DH and I got married in a very private civil ceremony at our local courthouse (we are NOT romantics). My lil sis was there to witness and take pics for us. We told no one in advance. Most family didn't find out until weeks later when we mentioned it casually. I don't regret how we got married but I do wish I had beautiful pics of me in a white dress. I told my DH last year that I would love to renew our vows in another 5-10 years. This time I want the white dress pics, the pretty cake and very close friends and family. Well, my DH had a dream last night that we did all that! I had a long flowing gown and he was waiting for me at the altar
. I'm starting to think that we're both romantics deep down inside!
Does anyone wish they could redo their wedding in any way? Maybe uninvite some rowdy guests? Different flavor cake? Different location?
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Ooh you should do it!! That would be so fun!
I totally would redo a lot. We were the first of our friends to get married, so I had no clue what I was doing. I was planning it while finishing grad school and working two jobs so I was very "Whatever" about a lot of things that I should have taken more seriously (our officiant, for one!).
It was nice enough but about a year after we got married I got a job in event planning at the Four Seasons. Not that I could have afforded to copy the weddings there (those brides spent my entire wedding budget on their flowers) but I did get some good ideas that I could have used.
I'd love to renew our vows someday!
We all have a little of that chick flick love inside of us.
The only thing I would have changed was having my ipod with me. We got married in Italy and threw the actual reception together 3 days before the wedding. Everything was perfect (though I could have done without some of the family mess, but it ain't a wedding without them) but my music would have been nice.
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We certainly didn't have the wedding of our dreams, by we I mean I. Lol. We got married two days before school started, we were 18, I was 14 weeks pregnant (no, didn't get married because of pregnancy) and I wanted a winter wedding, we had a fall one.
I told DH that no matter where we were, I wanted to renew our vows at 5 years. We'll be old enough to have alcohol, we will (hopefully) be done having kids, we can be in our hometown and invite friends and family.
Beautiful yet informal. Love it!
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The only thing I would have changed about our wedding was the size. We had 220 people and I thought it was too big, but DH has a big Italian family and his MIL refused to cut down her list. Everything was big - big church, ballroom dress, 5 layer cake, videographer, 2 photographers, etc.
Renewing your vows that way sounds lovely. I say do it! I told DH we are renewing our vows for our 10th anny. It will be a small, simple ceremony with just our parents (hopefully!) and siblings.
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Ummmm this sounds like us completely. Unfortunately we did not get to have the wedding our our dreams, okay my dreams anyway. We too were married at the courthouse. I was finishing my bachelor's degree and only working part time. MH said we could wait until we could save the money but decided that growing our family after I graduated was way more important (DD is not biologically mh's). Looking back I wish I could have had the fantasy wedding but then again it's well worth it to be able to continue to grow our little family. One day we will renew our vows I suppose!
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I wouldn't redo it mostly b/c I loathed the planning piece but also our day was amazing and I was pretty laid back so there wasn't a lot that could have gone wrong that would have bothered me, the couple things I'd change would be I would not have invited so many work people (although we still had fun, I didn't get to visit with everyone and always have felt a bit guilty about that), I would have planned the father daughter dance and had music picked out (I forgot, bad me, so we picked it out then and there), and knowing what I know now I would have had a different friend as my MOH since we're no longer friends, but still.. all in all it was great.
That's so cool you're both thinking of doing a vow renewal, very exciting. Picking out the white dress was so much fun... even now I oogle the pretty dresses walking by those stores... I love wedding dresses.
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I would love to have a do over or a vow renewal. There were two main problems with our wedding.
1) My mom drove me completely insane for the entire year of planning. We now believe she had a mild form of mania during that time as she became full blown manic a few months after the wedding. Very long story.
2) I felt a lot of pressure for things to be perfect. I work in the event planning industry and I was afraid if it wasn't spectacular people would question my event planning skills.
So, the thought of just the two of us somewhere special saying our vows again sounds great to me.
Go for the renewal of vows! I wish that I did redo some things. One: Get rid of my sister as a BM because she was AWing the day and chose a different DJ. He almost didn't buy the CD that has our wedding song in it!
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Love the idea of vow renewal and the small intimate beach wedding sounds great!
Our wedding was a HUGE party. Yes we spent a fortune on everything but to have all of our family and friends in one place, so happy for us and having a great time, it was all worth it!
Small change maybe: I shouldn't have double fisted all night... A LOT of photos have me with a Corona in each hand
....oh and I noticed while reviewing photos last year that there is only one of us together where we are faced the same direction. Would have been nice to snap a few, huh?
This was the line of reasoning we used. I was working full-time and my DH had just finished graduating. We figured we'd be better off paying off our school debt and saving up for a down payment on a single family home. I'm thinking renewing vows at our 10 year anniversary is the way to go!
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Aww...that sounds like a great idea! You should do it.
I wouldn't really change that much. We paid for almost everything ourselves. So, we were on a pretty tight budget. I would do most things the same even if we weren't, because I would much rather use the money for a new house. The only thing I regret is not spending more on pictures. We went with the cheapest photographer we could find, and I don't think the pictures turned out very good. You ladies have some gorgeous photos!
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