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CancunSunsetBride · January 2011

I'm starting to second guess if we should rely on our anatomy scan's gender result from yesterday and I'm curious if this was everyone's experience:

As soon as we got there we told the tech that we wanted to know the gender. The tech said right away, "I'll try my best but sometimes they are stubborn and we aren't able to tell." Fair enough I thought.

10 minutes into her taking pictures (some shots she told us what we were looking at, others she didn't), my husband asked, "So have you seen anything yet that would tell you if we're having a boy or girl?" To which she replied, "from what I've seen so far, I'd say it's a girl, and I see a lot of these pictures."

Ok so we were set! So then I said, "ok so it's definitely a girl!" and she said, "well we'd never say definitely, you can never be sure until the baby comes out what the sex is." So I start getting annoyed and say, "yeah, but you're sure enough that we can start buying girl-ish bedding and things." And she said something to the effect of, "from what I've seen I'd say girl but you never know."

I kept thinking she'd look at more pictures to give us a more definite answer but she never did. At the end, I said "are you still thinking it's a girl", and she said "yes but again we NEVER say for certain because of liability." And I asked if she could give me a percentage, like is she 90% sure, and she said they don't give percentages.

!!!! Yesterday I went with it, from some of the people I talked to about it, they said that's normal, but now as I go to start buying bedding and stuff, I'm hesitant.

Was this your experience or would you go back for a second opinion? I'm waiting for my doctor to call with the results of the scan (although the tech said everything looked good) and I'm going to talk to him about it, but in the meantime I'm curious. Maybe I'm thinking too much into it. I just want to know for sure!

lefirebug · January 2011

That's normal... like she said, she wouldn't tell you for sure for liability reasons. They do get misread occasionally, but that's really rare. Congrats on your little girl!

Lisa Frank · January 2011

At my anatomy scan, I also had a tech that had that uncertainty in her voice. She did however tell me that she was 90% sure that it was a girl and she was writing it in my chart as such. She also told me she'd fit me in if I came back on a Tues or Thurs. (the tech is inside my doc's office.) Well, that next Thursday I had an appt so I asked if she could check again for me and she did. We are now certain that we are having a girl.

It's frustrating when they have that uncertain tone. I definitely know how you feel! I didn't buy a single thing in that 2 weeks between my ultrasounds, because I wasn't sure.

Is there any way you can get another u/s or pay for an elective to be sure??

I'm so sorry that she wasn't more definitive in her answers. I know they are just covering ass but it still stinks

Oh and we also didn't get a really good picture at our first u/s either. That was the biggest thing for me. I needed to see those 3 lines!

tokenhoser · January 2011

It's never a FOR SURE thing. Our tech also gave the "let me know if I was wrong" disclaimer.

That said, we saw a pretty prominent penis. I'd be shocked if she was wrong.

KatieRL1979 · January 2011

Buy your stuff, keep the receipts. They can't say for certain to anyone. It does happen (not frequently but it does happen) when they say boy or girl and what comes out is the exact opposite. You can always wait to see if they do another ultrasound in the 3rd trimester and go shopping at the last minute if you feel up to it.

Heather & Nayt · January 2011

Thats very normal. Our tech told us that we would be ok buying girl things, but keep the tags on.

With DS, even at 35 weeks with a very obvious penis they wouldn't tell us 100%. Its annoying but they have to cover their butts too.

Congrats on your girl!

tarak1111 · January 2011

I felt the same way after my U/S.. Didn't get a good "vibe" from the tech.. I also did not get any good pictures of "The Goods", so that makes me worry too.. Due to a Low Lying Placenta I am having a follow-up U/S next week so hopefully I will get more of a confirmation of the sex and feel better about it!

