2nd (+) time moms...what was it like?

LovingStepMom · January 2011

So...I am almost 35 weeks and I can't help but thinking that in 5 weeks (give or take) my baby boy will be joining our family. I have 2 step-daughters but he will be my first biological child.

Though we've had ultrasounds...I can't help but feel like this is so surreal. I have no idea what it will be like to have a human (a real person) come out of me and then immediately...I am his mother.

What was it like when you saw your LO for the first time? I can't wait!

TIA!

saraid2426 · January 2011

Oh your two girls are so cute.

We got really emotional... I couldnt believe that I had created that little person. It is also a sigh of relief because you know that your baby is ok and in your arms. It is a feeling that you cant describe on how much you can love someone by meeting them for the first time. I wish you the best to you and your family....

JenSaidYes · January 2011

It is the best feeling and the most terrifying feeling all at once. On one hand, you can now see your LO, and hold him, and know that he is ok- but then you have this constant fear or "what if" and you know that if anything were to happen you would just crumble and never recover.

My husband and I still, almost three years later, can not believe that our son is here- a real person- and part of us. I don't think I will ever not be mesmerized by my son and soon the second.

wolverine8 · January 2011

The first time I heard him cry I literally felt a switch go on in my brain. It is very surreal and amazing. The only thing terrifying was that he popped a hole in his lung and spent 5 days in the NICU. Nothing could have prevented that. Just enjoy these last few weeks with him rolling around inside. It's a feeling a truly miss!

rosesandpeonies · January 2011

IT is the absolute most amazing feeling. You made that child and he is a part of you. It is unbelievable and amazing thing. Take it all in. Every time I look at my daughter I still feel the same feelings.

Bejebus · January 2011

Inside baby and outside baby are two so completely different things. When DS was born, I couldn't take my eyes off him. He had some trouble breathing and was taken to the other side of the room, and I didn't care what the doc was doing to me (even though my epidural had worn off and the stitching hurt), I just kept asking anyone who came into my eyesight, "Is he okay? Is he okay?" About 5 minutes later, when they brought him to me all clean and wrapped and wide-eyed, it was the most immediate connection of "Hey, you're the one that's been causing all that trouble in there! You're real, and mine! We made you!" The immediate sense of family among the three of you (or five of you, when your girls visit) is just incredible- it doesn't matter how many nurses or doctors or other people are around- you finally have the baby in your arms, and you can't remember a time when you didn't. GL!

missfire · January 2011

It was like someone had handed me this baby out of thin air. Obviously he came out of me, but it was as if he had just that second come into existence. And I kept feeling like someone was going to notice the mistake and make me give him back!

He also looked nothing like I had expected at first, although as he lost his baby hair and grew, he grew to look so much like me.

flowerchild77 · January 2011

Words cant really describe it for me. Very emotional, thats for sure. When she was placed on my chest, I immediately started crying, told her happy birthday, and puled her legs apart to make sure she was indeed a she.

Your whole world changes in that instant. Not just in the sense- you can FEEL it. You just know nothing will EVER be the same again. You finally know what LOVE can be. Theres no love like that between a mother and child. None at all.

albl508 · January 2011

Unbelievable. You have no idea how much you are going to love that little one. I still can't believe that I will love this one as much but I know I will. I know you love your child when you are pregnant but when you actually see your baby the love grows so much stronger. I felt so empowered and I felt stronger then I ever had in my life. The day my son was born I became a different person.

lilbit923 · January 2011

For me it was the same both times. First with my son and then my daughter. I held them brand new and swaddled. Slowly their eyes opened and blink, blink, blink. Instantly in love. I hugged them to my neck, kissed their faces and told them Happy Birthday and how I prayed for them to come safely.

Drink those first moments in. The first time you can study his face, see his smile, hear his voice, feel his finger wrap around yours. Absorb them, they are fleeting moments.

iris427 · January 2011

It was like "Huh, there was really a baby in there. That's not how I expected her to look. She's kind of funny looking. Get me off this fvcking operating table already."

