Is 100% sure I am switching OB's (vent long)

futuremrsboardman · January 2011

We had our 2nd appointment today and I was soo excited because we were going to see an actually doctor (the first one was just with a nurse and it was all medical history) we to get to hear the babies heartbeat and we were going to follow up on the snovial fluid between the sac and the wall.

WELL that is not what happened at all. We finally got called back 15 minutes after our appointment time. The medical assistant was very short with me and rude. When the doctor finally came in he didn't talk to us or much or ask us if we had any concerns. He tried to look for the babies heartbeat but gave up after 30 seconds of trying and said that there was a 50/50 chance we could find it anyway. Then he did my pap and told me that at my 16 week appointment I needed to do a extra labs and a 24 hour urine test for hypertension because my b/p was elevated. Let me tell you why my b/p was elevated 1. the medical assistant was rude so I was getting mad 2. my husband was right next to the scale when she was weighing me I personally lie to him about my weight thats just what I do 3. I was nervous about getting a pap because my husband was in there and his chair was in direct few of the goods. Maybe if you really thought my b/p was a concern then you should have taken it one more time before I left just to make sure.

When the doctor left after 10 minutes of being in there my husband told me "we really have to pay for this". I didn't find out anything more on my possible problem with my LO so that makes me nervous because when they found out I had it they said no sex. SOO can I have sex now or not, because that would be something nice to know!

Thanks for letting me vent ladies!

kristenn441 · January 2011

Wow! Sorry you had such a horrible experience! I would be changing too if I went through that!

MandiNewMommy · January 2011

I would have told him right there that you wanted your records and would be going to see someone else. First off women are scared at this point and you would think they would get that and try to help. My BP is going up just reading your post! I say get away as soon as you can!!!

mcatmay · January 2011

That is total and complete bull!!! I can't believe you were treated like that and yep, you're right, it's time to find another doctor. As if you don't already have enough on your plate, having a doctor treat you like that is not only total crap but completely unacceptable. I am so, so sorry that you had to deal with that - Good luck and hope that you can soon find an OB that treats you like a human being!!!

TheGregory's07 · January 2011

I would be changing also.

kjgilhoo · January 2011

Wow, that guy is a douche! Good luck finding a new doc. I hope the next one treats you better. Would it be possible for your husband to step out of the room during the more icky parts of the appt? Maybe that way you'd feel more comfortable and there wouldn't be a need to worry about b/p.

kgunz11 · January 2011

That totally sucks! Grab your records and move on down the line. There are plenty of WONDERFUL OB's out there who would love to be a part of your special journey. Leave that jerk in the dust!

Megnucrzy16 · January 2011

So sorry you had to deal with that! With my DD I switched offices at 35 weeks!!!! I know that sounds crazy, but I was so fed up with the snarky answers when me or my husband would ask questions or she would barely look at us during exams. I was so nervous about switching so late, but I couldn't of been happier that I did. I ended up with an amazing doctor who is still my current obgyn. Best of luck to you and hope you find a great doctor!!!!

BetsyDavis · January 2011

I say switch! Sounds like a horrible doctor and office! Did they even have you lay on your side to see if your bp would go down. I don't see why they would do 24 urine and labs unless you and protein in your urine. I'm sorry you had such a horrible appointment I hope you have better luck the next one.

FantaIsMyHomie · January 2011

First, I would absolutely switch if the doctor isn't listening to your concerns or following up on a possible health issue and has rude staff. Did you ask about the fluid at all? Did you ask about the sex thing?

However, I think being that upset about the weight thing or visible pelvic exam is kind of dumb. I'm sure your husband has seen your vagina before, not to mention that usually when they do that the doctor is sitting right between the legs so it's pretty much blocked. I'm sure it wouldn't even cross his mind that it should be hidden, since, you know, you're married to the guy and he knocked you up, assumedly using that same hole. And you're going to gain weight - you're pregnant - so lying to your husband about that is a little weird at this point. He probably couldn't care less what you weigh, and if he does, I'd give that a side-eye.

futuremrsboardman · January 2011

Well of course my DH has seen the goods but not usually in that kind of lighting and with another man sticking instrument up there. I think I was more nervous on how he would react because he had no idea what is done during a pap and pelvic just like I'm not really sure what it is like when his doctor checks his prostate or tells him to turn his head and cough. The weight thing is more personal because I am alittle on the heavier side so and I know its just a number but I am self consicious about and always have been not just to my husband but everyone and I was afraid over these past weeks I might have gained 10 plus pounds by the way I have been eating and I don't even think I would have been ready to see that number.

Uwannalala · January 2011

"2. my husband was right next to the scale when she was weighing me I personally lie to him about my weight thats just what I do "

... Are you me?!

Haha.. I had to comment on this because it cracked me up. I too, and guilty of totally fudging my weight to my husband. I would never want him to know that I weigh more then him :-/ I know its stupid but.. oh well.

Everytime we go im so nervous he will see my weight! I make him turn around and say it loudly so the nurse will hear.

Its stupid and vain but its an insecurity. I completely understand that raising the ol blood pressure haha.

MrsCase1 · January 2011

yeah, that guy sucks!

oh, and i don't lie about ym weight but under no circumstances is it ever to be discussed or revealed. before our appointment today i told my husband that if they weigh me with him there he needs to walk away. luckily they did it while he was waiting, lol. a woman is entitled to her dignity!

mrsjones06 · January 2011

I would absolutely switch Drs. All of the staff at my Drs office is so nice...They always make me feel like they truly care about me & how I'm doing. Although I know he's busy my Dr never makes me feel like he doesn't have time to answer any questions I have. I would've been fuming too.

I absolutely hate going to the gyn in the first place b/c I find it embarassing. From the beginning of my 1st pg I told DH to move the chair or stand beside me rather than 'down below' once the Dr came in & had me lay down. Although he's seen the goods plenty of times that's totally different than the humility of being spread out on a table with a Drs hands & instruments up in there. He's there to support me...not watch the exam, so he totally understood where I was coming from. This time they weighed me with DH in the waiting room, but for my 1st pg he was standing by the scale for my 1st appt. I don't lie about my weight, but I don't ever tell him what I weigh, so I was embarassed, but oh well. After the 1st appt it doesn't matter b/c I was constantly gaining something & it became routine.

Just think about down the line if you're having a difficult delivery or blood pressure problems...you want a Dr (and staff) that will listen to you & make you feel better in stressful situations. I would call another Dr...maybe get recommendations from friends, co-workers, neighbors, your local board, etc. Sorry you had to go through that & hope you find someone great!

aggiej15 · January 2011

Switch!! I have been to 3 doctors now and I finally found one that I LOVE. I knew when we started trying that I was going to want to find a doctor that I really liked. It was totally worth it.