Scheduled sex

CalinsBride · January 2011

Discuss.

Liss_37 · January 2011

we don't schedule sex but maybe we should. sometimes i think if it was something we had previously discussed and planned on, it might happen more often.

Lopo · January 2011

Sometimes, it's necessary. Not romantic, but necessary.

hooker82 · January 2011

DH works nights and sleeps during the day. We have to schedule if we're ever gonna do it. It works for us. We make a point to do it at least 3x a week.

CatyBee · January 2011

I have a problem with rescheduling it!

Squishycheeks* · January 2011

I would think it depends.

If one person had a much higher libido or your time together was very limited I could see how it might be a good thing.

It doesn't sound very romantic though!

mrsmyers8 · January 2011

is there any other way? I have a bigger sex drive than Dh, so i have to plan it. Or i will go to bed... Its not a big deal to me.

Jen&Louie · January 2011

Scheduled sex is better than no sex. Who says making plans for that time can't be romantic? It's all a matter of perspective.

EbethM0231 · January 2011

We schedule sex more than I would like to, but hey, at least we are having sex! Now, the other night, DS spent the night with my parents, and the next morning, we had spontaneous morning sex and it was AWESOME!!

Blue1299 · January 2011

I'm actually working on a plan with DH right now so that we can be more consistent. Basically if we haven't had sex in X days then we will make it a point to do it that day, we're just not settled on X yet.

sarcole530 · January 2011

Nope, no scheduled sex for us. But maybe we should... we would have it more often if it were scheduled, HAHA!

STCJM · January 2011

I'd love some scheduled sex. I'd love sex period.

JungleJulia · January 2011

We don't schedule sex but we do have a mandatory cuddle time. Both our jobs require us to be "plugged in" 24/7 so during cuddle time there are no cell phones, TVs, radios, laptops or iPads allowed. Just him and I. Sometimes it's just talking about our day, somtimes it's...bow-chicka-wow-wow!

We feel so much more connected to each other since implementing this rule.

Lizard2022 · January 2011

We need to schedule sex but don't. It would be nice to DH come to bed early and have sex, rather then be woken up when he finally decides to go to bed. I don't knwo how to go about scheduling it though. Dh might be offended.

Lopo · January 2011

I think I remember seeing a couple on Oprah a few years back who wrote a book about their experience having sex everyday for a year. Now that's scheduled sex!

FerreraRocher · January 2011

We don't schedule it however sometimes I'll give my husband a quick text saying, "The minute our daughter falls asleep is the minute I'm going to tear my clothes off and hump you like a teenager." This is a tactic I'll use if I want him to gussy himself up.

jonnygurl76 · January 2011

TTC = scheduled sex every other day. unless one of us isn't feeling it, then it doesn't happen......but we were doing it at least 3x a week before so it isn't that big a deal for us. Angel

nicolesspirit · January 2011

We just finished the 15 day sex diet on Sunday. We had sex everyday for the first 8 days and then I just couldn't do it anymore, I wasn't in the mood, I went to Anthropologie on day 9 and they had a 360 degree mirror and that lead to mild depression (ugh). We did however have sex on day 15 just because.We cuddled fairly regularly which was nice, I don't regret the diet and we both learned things that affect our sex drive and I hope that when we attempt to try this again we can make it all 15 days.

kabarbanel · January 2011

I think the only time we scheduled sex was while TTC. Ha.

ljlkm · January 2011

I prefer it. Otherwise DH seems like he's always in the mood when I want to do something else. If it's scheduled, then I can look forward to it and make sure it's where my head is at.

JungleJulia · January 2011

Lopo:
I think I remember seeing a couple on Oprah a few years back who wrote a book about their experience having sex everyday for a year. Now that's scheduled sex!

yeah I remember that

https://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/25097086/ns/today-books/

sasky · January 2011

mooshagirl:
We tried it and failed miserable, lol! Since we have been so busy/tired/whatever with DD around, we decided to try to have Saturday night be sex night.

We do something similar except it can either be Friday, Saturday, or Sunday. It gives us a little leeway. So once a weekend, really. Our 'schedule' slipped a little during the holidays too, but we are back on track.

I've found that making it a point to have scheduled sex actually makes spontaneous sex happen more often! And I've also found that it's not unromantic at all. Going through a dry spell is unromantic (it happens). Making it a point to think about and give attention to eachother in that way IS romantic, whether it's 'scheduled' or not.

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