I just want to put it out there that it's OK if you don't immediately feel in love with your baby the first time you see them. For some women, bonding is instant and for others it takes more time and that is OK. Especially if you have a long, hard delivery like I did. Also, your kid may be funny looking at first, especially if they have a lot of head molding at birth. You're allowed to think they look weird.

kabarbanel · January 2011

Oh it's so wonderful! I can't even describe it. DH and I both cried. Well, I started crying during the last few pushes because I knew I was about to meet my baby boy!

brooketini · January 2011

I'm tearing up just thinking about it, if that gives you any indication how emotional it is. It was amazing seeing DD for the first time- there really are no words. I was mainly in shock because while we were team green, I had convinced myself that I was having a boy. I was completely delirious with pain when she came out, but I remember the moment that I saw her like it was yesterday.

luvdv8 · January 2011

DD was a preemie and there were some early on concerns, so I can say that my maternal drive to protect her instantly kicked in. I don't think the feelings are describable, it's just a wave of emotions and thoughts.

For me, watching my husband hold her, seeing him connect with her in the way that I had been building to for 9 months in an instant, that was the real moment for me. When he grabbed that little hand and looked at her with more love than I've ever seen him express I knew then that we were parents and that this little girl was going to be the center of our universe forever. To this day she's daddy's girl 100% and EVERY time I see those two snuggled together I flash back to him holding that little 5lb infant and it makes me smile or tear up.

3PupsAndABaby · January 2011

it's almost like an outer body experience honestly. hands down, the best moment of my life and i'll never forget it. especially after all of the work you do just to deliver the baby, then you see him right there, you're able to hold him, smell him and kiss him. it's an overwhelming feeling and an unbelievable sense of love. i do admit though, i had him really late at night, when they came back with him at like 3 in the morning, i loved him, but was like ok now what? but i quickly had that overwhelming feeling again and it hasn't stopped 19 months later. i still look at my DS and cry sometimes because i just love him so much, i can't put it into words.

LuckyH · January 2011

I feel like the shallow one in this post. We had a long struggle with IF and I always waited for the other shoe to drop with the pregnancy though.

When DD was first handed to me, I thought "huh, look at that...a baby". That was about it. My DH was over the moon and a little hyperactive about it. I think he bonded with her before I did. I felt very, very protective of her right away though. She was not to leave my sight and it's still that way now. I think I really started to bond with her within a day or two. Your love for your child grows every day and it's hard to believe that I love someone this much. Good luck and soak up every minute. Just don't worry if the connection isn't there right away. It will come.

sweetpea18 · January 2011

iris427:
It was like "Huh, there was really a baby in there. That's not how I expected her to look. She's kind of funny looking. Get me off this fvcking operating table already."
I just want to put it out there that it's OK if you don't immediately feel in love with your baby the first time you see them. For some women, bonding is instant and for others it takes more time and that is OK. Especially if you have a long, hard delivery like I did. Also, your kid may be funny looking at first, especially if they have a lot of head molding at birth. You're allowed to think they look weird.

This was me, except the operating table part! Dd was a preemie and was taken away by the nicu team as soon as dh cut the cord. I didn't get to touch or hold her until she wad 24 hrs old. She was very fussy because I had been on mag sulfate and had tubes and wires all over her. It wasn't until we got home, almost 2 weeks after she was born, that I realized she was really mine, that I was really her mom. But wasn't until she was 3ish months old, that I really fell head over heels for her. She started interacting with us, smiling, cooing and she knew that I was her mom. She's had my heart since that first smile!

LovingStepMom · January 2011

Thanks ladies...all of these posts touched my heart...I can't wait!

MrsTotty · January 2011

I'm not going to lie, my first absolute reaction was fear.

'OMG they just put a baby on me. I grew a baby. WTF am I supposed to do with a baby?!!!'

Jack didn't cry, so I was scared about that too, but then he kind of looked up at me. He kept blinking his eyes and he had this expression on his face like, 'WTF woman?! PIck me up and put something around my naked body, I'm cold!'

That's when the nurse threw a towel on him, and I started bawling. I fell in love HARD then. They handed him to me, and I was gone. Completely gone.

labooshki · January 2011

Immediate love. It's amazing how much you connect and the emotions that you feel! I can't freakin wait!

NewBlue · January 2011

I was overwhelmed. He had to be checked over so I didn't get to hold him right away. When I did I cried. I felt an immediate connection but that whole "you fall in love instantly" thing didn't happen for me. I was incredibly exhausted from the labor and had a very high fever. The first few days were so tiring and we had trouble breast feeding which was really hard on me emotionally. I really thought I would be able to do it. I can't say when it really hit me but I think it was when I was taking him home from the hospital. The amazing thing is the love you feel for your child is like nothing you can imagine! I always say to my mom that I always knew that she loved me but I had no idea how much until I had my little boy. AND I GET TO DO IT ALL AGAIN!

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