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JGirl2005
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AP mom blog - Mayim Balik
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This works for her.
I like that she says she hates labels. That is how I feel...
I also like how she says she tries not to judge, but this works for her family.
Nice to hear different viewpoints of parenting...
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Re: AP mom blog - Mayim Balik
I too like how she says its what fits for her family...no labels needed...
Wish I had time to read blogs..would totally have hers on my list
thanks for posting this!
lol...this actually got me thinking because we never 'taught" DD to say please and thank you but did by example I guess...kwim....she would hear us say these things and now she says "thank you" for EVERYTHING!! along with "please and bless you" accordingly..... I change her diaper and she says "thanks you, mama" cutest thing ever....
so maybe thats what the blogger means...she may actually be teaching by example..maybe...but what do I know..lol
She bugs me, especially after reading this article.
I know she puts the disclaimer in there that she doesn't share the view that babies that can't be born naturally at home should be allowed to die, but really, why would you say that?
https://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/38129344/ns/health-pregnancy/
Gosh, According to Mayim, I'm an uber failure for having to have a c-section...I guess I should be upset about that
I totally agree with this! I thought really annoyed me. I found her condescending, but that could be due to the fact I'm not an AP mom.
WHAAAAAATTT???
now she is started to bug me too! lol
okay..will give her the benefit of the doubt and says she is speaking about her feelings about what she would've preferred and feeling like a failure...I will admit I feel bad at times when I think of the fact that I had to have a c-section...soooo wanted a natural birth at a hospital but the baby's health was 1st priority and I had to have an emergency c-section..so I'm one of those people?? ...what does that even mean? guess I should read more,,,or maybe not lol
I would guess I fall under AP for the most part but geesh!
I took that differently...that last sentence of the quote was actually prefaced by, "She considers me, knowing my story." - so the understanding is, Mayim is directing that comment to the author. Mayim made reference to a vaginal birth in a hospital as a bad thing, but quickly realized it was an insensitive remark considering that the author had had a C-section (something the author was not happy with). Hence, the remark about a C-section being "worse."
I'm not saying I like her or not, but I do think this quote was taken out of context.
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thank you for pointing this out!
Healthy discussion
Remember everyone has different parenting styles. No one is better.
I agree with charmcity that when you have strong opinions, it may be hard not to judge. I didn't like exactly what she said about BFing, but it is her opinion.
About what rox brought up, I don't know anything about that.
Healthy discussion indeed..
Interesting how an article about someone not wanting labels and explaining she doesn't judge others can still get judged
It is hard not to judge...I feel we judge a little even if we don't want to...human nature but you are right..she is entitled to her opinions and we should respect that too!
i saw this - this morning on a break from an all day meeting. I also wish I had time to read more blogs. It would expose me to different parenting styles.
I don't consider myself AP, but I do things that others might.
I always have to keep my judging in-line with friends in real life. I keep telling myself...what works from them...
When Cassian posted about doing baby led weaning and her friends on facebook said 'you shouldn't do that, you need to start with veggies first', etc. It just reminds me that there is more than 1 way to raise a child. KWIM?
I'm not crazy about labels but also do many "AP" type things. But I still think Mayim Bialik can f*ck right off - from the article RoxBride quoted:
"In an e-mail Bialik sends after our meeting, she goes back to my idea that some women weren't meant to have babies the holistic way. "There are those among us who believe that if the baby can't survive a home labor, it is OK for it to pass peacefully," she writes. "I do not subscribe to this, but I know that some feel that ? if a baby cannot make it through birth, it is not favored evolutionarily." "
If you don't subscribe to it, don't tell it to someone who is asking what those whose babies wouldn't survive homebirth should do. I'm pretty sure that last sentence is CYA, not her real belief. Sorry, I'd rather have a live baby [ETA: in a hospital, with constant monitoring that alerted us to the fact that his heart was decelerating] than a[ETA: another] dead one at home. And my kid is doing just fine despite his apparent evolutionary unfavorability.
From what I have encountered in my own life, and what I have seen in general, people who are very dedicated to their own style of parenting cause others to get very defensive, even when they are completely non-provoked. Like, just because someone believes so much in the way they do things, all of a sudden the people around them feel the need to defend themselves, even when they are not being attacked.
I know in my own life, I do things very differently than my SIL's and other moms I know, and I'm not in-your-face or preachy to them about it, but they still act like they need to defend the way they do things. Like because I do things differently they are inferior or something, or my choices are a direct attack on their parenting skills?
So she has strong opinions about babywearing and breastfeeding. Stroller users and FF'ers everywhere get all defensive? She believes in bed-sharing, so CIO moms act insulted. I had to have a c-section from medical necessity, but it doesn't bother me if she is completely dedicated to home birth. I too believe that the hospitals are way too involved in childbirth. Doesn't change my situation, and it doesn't make me feel bad about myself.
JGirl is right. There is more than just 1 way to raise a child, and dedication to the way you believe in, shouldn't cause everyone else to be offended or defensive just due to the mere choice. Maybe she really is a "to each their own" parent, and by just speaking strongly about her personal choices, it inaccurately comes across as judgy? I wish other people's choices didn't have the power to shake the confidence of another mother's choice.