If you had a D&C, did you ask for further testing?

cala09 · January 2011

I just had a my D&C today. It was extremely quick. I had some cramping right after but their Motrin (a stronger dose) did the trick. Bleeding has been light all day but I'm taking it easy. Overall, all went well but in the rush through everything and my nerves around going through general anesthesia, I forgot to ask that the doctor obtain gender information and any indicators of chromosomal? The nurse is checking in with my doc, but I'd guess that since I didn't ask for it, I won't get it.

If you had a D&C, did you get the gender information? If you didn't, did you wish that you had? I'm hoping I don't regret not getting it. At the same time, I wonder if knowing would make the grieving process harder for me.

BritanyV · January 2011

So sorry for your loss.

I asked for testing but my OB said that since I had a missed miscarriage and the baby had passed 3 weeks earlier, there wouldn't be enough viable tissue to test.

cala09 · January 2011

Britany- I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a missed M/C too which had passed about a month ago. So, what your OB told you may apply to my situation as well. This makes me feel better about forgetting to ask. Thanks. I hope everything went well for you and that you are recovering well physically and emotionally! Take care.

Froggy76 · January 2011

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a D&E, and the tissue was automatically sent to a pathologist. I didn't specifically ask for any testing. I will find out at my follow-up appointment in 5 weeks unless I break down and call for results before then!

rebaann · January 2011

I am sorry for your loss.

I am seeing an RE and they automatically sent the tissue to pathology. I did not ask and would not want to know anything about gender, but the RE did call me to let me know that the pathology report was normal.

sdlaura · January 2011

I had a D&E, and we opted for an autopsy, because we would like to know if there were any defects other than the heart defects. We had chromosomal testing (an amnio) after we got our original diagnosis, since the heart defects can be associated with chromosomal abnormalities, and our loss was late enough that the sex could be seen on an ultrasound, but we never wanted to know the sex. Not until delivery when we thought we had a healthy baby, and definitely not now that we had to make the decision to end the pregnancy. It's a coping mechanism for us to keep from personifying the baby more than we already had.

kthappy76 · January 2011

I didn't have a D&C, but when I miscarried at home the first thing that passed was the baby, and I saved it for testing. They were able to tell me about two weeks later that it was a chromosomally perfect girl.

I don't think knowing the gender makes it any harder, but knowing that the liklihood that my body caused the m/c rather than there being something randomly wrong with the baby certainly does. But I like having information, so we can try to keep it from happening again. GL to you.

LDW80 · January 2011

I had a missed miscarriage as well at 13 weeks. They automatically took the tissue to the pathologist to have that checked out and it came back as chromonsonal abnormalities. I asked about finding out the gender and my dr. said it was too early to tell and if we realy wanted to know they could test but that it would be REALLY expensive so we opted not to do that. So sorry for your loss.

Jen&Louie · January 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss.

DH and I decided that we did not want to have the tissue tested. I really needed the D&C to be the start of the healing process for me and felt that if I had to wait around for news on testing that I wouldn't be able to start moving on. My OB siad that in her experience, 99% or more of the post testing comes back with inconclusive chromosomal issues and nothing specific. Saying, in essence, the pieces just didn't fit together properly at conception.

tdmd09 · January 2011

I'm sorry you're going through this.

My doctor wasn't planning to do testing, but he did because the tissue looked abnormal and he wanted to make sure it wasn't a molar pregnancy. Fortunately it wasn't molar, but it also wasn't viable tissue. I would not have wanted to know gender, though.

I think a month or so ago there was someone here that was told the gender from the pathology and said knowing it was a boy/girl made the loss even harder to deal with.

cala09 · January 2011

Thank you all for sharing your experiences. I'm so sorry for all of your losses. I spoke with my doctor's office today. They confirmed that the tissue was not sent to testing. Thinking about it now, I'm actually glad that I don't know the gender. As some of you mentioned, I think it would make the loss that much harder for me to deal with. Instead, I'll channel my healing into something positive (growing a plant or tree or making a donation to charity...something...I'm not sure what yet). If you have any suggestions on this part of the healing process, let me know. Thanks again!

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