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Kind of S/O friends

beebe929beebe929 member
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"gotta be a friend to have a friend" it is amazing how easy it is to slip into your own life and not make an effort with people.  In the last couple weeks I realized (once again) that it actually takes an effort to have a social life and a support system.

Is this the same with you?  Or do you have to fend friends off with a stick?

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Re: Kind of S/O friends

  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    There are exactly 3 occasions where I see my friends anymore:

    1.  Book club.  Thank GOD for an established monthly girls nite out under the guise of intellectual dialogue when in fact it's just a monthly drinking and catching up nite for a group of us who all got married the same year and met on the nest during wedding planning.

    2.  The kids' birthday parties.  The kids have a blast and we all get to catch up.

    3.   Major trauma.  We tend to house each other for overnight get aways when it gets to be too much and we threaten divorce on our DH's.

     

    So... no fending friends off with a stick 

    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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  • Bella3413Bella3413 member

    I personally have to fend friends off with a stick, But I am sure you are not suprised since you have meet me in person and realized my awesomeness.Wink

    Just kidding. Yes I have realized that trying to juggle a job, a kid, a marriage and friends has become a lot more difficult than I thought let alone get any SAIF time in...

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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    Wanted to add that since Dylan started pre-school I've been making new friends!

    A group of us take our pre-schoolers to McDonalds once a month after class. The kids play like crazy people and while we chat about the kids and all kinds of things getting to know each other.  I can see myself being friends with these women for many years to come.

    It gets easier to meet other Moms once the kids get a bit older and are thrown together in situations like school, sports, dance, etc.  It's a bit less awkward than chatting up a new mom at the park and asking for her number or a play date because you see them more regularly.

    Hang in there.

    The early years are the most isolated in my experience. 

    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    Thank GOd for this post and to know I'm not alone!  I feel like a hermit sometimes and wonder what I'm doing wrong - but I realize nothing.  This is the life w/ a toddler whose sleep schedule I"m pretty strict about!
    "Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
    ~Benjamin Franklin

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