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Going to visit a new mom - advice?
One of my best friends had her first baby last week and I volunteered to stay with her on Friday night and take care of the baby while she sleeps (I have 2 of my own - a 3yr old and a 9month old, so I have some experience), wash baby clothes, wash pump parts & bottle nipples, cook, or whatever else she wants help with.
Is there anything in particular ya'll would appreciate being done for you or would like someone to bring you?
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Re: Going to visit a new mom - advice?
My mother came and vacuumed and dusted for me. It made me so happy to see how clean things were! I'm sure any cleaning would be appreciated. Also, I loved when people brought food. We appreciated it so much as it made meal time for us so much easier.
I think the most important thing is helping her out so that she can get some sleep. If you didn't do one other thing, that would still make you a rockstar in my book.
Sounds like you have a good plan! During that time I really wanted to be the one to care for my baby (I was EBFing without using a bottle), but really appreciated my friends/family who came over with a meal and cleaned. A friend deep cleaned my kitchen which was wonderful because when I was grabbing quick meals, I wasn't concerned about the mess I was making. I think that I would have loved for someone to give me a little break so that I could take a long bath or shower.
So considerate of you! She's a lucky friend. I agree w/previous posters. My MIL/FIL come over and I while I'm trying to bond w/baby, they have been great about helping in other ways around the house, cooking, cleaning etc. Also being able to leave little one in the arms of someone who won't take their eyes off her helps me to be able to sleep and shower. I'd say offer up these things and let Mom decide
Thanks ladies! Yes, I'm thinking I'll do some cleaning & cooking while the new mom is awake and then take care of baby while she sleeps. She's breastfeeding, but having some latch issues, so she's mainly pumping right now. And her baby does not sleep well at night so she ends up being up most of the night even when she's not pumping or trying to nurse.
Bring a dish that can be frozen and easy to cook.
The biggest thing is don't overstay. Two of my friends did not get the hint and I had to kick one out and hint to the other that we had to get going somewhere.