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February 2011 Moms
Can I be a Whiney McComplainerson for just a second?
I live in Kansas City and old man winter dumped abot ten inches of snow on our area over night last night. All of the schools in the area are out for the day and they're recommending that people stay home unless they need to drive out on the roads. Thankfully, I telecommute for my job so I am able to be at home regardless of the weather. DH works for a company that's beyond flexible when it comes to the safety of their associates and they've made it abundently clear that they would rather have someone stay home than risk it on the roads. DH is able to work from home and nobody would think anything of it if he did (in fact, a majority of his team has already said they'll be working at home today). Obviously, being so close to our due date, my preference would be for him to stay at home and not be so far away when the roads are bad but he is bound and determined to go in anyway...
It just seems like there is some reason why he'd rather be in the office, risking his life to drive there, than at home with his family...Maybe I'm looking too much into it (probably so) and the hormones are getting to me but I just can't help but feel that maybe there's something (or someone) that is more important to him than making sure he's safe and close by in case his wife goes into labor and needs to go to the hospital.
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Re: Can I be a Whiney McComplainerson for just a second?
Are you inferring that he's having an affair with someone at the office?
At any rate, I think it's fair for you to communicate as openly and honestly with him as you can. Good luck trying to convince him to stay home...
I don't think he's cheating on me...A majority of his friends are in his group at work so it seems like it's more important for him to be around them than it is to be at home, safe, with me. I guess I'm just trying to figure out what in the world could be more important than his safety and being closer to home in case anything happens (we're about thirty minutes from his office when the roads are completely clear). I realize I'm being completely hormonal and irrational.
He just left for work, by the way. I told him how I felt and he told me that he really wanted to try and make it in. No sense in getting too emotional and ending up saying something I don't mean. So instead I'll sit here, venting to my friends on the bump, feeling sorry for myself....lovely.
Maybe there is pressure from work to be there. I know my DH is getting lots of pressure at work to "pick up" extra projects and on duty time, because of all the time they are "sure" he will be taking off. He isn't taking off very much time when I deliver and doesn't anticipate needing to do so (He basically works from home, as we live in the same building that he works in). His boss and coworkers act like having a baby is going to turn him into some huge flake who is incapable of doing anything but staying home and watching me breastfeed.
I wonder if your husband's boss is subtly making him feel like because you are pregnant that if he is working from home he will somehow be less efficient or distracted from work. Or, maybe he feels like he needs to put in extra work now so that he can relax a little bit and enjoy his time when LO gets here. Either way, try to enjoy being at home and relax between work. ((hugs))
My husband is the exact same way, even though he is in a high position and could work from home more often. In the past few weeks he has even gone to work during an ice storm AND sick with a cold. I also got irritated and had a talk with him about it. He explained that even if his office is flexible with him working from home, he still has work that needs to happen and he gets more done when he is in the office. He explained that he is going in to try and get as much done as he possibly can so he can be home as much as he possibly can once I REALLY need him home (close to due date and/or after baby arrives). He says he would rather go in and do all his stuff now and now worry about it later once baby arrives or I am really uncomfortable.
Even though I still wish he would work from home more often, I understand, respect, and like the fact that he is planning and doing things now to be able to be home more often once baby is here. I know of a lot of men that run back to work the week after baby is born either by choice or because they have to.
Try to look at this in a different light.
My hubby is the same as well. He will ALWAYS go into the office, even if he's obviously sick or it snowed a foot overnight. It's just his nature--unless the office is officially closed, he will make it there. On the other hand, I will use any excuse possible to work from home, so I don't really get it. But I would try not to worry or read too much into it.