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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Norah is currently screaming her head off
DH is trying to put her to bed. For some reason, every time he tries to get her to sleep, she screams. I don't really know what to do. I've been up with her since 4 a.m., I cleaned the house, made dinner, cleaned up after dinner, gave her a bath, and tried putting her down, but she was resisting and I'm freaking tired now. So I passed her off and now I'm listening to her scream.
I don't want to go in there and get her because 1- I need a break, too and 2- I don't want DH to think I think he can't do this.
On the other hand, I know he already feels like a gigantic failure as a parent because of the constant screaming whenever he puts her to bed or changes her diaper, and I hate the sound of her crying.
Ugh.
bishes be crazy
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Re: Norah is currently screaming her head off
Could something be bothering her and that is why she doesn't want to go to sleep?
Could she be teething or not feeling well but not showing other signs?
I don't think so. She was quiet with me, just not sleeping. She has always always fought going to sleep. Doesn't matter if we try before she starts acting tired, when she first shows sleep signs, or when she is so worn out she can barely hold her eyes open. She just closes her eyes and pops them back open. It takes hours to get her to bed.
Honestly it's really up to you. We do CIO until DD gets on track with her sleeping. What I mean by that is if DD was sick but is now better (like right now) and we need her to get back on her sleeping schedule we have to do CIO. Nothing else really works for us anymore. If we rock her she wants to play. So we rock her and then put her down for bed and do CIO from there.
As I was brutally reminded 4x tonight...... for DD.... it only gets worse by going back in. So as I type this I hear DD in the background. Trust me... I feel your pain.
GL!
Yeah, honestly I've refused to do CIO because it just doesn't feel right to me. With both DH and I constantly fighting her to sleep, it's frustrating us both and I feel like we don't have another choice. I really really don't want to leave her to cry alone, and right now I can tell myself "at least she's with DH." I just don't think our current arrangement is sustainable for much longer.
That's cool. That's why I said it's really up to you. I know not everyone does CIO.
I guess just hope DH rocks her to sleep then? Whatever your meathod is I hope she falls asleep soon because I know it can be stressful.
This sounds juuuust like DD and we did the Sleep Lady Shuffle (Kim West) at 14 months and it was so perfect for DD. You don't have to leave the room for them to CIO. You're right there beside them during the whole process. The downside is that it definitely takes longer than more no-nonsense CIO methods, but you're with them the whole time and they learn to put themselves to sleep. It may sound ridiculous, but it changed my life. Before DD began to put herself to sleep every night, I started dreading bedtime at about 4 p.m. Best of luck!
My son always went down fine but would wake up at 1:30 am on the dot every single night for months.
I hated to hear him cry so I would go in and cuddle and rock and sometimes let him sleep with me to avoid the crying. I felt so guilty.
But, we were both exhausted and I had to make a change.
I HATE CIO and always said it was cruel and would never do it nut nothing was working and I had nothing to lose so we did and it and I am sooo glad I did.
I think of it in a positive way, I gave my son the gift of knowing that he is capable of putting himself to sleep on his own. I am a single mom (NOT by choice, mind you) and I don't have a husband anymore to help me and pass the baby off to when I need a break. I had to do it alone.
It was devastating to hear him cry and cry and cry and cry, but baby and I stuck with it and now, a few weeks later, he is sleeping and so am I. It's a process and it isn't overnight and I agree with PP that going in only makes the LO cry even harder and makes it worse.
It's not perfect, we still struggle everyone once in a while (like when he is sick - I do give in because he needs comfort) but it has been the best decision.
Now, I give a kiss and the door is shut and it's bedtime. GAME OVER..GOOD NIGHT.
I found that the nightime routine was actually making him anxious..he knew the crib part was coming anmd I was just dragging it out.
Lean on your hubby for support and you will be thrilled with the results.
GL!