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PiperS · January 2011

My BFF who is due 2 weeks after I was called me yesterday. I have not talked to her except for a text message I sent her when it first happened 2wks ago telling her that I lost the baby and couldn't talk.

Yesterday was a pretty good day so when she called I thought I could talk to her. I tried to avoid any pg talk. She asked me how I was feeling and I said fine but I didn't give her any details. For some reason I felt obligated to ask her how she was feeling and she told me way too much. She told me about her sequential in way too much detail. She told me that the prenatal yoga class that we were supposed to take together is amazing. I was supportive and upbeat on the phone but then was depressed for the rest of the night. I am still upset about it. I don't want to be bitter but it is so hard for me because our babies were going to be so close in age. We were so excited to be going through it together and I feel bad to not listen to her since we always talked about everything. It is just so hard for me to know that her baby is growing and my baby is gone. It breaks my heart.

ohbabyoh · January 2011

I am so sorry. I am in a similar situation and it is not easy. One of my very best friends is due about 6 weeks from when I was. The handful of times I've seen her since my mc have been so difficult... although she's been great about not talking pregnancy stuff. Just thinking about her makes me feel like I have a 100 pound weight on my heart.

I'm sorry. I have no advice because I am not handling my situation very well either.

Time will make things easier. At least that's what I keep telling myself.

missy418 · January 2011

I understand, my best friend was also two weeks ahead of me. I was trying to get pregnant before her, however I did not mention much to my friends, just that I went off the pill. Then she got got off the pill and was pregnant the same month. So I found out I was pregnant two weeks after her. The past twenty weeks being pregnant at the same time as the friend was helpful, although she was a bit competitive. However, when I lost my babies we had a talk, and I feel a lot better about the situation rather than bitter. Now I will and (you also) will hopefully get pregnant again and we'll get our own special attention. And (hopefully) our babies will only be a year or two behind theirs and they will be friends.

I am sure she feels sad for your situation and is unsure how to speak around you. It might be helpful if you tell her how much of the baby information you can take right now. Sometimes people really don't know how to handle the situation.

I am so sorry for you loss.

ChristinaCT · January 2011

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I know how you feel. My BFF is due in August & I was due in Sept. I haven't talked to her on the phone since the m/c. i am not sure when i will be ready to. She text messages me to make sure I am OK & tells me she loves me. i told her that I will call her when I aqm in better spirits & that i am sorry I can't talk to her yet. Luckily she understands, but I feel terrible about it. When I think about her I think of how far along I should be.

Muffinhb · January 2011

Praying for you ladies!

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