Mekapooh26 · January 2011

Okay I feel what your going through I went to my u/s appoinment Dec 20th 2010 she said oh the baby has his or her legs closed so we cant see so she went on telling us everything she saw and doing the measurement then she go its a boy me and my hubby looking like really she said yeah i seen it and were like we didnt its a tv in front of us and i guess we both just missed that lil open gap he gave her.... I ask her are you sure its a boy she told me and a NASTY VOICE I been doing this since before you were born on that note my hubby grab my leg cause i was going to snap on her..... so i guess im having another boy we will see i have another u/s on Feb 14th 2011 if she wrong imma have to tell her its time to retire....lol

p1nklemonade · January 2011

there are sometimes that they are really not sure, but usually they just need to cover themselves and the hospital. we have had two hospital scans since finding out it was a girl at the ob's office. she is obviously a girl, three lines present, no protruding parts, but the tech will only bring up the picture and say, "i am almost for certain it is a girl" or something like that. and she explained that they cannot give you 100% she did say something to the effect of, "if i could give you 100%, i would"

NeverEnoughTime · January 2011

Our US tech wouldnt even say the word boy.

She said "do you see those two little bumps with the thing sticking up in the middle? DO with that info what you will". Thats all we got.

aprilsarahjune · January 2011

I have very clear pictures of my girls' girl parts. The u/s tech knew within seconds and she didn't give a disclaimer. But I have heard lots of stories about techs getting it wrong. I have also heard that some techs get really testy when people push the gender issue because the techs are looking for medical issues. Yours seems like she was particularly testy ...

Mrs.Saxy · January 2011

I'd say it's a girl. Did you get a print out of the u/s? Can you see 3 lines? Well, you can compare it to my boy u/s in my siggy.

CancunSunsetBride · January 2011

Unfortunately no, we didn't get any money shots printed out. From what the tech said, I'm guessing she saw those shots and just didn't point them out Not a very good tech!

The doctor did just call though with the results of the anatomy scan and said everythign looked perfectly healthy (much more important!) and I told her about our experience, and asked her if that was normal, or if that could mean that the tech jsut didn't see anything definitive. The doctor said right away that that was a completely normal experience, and that we wouldn't have heard anything more definitive than that. The doctor also said that no matter what is said during the ultrasound she would NEVER advise going with pink or blue for big things that you can't return.

This is obviously a very conservative office I'm dealing with But at least that tells me that this is the most I'm going to hear, that going back for a second ultrasound won't make a difference. I'm thinking we'll have another one at some point and we'll just check again I guess.

STB3 · January 2011

I had the almost exact situation happen to me yesterday. I am 16 weeks and wasn't sure we would even be able to know. When at the appointment the tech was very nice in saying that she believes it is a girl. She told me not to take any tags off or lose receipts but it was mostly positive. Now I've been spending my day seeing how much I can find on the mistakes that can happen when gender is discovered at 16 weeks. The one thing I found is that it seems more mistakes happen when a girl is predicted and it turns out to be a boy.

I just would like that little bit more of reassurance, which I'm sure you all understand. I have another scan at 20 weeks, I just wish I didn't have this doubt. It's not the end of the world so I'm sure I can wait and feel better after 20 weeks.

Thanks for listening

sjacks · January 2011

I am having a girl and the tech got a really good shot showing that it was a girl. You can see the little lines and her legs were positioned perfectly. At the end of the ultrasound, I asked the ultrasound tech to double check just to be sure and we saw the lines again. I asked if she was sure and she said, "We can never say 100% but from the looks of this picture, I would be shocked if it wasn't a girl." I totally agree with her too.

amy21tom · January 2011

Our u/s tech said "oh yeah, definitely a boy" but he was super active and there were multiple times we could all tell he was definitely a little boy. we got really clear pictures too.

I think techs are always more hesitant with girls because boys are easier to identify. I'm sure your experience is normal.

If you eat right before an u/s usually the baby is more active and you'll have more chances to see!

jamlsull · January 2011

Our tech got a good clear shot of the lines and said girl immediately. The doctor also came in & went over everything she already did with the anatomy scan and also got a good clear shot & said girl. Neither came off like it was just a possibility so I guess we are pretty confident.

aerotigergirl · January 2011

I second what others have said: if you really want to know in advance, it might be worth it to pay out of pocket to have an elective gender screening at another facility. I haven't had one myself, but loads of people here get them (it seems) and are usually happy with the results. I know one office in my area even has a policy that if the baby doesn't cooperate during your initial visit, you can come back for free until the sex is determined.

