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Potty Training
Looking for advice/tips/words of wisdom
We tried the 3-day method with DD back in late Oct/early Nov. She did not respond well to it at all. Despite my efforts to keep it light hearted and to not scold or anything of the sort when she had an accident, by the 4th accident she was sobbing every time it happened, and it was not a successful venture at all. It really upset HER that she went in her pants, not me, and in a round about way, it made her afraid of the potty.
I've tried a few different approaches since then, but she really just has a fear now of peeing/pooing. She will sit on the potty fine, but she'll hold it and then wait to go in a diaper. And the days we've gone sans diaper, she'll sit on the potty, and then as soon as I pull up her pants she wets herself. We have made trips to buy new undies, "thrown away" diapers (we used cloth, so we packed them up for the new baby), tried books of all sorts, m&ms, etc., and she just absolutely refuses.
DD is certainly a stubborn child. She knows that we want her to go in the potty, and that she should go in the potty, but won't. I think initially it was fear, and now I think it's 72/25 fear and manipulation. There is definitely a fear factor there--I don't want it to seem like she 'has my number' b/c that's not the case, it's just that I don't know how far to push when it's something she's clearly afraid of doing 'wrong'. She's 100% Type A and a perfectionist, and I don't think she likes 'failing', and she can't get past that point to be successful, if that makes sense.
IDK where to go from here. I know she's 100% capable. Do I go back to the 3-day and ride it out?
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Re: Looking for advice/tips/words of wisdom
It sounds like you have a great motivating factor there! Turn the negative into a positive...even if she does begin to have an accident, place her immediately on the potty panties and all. If any of the pee goes into the potty have a party!!! and don't be in such a hurry to flush the accomplishment. Make a big deal of it, call family and friends. you may want to warn them in advance though, so they can give a great response as well. Soon she will want to go potty and accidents will be less and less. Once she realizes how to get success, she will likely crave it from there on out if she is type A.
No more diapers, pull-ups, etc (except at night). This is key, you have to be consistent.
HTH. Good luck!
I'm not sure I was clear--I was asking if we should go back b/c I had put her back in diapers for awhile. Everything else was back in Nov/Early Dec.
So to update, we went back to underpants today. We were literally out of diapers. I had her cloth still, but didn't bring those up. She actually climbed into the bathroom cupboards to see if I was fibbing, LOL. I wasn't. She agreed to put on underpants, and only had one accident this morning! She fell apart when she did, but after doing so I explained again that she wasn't in trouble, it was just an accident, no big deal, blah blah...and she agreed to putting underpants back on and went about her day. So far...MUCH MUCH MUCH better than the last time we went cold turkey, so we'll see how the afternoon goes.