Does it get easier?

bocock's having a baby · October 2008

This is my first time writing. I have looking at posts on this board and the 1st trimester board for two weeks now. I finally decided to write something after finding out the news yesterday.

Anyway, I found out yesterday that I had a natural m/c at about 6 weeks. My DH and I were expecting our first baby and now are dealing with this heartbreaking news. Everyone has been so supportive, but I am still filled with sadness. Does the feeling of sadness go away? Does it get easier to deal with the m/c?

Miracle Social Worker · October 2008

I am sorry for your loss. I have unfortunately have two miscarriages, and I can tell you that with time, it does get easier....but I feel that I am a "changed person" because of it, and I do not look at pregnancy the same way other people do now....

I hope that you have continued support during this difficult time....these boards offered me a lot of support, and I am sorry to post with a pregnancy ticker....

ErinBrooke · October 2008

I too was pregnant with my first and just experienced my a m/c at 8 weeks, had a D&C yesterday so I completely understand your pain right now. So far it does seem to be getting a little easier everyday, though of course there are times I just want to burst into tears, especially when family tries to comfort me and tell me that next time will be a happier outcome. Though I certainly hope for a better experience next time it's really scare to think that it could happen again and I know pregancy won't ever be the same for me. Though at first I was mad at myself for telling most of my family and co-workers I was pregnant, now I'm glad I did because I've got a ton of support and so many women in my family and at work have shared their own m/c experiences. Just be sure you are talking about your feelings and not keeping all your emotions bottled up inside, its so much better for you.

I'm so very sorry for your loss and I really hope it does start getting easier for you. Be sure to rely on your DH and us girls here during this tough time. ((Hugs))

amoureux · October 2008

I have had three miscarriages and have found each time, it does get easier as the weeks go by. At the start of each, I would spend a lot of time crying or feeling like crying. Eventually, the pain becomes less sharp.

I am sorry you are having to go through this.

jam1111 · October 2008

I promise that it does get easier, but it will never 100% be out of your mind. The biggest help for me was to be busy and stay distracted. Also, the hope of trying again and a new cycle has helped.

Clery · October 2008

I'm sorry for your loss, I know it is hard to imagine but it does and it will get better. Just stay strong and hang in there. Hugs

JessMike07 · October 2008

I'm so so sorry for your loss. My first loss was about 10 1/2 months ago and eventually it will get easier. Your pain will lessen over time. But its not an easy road so please please please lean on anyone you can for support, including us.

I remember feeling very alone. DH didn't understand, friends made stupid comments, etc....I didn't find this until after my 2nd m/c and I don't know what I would have done without this board. :::BIG HUGS::: I hope you will find the same comfort and support I found.

ashleighlough · October 2008

Well, it's almost been two weeks for me and it is getting easier. I stayed out of work for a week so that I could cry daily. Getting back to work and into my usual routine seemed to help some. Although, I'm sure my hormones are still out of whack so there are weird times where I feel on the verge of tears still. Sorry about your loss and GL.

mcp · October 2008

From my experience, the pain comes and goes. I'm ok for a while, and then all of sudden something will hit me and I'll be grieving all over again. I've found it very helpful to be able to come to this board and share my feelings here.

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