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TTC After a Loss 6 Months+
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
Am I overreacting?
It's okay to tell me I'm overreacting and I promise you don't have to side with me.
First of all, AF is here, I was poked and prodded today, I start new meds and we're quickly approaching the 3rd anniversary of our loss. All of which is making me lean a bit over the edge.
My truly wonderful OB/Gyn will no longer be doing any OB work. Long story short, we got a second hospital in our tiny little town and it has forced the old one to close. The new one will not allow her to deliver there because of competition, etc. It's all political. I was telling Dh this and how terrified I am because of this. I love my OB, she is the one who was with us for the loss. One, I don't want to start over. Two, I will NOT go the remaining OB that is in town, I'll spare you the details, but trust my judgment, I swear I don't know how the man is still practicing. Thirdly, this means I will have to drive at least an hour away for OB care, probably more. The next closest place is going further into Western Kansas, which would be fine, except I'm high risk. They will life watch you out at the drop of a hat. This does not seem like a good plan.
DH doesn't get my worry. He said it will all be fine, just take it one day at a time. I told him it was not all fine, that it's scary and it's not something you just sit back and wait to figure out, you have to be proactive. He's now mad and me and I can't say that I'm exactly thrilled with him.
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
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Re: Am I overreacting?
I totally understand your fears and your feelings are 100% justified. You have to be comfortable with our OB care but at the same time, you have to get pregnant again before you even have to worry about this. Could you go and talk with the new OB that is an hour away? See what their plan would be? I know the thought of being life flighted is scary but if it will save the life of you or your baby.
I will also say I've been where you are- in a sea of what if's and on CD 1, looking out into the unknown it's super scary. Try to take a deep breath. AND many hugs to you, you don't deserve any of this.
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I don't think you are over-reacting one bit. You need to like your dr and feel comfortable with them. There has to be a trusting relationship there. I have an issue with one hospital in the area, it is the one that most people deliver at, but I would not go to an OB that practices there, so I wanted to find one that practices at a different hospital, which I was able to do.
I agree with Amy, maybe you can go and talk to the OB that is an hour away and see what they say. I can't believe that your current OB is not going to be allowed to deliver at the other hospital. What is she supposed to do? That just seems so unfair. I hope that you can dind another dr that you trust or that somehow things change and your current OB can practice somewhere. (((hugs)))
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
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BFP #1 4/22/10 MC 5/5/10 (6w4d) EDD 12/25/10
BFP #2 10/19/10 CP 10/27/10 (4w6d) EDD 6/30/11
BFP #3 5/10/11 Lucas Abelardo born 12/29/11 at 37w3d
BFP #4 12/10/12 MMC 1/14/13 (9w3d) D&C 1/15/13 EDD 8/16/13
BFP #5 8/22/13 Lucia Elizabeth born 4/17/14 at 38w
I get all worked up all the time and Lenny never gets upset about things. I think that I just stress and worry a lot more than he does and sometimes it causes fights so I completely understand where you are coming from. Are you doing an IUI this cycle or just TI?
I hope that they are able to figure out a way for your OB to stay so that you do not have to break a new one in.
I came out of hiding to say that I would ask him exactly how many urologists he'd be willing to let swab/examine him, and how many he'd be okay with being female. Sometimes I don't think dudes understand how personal and awful it all is.
I understand where you're coming from. But take a deep breath & focus on this part of the journey for now. Who knows, by the time you are released from the RE, things might change again. One day at a time. And hugs
Dx: MFI- 3% morph
IUIs: Gonal-F + Ovidrel + b2b IUI= BFNs
IVF with ICSI= BFP! EDD 11/25/11
3/18- Beta #1 452! 3/20- Beta #2 1,026!! 3/27- First u/s- TWINS!
Our twin boys arrived at 36w5d due to IUGR and a growth discordance
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
BFP 12/18/2009. HB 1/4/2010. NO HB 1/18/2010. D&C 1/19/2010
April 2011 IUI #1 BFN. High FSH and other issues.
May 2011 Chose to build our family through adoption
September 2011 Actively waiting for a match
11/26/11 Surprise BFP * DD born 7/23/12
I'm so sorry, Kristy. No, you are definitely not overreacting. A good Dr. is worth his/her weight in gold, and a bad one...well, there are no words for that. I understand your fears and wish your DH did, too. We're here for you.