shower invite question

soon to be Mrs. Connolly · January 2011

I am in the process of giving a list of names to my sister for her to invite to my shower. I am a teacher and on my direct teaching team is one guy and 3 ladies. Obviously, I will not be inviting th guy to an all female shower! However, 2 of the ladies have been on the team with me for a while so I am close with them. The third just joined the team this school year. she is quiet and therefore we dont't a real lot. I feel weird inviting her but I also feel weird not inviting her if I am inviting the other two from my team. What would you do?

KariMichael · January 2011

I would invite her, you do have to work with her and not inviting could make that situation odd. Its not like its a decision between the whole office or someof the office, its just one person... And if it makes her feel odd, its up to her to come.

bride2be.austin · January 2011

KariMichael:
I would invite her, you do have to work with her and not inviting could make that situation odd. Its not like its a decision between the whole office or someof the office, its just one person... And if it makes her feel odd, its up to her to come.

this!

kammmmay · January 2011

I think it would depend on how large your baby shower is. If its just a small, close friend gathering, i wouldn't invite her. But if its a larger one, i definitely would. Sending an invitation doesn't necessarily mean she will come.

Shelly203 · January 2011

Are you having a shower at work? I was a teacher when I was pregnant with DS, and the social committee threw a baby shower. If you are having one at work, everyone would be included in that one and then you wouldn't have to invite her to another one. If you aren't having one, I would definitely invite her.

rickandcaitlin · January 2011

If it is larger I would invite her. She may not even come.

croberts22 · January 2011

How would you feel if the situation was reversed? Would you expect to be invited to her baby shower? If you would expect to be invited to her's, you should invite her to yours. My dad actually gave me this advice when I was trying to decide about inviting a few people to my shower.

JMU_Bride09 · January 2011

I dealt with this issue when sending out wedding invitations...yes, if you invite one or more people from a group, the polite thing to do is to invite the entire group. She may decline since she doesn't know you all that well. But if she comes, she'll probably just hang out with the other two ladies from the group, which is fine.

mrsV719 · January 2011

Shelly203:
Are you having a shower at work? I was a teacher when I was pregnant with DS, and the social committee threw a baby shower. If you are having one at work, everyone would be included in that one and then you wouldn't have to invite her to another one. If you aren't having one, I would definitely invite her.

This. I am having a work shower so I am not inviting anyone from work to my "friends and family" shower (even my assistant teacher).

flutepharm87 · January 2011

I would also extend the invite. She doesn't have to come, but it'll save you the awkwardness of dealing with her at work when you've invited all of your other female co-workers. Better not to offend anyone if you can avoid it (and I'm not sure you can in this situation).

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