a little vent...

PiperS · January 2011

I have not been able to be around the other pregnant people in my life BFF (due 2wks after I was) and SIL (due 7wks before I was). I know we have talked a lot about that. I have responded to a couple texts from SIL and I think she is really being supportive but still sending me messages here and there telling me she is thinking about me. BFF on the other hand has not reached out to me at all. We usually talk every day but now we haven't talked in almost 2 weeks.

I was thinking about sucking it up and texting her, but then I went of FB and saw a really insensitive status. It said, "Express has so many cute Spring/Summer stuff on their website. It sucks I am going to be too fat to wear any of it". It just really pissed me off. I may not be posting anything on FB but she must realize that I still read it. I am not asking for everyone to just keep quiet about their pregnancies, but to complain about something that stupid really annoyed me. I would give anything to have my baby still growing inside of me and could give two sh*ts about wearing the new Spring/Summer line! I guess I just need some more time. Sorry about the rant

WifeyWynn0626 · January 2011

You sound exactly like me. My BFF is due in May, and while it's hard to be around her, we've texted just so she knows I'm doing okay. Her statuses are always complaining about how sore she is because the baby is moving this way or that; she just wishes she could have a drink because her luck is sucky. I seriously just want to punch her, tell her to wake up and realize how lucky she. I'd give anything to have my July baby back. I've really realized recently that the old saying is true "You don't know what you got, til it's gone" and people who haven't had a m/c have NO clue what it's like.

lglf4 · January 2011

I'm sorry. I can relate. One of my co-workers is PG, and EVERY morning has to come in and dramatically tell us about her morning sickness and then spend ten minutes in the bathroom. She's always worried that she's already showing at 3 months, and paranoid that folks are talking about her. Oh, and a little pain here and there, and sooooooooo tired. She has actually grabbed me and told me that doesn't think she can get through the day--really?!?! Okay, we get it, you're pregnant!! It's annoying because she knows that DH and I had been trying for a year, and then gives me fake comments about how she hopes she's not upsetting me by giving me all the details. Oh, I almost forgot--she giddily showed me her maternity pants this morning, and told me that she's so much more comfortable. Yeah, good for you! Ugh!! It doesn't help that I m/c'd last night, and almost didn't go to work this morning...wish I hadn't. Good luck to all of us!! Let's all put our armor on to deal with the insensitive types.

raecheleblue · January 2011

I'm going through the same thing! My close friend is 3 weeks ahead of where we would have been. We lost our little one at 10wks about a month ago. She has been sending me emails with updates after every one of her OB appointments. Now is about the time that we would have been telling everyone and it seems like everywhere I turn this week there is someone else announcing their pregnancy. Even the stupid celebrities are bugging the heck out of me with the number of pregnant announcements!

npilcher506 · January 2011

My good friend is also due soon. I think I try too hard to make everyone feel comforatable around me. I try to look at the positive side (when I can find one) of the whole situation. Sooo..my friend has not held back at all on her complaining or her FB posts. I finally blocked her. All it was doing was making me sad and ruining our friendship. I agree with PP that you don't know what you have lost until it is gone.

Your friend just might not know what to say to you. I am sorry that she chooses to say nothing. I am so sorry for you loss.

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