We are team blue, and we had our NT scan and our anatomy scan at the same office (not at my midwife's office). At our NT scan, the tech was very friendly and gave us an early guess on the sex (she guessed boy). At the anatomy scan, after seeing that everything was developing properly, I asked the tech and she searched around for a while and the baby wasn't cooperating so well. She went back to her desk to handle some of the paperwork and told me to move around a little to see if I could get him to change positions, and then she tried it again. It worked, and this time we saw boy parts (without question). Even then, she said "it looks like a boy" but obviously she can't make any guarantees.

Congratulations on your little girl! If you're still unsatisfied, try an elective sex scan. I really doubt that your tech's tone of doubt is indicative of anything other than her need to cover the practice's butt.

Eskijewels · January 2011

I would be more concerned if they told u it might be a boy than a girl, if there's nothing there, chances are there's not going to be when the baby comes out. All babies look like little boys in the beginning so if this were an earlier ultrasound I wouldn't be too sure. You're 19 weeks and I'd be almost certain that whatever the tech saw should be accurate. We saw my son at 11 weeks and we waited till 20 weeks to make sure that he was in fact a boy...which he is..as for our girl we decided to do an elective U/S before our anatomy (which is thursday) so we'll see if they match up. I showed our doctor the photos from the U/S and he said that he definitely believes it to be a girl. if you still don't feel right about it then maybe if you have some extra money go do an elective U/S, they usually concentrate a lot more on gender determination than medical so you might get a more detailed view of whether it's a girl or a boy! Good luck!

forensicmama · January 2011

Buy your stuff within the return dates (some stores say you can return only within 90 days or something like that) and keep the receipts. Be annoyed all you want, but ultrasound gender detection just isn't 100%.

breannarrd · January 2011

It is definitely normal:) I had a very good tech with a really good streak, but I didn't totally rely on her telling me either. I had to see a specialist when I was 24 weeks, and they did another ultrasound and the tech said that I was having a girl so she re-confirmed for me. I was really happy, and still am. I'm used to girls! I have two little sisters.
I was just hestitant to be set at 20 weeks on the sex of my child, but I figure 24 weeks is far enough along to tell. Also, a woman was helping find my way out of the hospital, and asked what I was haivng. I told her I was having a girl, and she said well little boys testicles could drop later. I wanted to ask her if his penis was invisible until then too, but I just said okay, thanks. lol.

momtoRaegan041008 · January 2011

With my daughter, we went in and told her that there are more waiting to come in, but we wanted to know the gender before they did. She took some measurements, then she had a clear shot and said it's a girl. She also said 90%.

00tedsgirl · January 2011

My OB did my u/s and he said, "This looks like labia." It gives him wiggle room, but lack of penis and visible labia was enough for us. Unless our kid is like the one in Middlesex, in which case we'll deal with that after birth.

ams8099 · January 2011

They can never tell you 100% until the see the baby. If you are that concerned, you can have an elective u/s at a private facility to double check the gender.

That being said, u/s technology has come a long way and I am sure you can buy your girly clothes in confidence!

ITGurl0626 · January 2011

aprilsarahjune:
I have very clear pictures of my girls' girl parts. The u/s tech knew within seconds and she didn't give a disclaimer. But I have heard lots of stories about techs getting it wrong. I have also heard that some techs get really testy when people push the gender issue because the techs are looking for medical issues. Yours seems like she was particularly testy ...

My U/S tech was the same way. There was no mistaking the 3 lines, we even got 2 pictures of my girl's girl parts as well.

Neukim · January 2011

my tech kept telling me over and over it's a girl..I have nothing to worry about ...it's a girl!

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