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Yikes!!! WHO IS THIS KID?!?!
Seriously.....a monster has kidnapped my sweet boy and cloned him and then sent the clone to my house to be a disagreeable, moody, screamy, little terror. What the heck did I do to deserve this?!?!
All joking aside....has anyone had any success is disciplining a 3 yr old who acts up like this.....or do I just have to wait it out. If I have to wait it out, then how long does this stage last. OMG.....nightmare toddler.
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Re: Yikes!!! WHO IS THIS KID?!?!
3's were far worse than 2's. At 4, it's getting better.
I don't know if you allow him to watch TV or if he has any other major favorites, but removing access to privileges and letting M scream it out in her bed worked miracles. She is a TV addict, I'm sorry to confess. Telling her she gets no TV for the night and following through with it has only had to happen twice. Just the threat of it generally makes her fall in line again.
She really tries to talk back too. I want her to stand up for herself but I don't want her thinking she can be disrespectful, so we have done several bouts of the corner, and if she continues to sass, spit (go pbbbllllttttt at me), stick her tongue out, etc. I put her in her room to cry it out. She hates being alone so that is a major punishment to her, even though she has a ridiculous number of toys in there.
Positive reinforcement of when she says things nicely goes a long way too. About a week or so ago she said something nice and I told her it made my day. So since then she will be uber polite and respectful and after I thank her she says, "Did that make your day mommy?" For now, making my day is a huge reward for her all by itself so I'm going with it, lol.
3 is likely to be rough. Hang in there. Draw boundaries. Stick with them. Even if it punishes you too for a night. This is completely natural and probably why people encourage us to have a second kid or at least be pregnant before the other one turns 3.
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
Everything is black and white with me (with very little grey). She knows if she does A, B happens (rather if this is a good A, B = reward or bad A, B = no reward or even taking away items, timeout, etc..)
I always give her a warning and then count to 3. (I highly recommend that Magic 1-2-3 book) I never get to three anymore because she pretty much straigthens up at 1. The first few times I did the counting to three, she did test me, and right after I say 3, she would see that there are consequences (i.e. time out..even if I had to physically drag her kicking and screaming, taking away whatever she's playing with at the time, turning off the TV, etc...) After about a week of this, she finally got it. Also, she is fully aware that I will discipline her anywhere we go because there's a corner for her to stand in for timeout at every restaurant, church, building, etc...
Oh yes. I have taken Maddie to a discrete corner of Randall's and made her stand there for 3 minutes while I was very embarrassed but enforcing my warning. She screamed and had a FIT. Like I said - it was really embarassing. But she got the point. She has also stood in the corner at Wal-Mart, Target, and Mimi's Cafe (in the bathroom so we didn't disturb people eating).
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
The 3s are indeed the worst!!! My sweet and serene 2nd-born DD turns 3 next month and she's definitely showing her devilish side. It cracks me up but it's also simultaneously horrifying. I've been through it once already but every child is different. Older DD just got more intense, but she was intense already so the change wasn't nearly as dramatic.
It's somewhat hilarious to watch E. stand in the middle of the room and scream at the top of her lungs. She gets all red and enraged when she can't have something she wants or do something she wants to do. It's like she's possessed!
Yes! We are going through the same thing with E. And it's been especially trying for the fact that having a new baby brother coincided with the onset of the crazy threes.
Kohen's 3's were WAY worse than his 2's. Kamryn just turned 3 in December and she is starting to get a little sassy
Just stay consistent and you will get through it. Wine also helps
Sounds like my experiences with a 3-year-old.
I think you get to do both: ride it out and discipline. They don't really get it, but being consistent about discipline paves the way for future compliance. (At least it was like that for us.) It was a trying time. It felt like time outs didn't work. It got better after 3.5.
He was moody, contrary, and prone to fits.
Now, when he acts up, he knows he goes to time out and apologizes. It is better by far.
Good luck. You'll be in a better place soon.