than others... for me the first night home was SO hard, and that whole first few months I was running on fumes. I eventually got used to it but at 3 months when they start getting more mobile and they can start to support their heads and sit up and they start to smile more and laugh... its so worth it! Don't worry about spoiling them either, I held on to DS all the time, I heard its good for them :)
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  • Around the 3 month mark things got much better. As pp indicated don't worry about developing "bad habits" do what you must to survive per say.
  • 3 months and got better when she started daycare and got into routines..

    trully is the hardest part, and the fun is comming soon.

    I know you didn't ask, but sometimes I miss the cuddling of those first months, even if I was zombie. You are on the safe side in terms of habits now. Your son needs to know that you are there for him. I would worry about the habits after 5 or 6 months.

    hang in mama! time will fly by!

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  • Aww, look at your adorable little guy!

    Yes, it gets better.  For me, BFing got tolerable at 6 weeks and I liked it by 8 weeks, which really helped me not be so stressed/tired/crabby/hormonal.  My DS still doesn't sleep well most nights, but it gets easier to deal with the lack of sleep too, IMO.  My body just got used to it.  

    I don't think there is anything such as "creating bad habits" at this age.  If he wants to be held and carried around during the day, hold him.  (Do you wear him?  That's the only way I could get anything done at that age.) If he sleeps better next to you in the R&P, let him.  You just need to do what you need to do to get through the day/night right now.   Hang in there - you are doing a great job and it gets easier!  Soon you'll be posting here about how big your LO is and how he won't even let you hold and cuddle him for more than a minute anymore!  Sniff, sniff!  

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  • somewhere around 3-4 months I thought "this is fun" not "this is SO hard" so give it time and it will get ALOT easier

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    It seems like, for most people, 8-12 weeks is the age when everything starts to take a turn for the better. Hang in there, you're almost there! But be realistic- your baby probably will still wake every 3-ish hours for then next couple of months. That's normal, and expected.

    Dont worry about bad habits- your baby CANNOT develop bad habits as a newborn (not until around a year, or later). Do whatever you need to do to keep your baby happy, including holding him as much as he wants and feeding him as often as he wants. 

    Do what you must to get by. When I had to go back to work DD slept in her swing for almost 2 months while SO and I slept on the floor in front of it. That was the only way she would sleep so that's what we had to do so I wouldn't be a complete zombie the next day! When she woke up for feedings I would BF and keep her there unless she was too squirmy where I would put her back in the swing. I think it was around 3-4 months when she got better and now we are back at a waking up phase. So there are good and bad days but it will get better!

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  • Things got better for us around the 8-10 weeks mark.  He slept in the Rock N Play until he was 4 months old and transitioned to the crib fairly easily. 

    At this point don't worry so much about creating bad habits.  Just do what you need to do to get along and keep your sanity.  If he wants to be held, hold him.  If he sleeps well in the RNP then let him sleep there.  Just go with it.  When you see things starting to improve then think about making changes but, until then, you just need to be in "survival mode".  

    Don't worry.  Change is on the way! 


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  • Hang in there...for us, things got noticeably better at the 2 month mark and then improved even more at 3 months. 
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  • Hang in there!  Things got a LOT better for us at about 6 weeks.  The best thing ever for us was the miracle blanket.  We didn't realize how much our kiddo needed a tight swaddle that he couldn't break out of....once he had that he started sleeping 6-8 hour stretches at night.  Good luck Mama!!!
  • Around 6 weeks. Btw she slept in her bouncer until she was 3 months. It wasn't hard to break.
  • Things were getting good around 6 months but then teething started and hasn't stopped, its a new level of okay though but to be honest I haven't slept more than 4 hours straight since before I was pregnant, I think once I got 5.5 hrs straight. I don't what you mean by carrying him around since I practice attachment parenting, unless he's playing he is on my back or hip.
  • Honestly? 6 months, I think. 

    For the first 2 months, she would only sleep on my chest. And I refused to take her into our bed, so I slept in a recliner.

    For months 3 and 4, it was summer and we only have a window unit a/c, so she slept in our bedroom (it's 18' x 24', so it was fine for us) in her pack n play. 

    Once she hit 4 months she was in her crib. We did CIO around 4 and a half months, and it worked fairly well.

    She woke up a couple times/night until 6 months, then once/night until 9 months. Now she finally STTN.

    At 6 months, though, she was just easier. More interactive and fun, it felt.

    Hang in there - I think I ran on fumes for the first 3 months. It's amazing what a mom's body can handle! I forget all about it unless I force myself to look back on it, though. 

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