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Postpartum Depression
Depression/Guilt
Hi ladies,
I have decided to post here because I am feeling that I don't fit into any other board. My daugher is 3 weeks old and since she was born ( at 34 wks 5 days) I have felt very guilty. I don't let her cry for more than a minute because I feel that everything that could be wrong with her is my fault because my body failed the both of us.
I feel like I can't talk to my husband because he thinks it is so easy to stay home and take care of her all day. He says I shouldn't be tired because I can sleep with her all day long. He also doesn't understand my guilt because even though she was born premature she had no severe complications. The only complications she experienced were difficulty breastfeeding for the first few days and jaundice that is now under control.
I have an appointment with my OB tomorrow to discuss all of this, but I also feel that she may just brush me off by saying it is baby blues. I don't know what it is, but I feel like I want to stay home all the time and just protect my baby girl and keep her safe because it is all my fault she was early. Oh and the fact that my husband and in-laws like to remind me that I would still be pregnant if I didn't have her so early... :-(
What do you ladies think? Should I feel like everyone is going to brush me off if I talk openly about it? UGH...I am lost!
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Re: Depression/Guilt
I mostly lurk here because I've been struggling a bit with the adjustment of being a new mom too. I'm sorry your husband hasn't been a big help. Can he go with you to your appointment so the OB can help explain things to him? It might be good for him to hear from a doctor that PPD is real, and the adjustment can be a lot to deal with.
I don't think you should worry about your OB blowing off your concerns. I had to go to the ER a week after DD was born because of a terrible headache that they were concerned was due to high blood pressure. In the end, it was stress, but my OB was really good about it. We talked about how I wanted to handle things, if I wanted medicine, etc. I went back to her again right before the New Year and we talked about a new plan because I was still having a tough time. She's been very good and understanding, and has offered a lot of advice. Remember, OBs really do see a lot of new mothers who have a tough time with hormones, sleep deprivation, stress, being overwhelmed, etc. You're not alone in your feelings.
I think you are doing the right thing by seeing your OB. If he/she dismisses you, go to your primary care physician...and look for a new OB! You are taking the steps you need to get help, whether through meds, therapy, or just coming up with a plan for the upcoming days/weeks/months. GL to you! ((hugs))