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Do grandparents create photobooks of vacations they were NOT on?

randa603randa603 member
in Parenting after 35

My mil and mother always beg me to send them our pics...even if they were not with us.  I'm okay with them developing a couple pictures to show off to their friends...but my mother always develops all of our pictures.  She then shows them to all her coworkers(people I don't know).   

My mother just created a photo book of our recent vacation...every single picture!  She was NOT on vacation with us.  If she had been on this vacation, I would not think anything of it. Do your parent's do this?  Are you comfortable with it?  I didn't grow up with my mother and her behavior is bizarre to me most of the time.  


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Re: Do grandparents create photobooks of vacations they were NOT on?

  • lawry13lawry13 member
    My parents don't do this nor do any of my aunts/uncles who are grandparents.  Seems a little odd to me.
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  • gimmietimmiesgimmietimmies member

    My mom and MIL like to see the photos, but might ask for only 1 or 2 cute ones for their albums of all the grandkids.Without going into the gory details, I know someone who does this and it is very awkward and I know that it is upsetting to the person she does this to. Not typical behavior, usually attention seeking, bragging, and scorekeeping on her part. 

    WIWD is send them a link to the photos so they can see them, and only give them access to a few for their brag books. I'm guessing that they aren't making the photobooks to give to you?

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  • SassystaceSassystace
    That would bother me too. I stopped sending as many pictures to my ILs b/c they would put them on Facebook. Could you share pictures with her more selectively? Or just send her some prints occasionally?
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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member

    Yes, this is weird.  She needs to get her own life and not try to live yours.

    Just send her a few choice photos.

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  • ateytelbateytelb
    We have all our albums on Snapfish and when Jason was a baby my IL's used to print out every single pic and make their own physical albums. I think they are still printing out our pic's but not all of them. It doesn't bother me: my IL's are 86 and 84 y.o. and I am glad something still makes them happy. Once we had guests from my native country visiting, and we took them on a boat tour around Manhattan. A few weeks after that my FIL made an album for us with pic's of all bridges that we took during the tour. I actually thought it was a  great idea.
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  • randa603randa603 member
    imageBrideBuddies:

    Yes, this is weird.  She needs to get her own life and not try to live yours.

    This is exactly what my husband keeps telling me:)

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  • randa603randa603 member
    imagegimmietimmies:

    Without going into the gory details, I know someone who does this and it is very awkward and I know that it is upsetting to the person she does this to. Not typical behavior, usually attention seeking

    I totally feel this way! Also, she made the book for herself...


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  • peeper72peeper72
    I've actually made picture books for the grandparents. It's fun for me and they like it. If I sent all of our pictures it would be, like....thousands of pictures! Maybe upload a few of your favorites and send out little snapfish brag books now and then. From what I hear, this is the way that older people compete with each other. Puts you in control without seeming that way.
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