Anyone out there with a SAHD?

erinkate23 · January 2011

DH has been a SAHD for the last month, and it's kind of... weird. Good, I think, but weird.

Anyone else out there?

ash07a · January 2011

My ex husband was a SAHD when I had our three girls . Yes most people find it weird but it's what work for us at the time .

massdreams · January 2011

Us! DH quit his job in August to be a SAHD. Most people think he was laid off, but it was our choice. It has been working out so great for us! DS and DH have a great time together and DH is so good about doing activities with him. He does say that it is sometimes weird to take him to playgroups, library sing along... and be the only guy there, but he's gotten used to it for the most part. He still does some part time work on the side for financial reasons. But we decided this summer we needed one of us around more since we were getting pretty burned out, and it made sense for a variety of reasons for him to take on this role.

Bella427 · January 2011

DH was a SAHD for about 18 months with DD. He was laid off and did freelance work from home after I got off work in the evenings. He did get tired of SAHMs giving him the side eye but it worked out pretty well! They went to the playground almost every day, the library story times, the zoo, etc. DH said the key to staying sane was getting out of the house once per day. I loved not having to take time off work when DD was sick, not having to pack lunches or get her ready before I left in the morning, etc.

kmwiegand · January 2011

My DH will be a SAHD when DD is born any day now. He works from home anyways (freelance graphic, computers, and photography), but it was never full time. So he will still do the freelance, but maybe less of it, and be home with DD. It will be "weird" for me, because I kinda want to be a SAHM, but I know it is not what is best for the family.

SushiNoMore · January 2011

My husband is going to stay at home when this little guy shows up. He had a pretty serious back injury, and was out of work as result of that. He's recovered enough to take care of a LO, though, and I'm thrilled that he's going to stay home.

It makes a lot of sense for us. I have the fancy pants MBA, and he was out of work for awhile due to his injury. There's no way he could come close to making the money I do, and our town is cheap enough that he can stay home without any strain on our budget.

Plus, my husband will be a much better stay at home parent that I would be. He has infinite patience, which I'm sure will serve him well.

Jessys_Girl · January 2011

When DD was first born my DH was laid off, he was home with me all during my maternity leave and then was home for a few months after I went back to work (I went back May 3rd, he went back to work August 3rd). He is again laid off (for a few weeks) and is at home with DD now.

He says he feels weird about taking her to activities where he's the only dad, but he does it anyway because DD enjoys it so much. And the SAHMs have warmed up to him I guess.

kristennd · January 2011

DH is going to be a SAHD. It's something he's wanted to do since before we even met and I've never liked the idea of staying home myself. When we bought a house this spring, we were careful to get one that we could afford on just my salary. He is getting some grief from some of the men in his family and the fact we're in a small town could make activities awkward, but I think he'll be well suited to it overall.

JOEBunny · January 2011

I am a SAHM, but out of the 7 kids (all boys) in DS's playgroup, 2 of them have SAHD. One's mom is a college prof, the other is an top exec with a major company. They are both great guys who had great careers and are now super SAHD. I really like them because DS and DD don't get to see their dad as much as he would like, since we decided it made more sense for him to work 60 hours a week than for both of us to work 100 hours a week for less money, which was the choice we had. It is really nice to have both male and female care givers at home. I would work if my DH wanted to SAHM. We both did the same thing before I had DD and made about the same amount of money. DH would rather be the one to work.

Enjoy having your DH home. Encourage him to meet other SAH parents. It is harder for the men (at least it has been for the 6 SAHD's I am pretty good friends with, but it makes a big difference to both the kids and the dads.

jbosworth · January 2011

My DH was laid off a week before I went back to work. I went back Aug 22nd. He is enjoying it but it is trying at times for him. It is great to see the connection with our daughter.

It was a little awkward at first but it is going very well...The best part is getting pictures through out the day on what they are up to.

Lurker216 · January 2011

My DH is a SAHD. I finished grad school Dec 2009 and my starting salary was over 2x what his max would ever be. We really wanted someone to stay home with DS, and then the company my DH worked for went under in March. He loves staying home and the boys have a good time together. I wish I could be home more but it is what it is.

julyjennifer · January 2011

kmwiegand:
He works from home anyways (freelance graphic, computers, and photography), but it was never full time. So he will still do the freelance, but maybe less of it, and be home with DD.

Same here. I make buckets more than DH would, so we always kind of planned that he would stay home. The arrangement works well for us overall, but he feels a little crazy with it just like many SAHPs do (cabin fever right now in MN). I think he looks forward to when the kids are in school and he can work more.

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