When did you tell family??

Bethie77 · January 2011

I am due August 27th and I have had a previous miscarriage so I do not want to disappoint anyone, when did you tell your family?

kellbranc · January 2011

I too had a previous miscarriage....but we chose to tell people (family and VERY good friends) that we knew we would tell if we had another loss.

I told my mom the day I POAS..... and we told my in-laws as well as the rest of my immidiate family a week later @ Thanksgiving. I told some SUPER close friends at weeks.....but pretty much waited to tell the rest of the world

JenJar · January 2011

We told both sides of the family the day I got my BFP since it was Thanksgiving and we were actually with everyone. We live 12 hours away, so it's not often we're all together.

chottomotto · January 2011

My mom was here when I POAS so she knew right away. My dad I told last week, when I couldn't avoid him anymore. I told him I was puking and he kept insisting I go to the doctor. I finally had to tell him I didn't want to "get better". I have not told my husband's parents or any other family, because I don't want to deal with their concerns. My mom still calls and asks if I'm eating enough, what am I eating, have I thrown up today, etc etc. It's annoying and I couldn't imagine dealing with a hundred people asking me those same things again and again.

I did come out to all my friends and co-workers, however, so I'm not completely alone and pent-up. I will come out to my in-laws this weekend if my u/s goes well tomorrow, but I would still keep it a secret from extended family for as long as I can.

robnnoel · January 2011

I actually told my BFF about an hour after we got a BFP, but we waited about 3 more weeks to tell close family and friends. I just told the rest of our friends, family, and work this past week because I am being to show.

84Lauren · January 2011

We told immediate family and very close friends right away, and I'm planning on letting the word spread after a 10-week u/s next week. The thing is, I want people to know I'm pregnant... I just don't want them constantly talking to me about it yet. Unfornately those two things usually go together Smile

I went through a previous m/c and very few people knew, and I HATED that they had no idea what I was going through. If anything, my m/c experience made me want to tell more people, earlier. If (god forbid) something goes wrong, that's that many more people I will have support from.

Iove.wins · January 2011

We were having Thanksgiving dinner (AT MY HOUSE!) that night, so I told everybody that came over -- basically my immediate family. I'm not sure if I would have been able to go through the night without telling them -- my nerves and emotions were all over the place!

My hands were shaking so bad I almost dropped the ham like three times before I was able to get it into the roasting tray!

kjuryfl · January 2011

Told close family at Christmas. We told everyone else after our first OB appt. 2 weeks ago.

Fuzzy21 · January 2011

I will be 12w next week, and we have our NT scan on Tuesday next week. We will tell family after that

MillerTime13 · January 2011

My best friend knew the day I got my BFP because she was trying too (now she is KU too!). We told our parents and siblings on Christmas at 6 weeks. A few friends found out on New Year's, and we are gradually telling others. We'll be waiting to announce it publicly (like on FB) until we hear a h/b or see an u/s.

kermiefrg · January 2011

I had an m/c in July so close family knew about that. We told our parents around 4 weeks b/c I would want them to know either way. I think we're going to tell other family in the next few weeks as we see them.

After having gone through the tragedy, I almost would rather have some people know b/c I would want them to be there for the good or bad. I hated that I had to lie to people last time when I lost the baby.

Augustmama1113 · January 2011

BlinkMe182:
This is my first- no previous M/C so I told my family over Christmas- I figure in good or bad I want them to lean on and hopefully just continue to celebrate with!

Same here. But we only told our immediate family. The only problem we are having is that they can't keep it to themselves

alicia023 · January 2011

We told my parents last week and one of my sisters 2 nights ago, but that is the only people that know. I plan on telling my other sister when i see her next but I don't know when I want everyone else to know. I know this sounds crazy but I'm not ready for everyone to know yet, maybe it's all the comments you get or the remarks but I'm just not ready to hear what they have to say.

AmberZ2be · January 2011

We haven't yet. We will tell after first tri.

muchlove1016 · January 2011

We told my parents and his on Christmas Eve. DH has told almost every coworker and client he has. I want to wait until Valentine's to tell everyone else (both family and friends).

nan517 · January 2011

We haven't told yet. I've also had a loss so I wanted to wait until the 1st trimester was over before telling the families. I have told a few close friends but that's it until week 14.

SarahRuthG · January 2011

I also have a m/c in the past. We haven't told the family yet. Mostly because my MIL can't be trusted not to tell everyone. I am probably going to tell my mother on her birthday in 2 weeks in a cute way. Or maybe sooner if my craving for turkey doesn't go away. I can't stomach the thought of cooking it but I REALLY want a piece of cold turkey dipped in mayo for the past 4 days. Embarrassed

jdeats12 · January 2011

BlinkMe182:
This is my first- no previous M/C so I told my family over Christmas- I figure in good or bad I want them to lean on and hopefully just continue to celebrate with!

This exactly. Immediate family knew 2 weeks before Christmas and we made the big announcement on Christmas Eve.

MrsCase1 · January 2011

oh man this was a source of contention earlier today! we told our immediate family right away and asked them to keep it a secret till we were further along and saw the doctor. today my husband called to tell his extended family and they all already knew. he was crushed, and consequently, is livid with his parents. sigh.

i asked my doctor when i should tell people and she said, "Right away. This baby is healthy but God forbid anything happened, you'd want the support of your loved ones." So we told everyone.

Megnucrzy16 · January 2011

Neither DH or I can keep a secret, especially one that big...

With DD, I wasn't even 4 weeks yet when we told our immediate family...I filmed everyone's reaction and this pregnancy we told immediate family at 5 weeks...

tourqeyes · January 2011

I told them on Christmas and the rest of our families yesterday after a good doctor's appointment and ultrasound.

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