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Attachment Parenting
Quazel
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Who has a SAHD/PTSAHD?
Quazel
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It seems there are quiet a few of us here. Just wondering who we all are.
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Re: Who has a SAHD/PTSAHD?
DH is a SAHD during the summer.
:: Raises hand ::
DH is SAH/student. He just got a PT night job. I WAH but it's a corp job & I have to be "on" during regular business hours, so the only difference between me working at an office & at home is my commute & dress code.
We may be switching roles soon though, this has been barely sustainable for our collective happiness, especially mine.
Me!
DH is a SAHD who is starting full-time school in a week. He'll still be SAHD, but with my mom as part-time nanny so he can go to class. I like it, but I wish he cleaned a little more.
I love seeing the wonderful relationship he and DS have.
My DH works full time but because he is prof he only works 3-5 days a week and hardly ever a full day so he is here most of the time. There will be one day a week his gone from 6 am to 10 pm but mostly he is only gone from 7 to 430.
He does a lot of work at home but he still helps with ds and does most of the housework and cooking. I love that we will never have to put DS in day care even whe I go back to school.
For us it was the economy mainly, although gender roles have definitely played a part as well - just making us both more amenable to it than previous generations would have been, also making it easier for me to have a salary that will support us. As for parenting style, we did want to each have time home with DS and had jobs that were going to allow it (we only planned on having DS in daycare 2-3 days tops) but DH lost his job, and it has just worked out this way for us. Now it is mostly a choice for DH not to continue looking for work that takes him out of the home.
For us, it was a combination of a lot of things. I make 3x what DH used to, and I'm not cut out for SAH. He loves it. He has a very nurturing personality; this gives him the opportunity to go back to school to become a teacher, which is what he's always wanted to do (and it would work well with our life when DS is older).
It's nice to see others out there in the same boat. We always feel a little weird next to our peers. DH doesn't know any other SAHDs in "real life".
DH SAH PT (heh heh heh). He's home with DD 2-3 days a week, and we're lucky enough that my mom is retired and has her the other 2-3 days. He's great at it, and seems far less frazzled at the end of the day than I think I would be if I SAH. Sometimes I'm a little jealous that he gets to spend so much one on one time with her, though.
My DH is a full time SAHD. I finished graduate school in Dec 2009 when I was finishing up my first tri. My earning potential as a new grad was more than double what DH's max would have been. So we had pretty much decided that DH would stay home and I would work or we would both work part-time. In March the company DH worked for went under and he was laid off. He's doing some web design/audio editing on the side but for now is focused on our son.
After he was laid off he tried to get a private health insurance plan since it would be cheaper to do that than go through my employer. We found out he's uninsurable due to sleep apnea and a seizure disorder- he's had 4 seizures in 10 years but takes medication daily. So that means I have to work full time so we can have health insurance. I would love to cut back on my hours some but my employer is expanding and I don't think they would go for it.
DH enjoys staying home and is phenomenal with kids. It just makes it hard for me sometime to not see DS as much and be tired since he's been wakig up at night to nurse. Also, like I posted yesterday it makes it hard to meet moms since almost all the mommy groups meet during work hours.
I'm a lurker/newbie, too.
My SO is staying home with DD until March while he's laid off for the winter. I just returned to my teaching job on Monday. I am so glad that he's home with her. It's making the transition back to work a lot easier than if I had to bring her to day care right away. He cleans and does a great job caring for our LO. I'm really lucky!
My DH is a SAHD and student. When we crunched the numbers, his paycheck would cover daycare and gas and that's about it so it made more sense for him to stay home and get a degree. He's awesome at it!!! I'm jealous, though- being at work has been really hard on me and DS. But, it's what made the most sense for our family financially, so we're going with it.