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Let's play - ask me anything

MyColonyNJMyColonyNJ
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Slow night it seems.  So, let's play "ask Amy anything"  so....go
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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member
    How old and where were you when you got your V card punched?
    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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  • MyColonyNJMyColonyNJ

    imagehowleyshell:
    How old and where were you when you got your V card punched?

    19, and was pregnant 2 months later.  go me ;(

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  • TheSkimmyTheSkimmy member
    How many are in your team photo? (your #) lol Howley and I go right for the good ones tonight!
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    Married 8.13.2005, M/C 12/8/06- 5 weeks, M/C 2/27/07- 7 weeks, M/C w/ D&C 8/10/09-6.5 weeks *Charles Lawrence born 5/2/08 @ 3:14am, 7lb 8oz, 20.5 inches. Clomid, Crinone and baby aspirin. *Alexandra Claire born 9/14/10 @ 9:52am 6lb 14oz, 20.5 inches. Femara, Crinone and baby aspirin. Lilypie Fourth Birthday tickers
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  • marcuejmarcuej member
    When can we finally see a picture of Lil J's face? 
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  • MyColonyNJMyColonyNJ

    imageTheSkimmy:
    How many are in your team photo? (your #) lol Howley and I go right for the good ones tonight!

    4

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  • MyColonyNJMyColonyNJ

    imagemarcuej:
    When can we finally see a picture of Lil J's face? 

    gosh - I REALLY wish I knew.  He has been with us for almost 2 years.  2 years!!!  His mother's rights have not been terminated yet.  And, even after termination (which will happen, no doubt), it could be 6-9 months until finalization.

    But, when it happens - I will be posting HUGE pics of him.  Promise!

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  • MagoyMagoy

    I've followed your journey w/ Lil J on the adoption board.  I know it hasn't always been puppies and rainbows.  I know you love him to pieces, that much is obvious :)

    But, what advice do you have for someone (ME!) thinking seriously about entering the foster arena?  I'm scared sh!tless to start down that path but am pretty sure it's the only reasonable path for us that will lead to more kids.  So, I know how good it can be in the long run and the rewards can potentially be great.  But what about the rest?  The "bad and ugly" part of the equation...

    Feel free to PM me if you don't want to go into it all here.

    Thanks!

    Amy 

    After THREE years, our IVF miracle is here!!!
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  • MyColonyNJMyColonyNJ
    imageMagoy:

    I've followed your journey w/ Lil J on the adoption board.  I know it hasn't always been puppies and rainbows.  I know you love him to pieces, that much is obvious :)

    But, what advice do you have for someone (ME!) thinking seriously about entering the foster arena?  I'm scared sh!tless to start down that path but am pretty sure it's the only reasonable path for us that will lead to more kids.  So, I know how good it can be in the long run and the rewards can potentially be great.  But what about the rest?  The "bad and ugly" part of the equation...

    Feel free to PM me if you don't want to go into it all here.

    Thanks!

    Amy 

    I am not gonna lie - it is one of the hardest yet rewarding things that we have ever done.  Although I knew it would be "hard", I really was not prepared how much it would hurt.  I love Lil J like he is my own....but he is NOT my own.  At least not yet.

    The court system sucks, judges don't want to lose on appeal, so they give in to many petty requests from the bios just to make sure they can say at the end "I gave them several chances yada yada yada"

    Caseworkers are just employees.  Sure, I am sure that they started working for CPS because they wanted to help children.  But, in the end - it is just a job.  Some do it better than others.  Some care, some don't.  Some are on top of paperwork, some aren't

    We have had 5 caseworkers since March '09, and there were more than a few that were horrible.  We had paperwork lost, info not given to us which would have been helpful to Lil J's care, etc.

    We finally have a great caseworker and she seems to really care about us and about Lil J. 

    Someone once told me that what we don't pay in $$, we pay for with our emotions.

    There has been more than once that we thought there was a possibility that Lil J would be leaving our home (long stories) and it felt like my heart was being ripped out.  I don't know how my FAMILY would deal if he would to leave.  Not just me, but my whole family.

    In the end, I would say that it is NOT for everyone.  But, someone has to do it.  If yo have specific questions, please feel free to ask

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  • MagoyMagoy
    imageMyColonyNJ:
    imageMagoy:

    I've followed your journey w/ Lil J on the adoption board.  I know it hasn't always been puppies and rainbows.  I know you love him to pieces, that much is obvious :)

    But, what advice do you have for someone (ME!) thinking seriously about entering the foster arena?  I'm scared sh!tless to start down that path but am pretty sure it's the only reasonable path for us that will lead to more kids.  So, I know how good it can be in the long run and the rewards can potentially be great.  But what about the rest?  The "bad and ugly" part of the equation...

    Feel free to PM me if you don't want to go into it all here.

    Thanks!

    Amy 


    In the end, I would say that it is NOT for everyone.  But, someone has to do it.  If yo have specific questions, please feel free to ask

    And this is what I keep coming back to.  If not me, then who?  

    We have the perfect setup here to foster and I know that we have a lot to offer.  Just not sure about the emotional side of it.  

    I'm sure I'll have more questions in the future, I'll be sure to hit you up then! 

    After THREE years, our IVF miracle is here!!!
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  • armywife76armywife76 member

    imagehowleyshell:
    How old and where were you when you got your V card punched?

    Just wanted to say I spit some of my drink on the keyboard with this one! You and Skimmy are bad! I have to admit, I've never heard these before but wasn't too hard to figure out, lol

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