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am I awful, am I the only one?!!?!?

aubie96aubie96 member
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We aren't doing a big party, theme or anything like that (maybe just something easy/simple like flowers or bright colors) for Lydia's birthday.  It'll just be family, us and her godparents.  I'm not doing invites or anything (I don't think).  I may not have a job and I'd rather put money towards savings or her savings.

Am I awful since everyone seems to do some big shindig?!!!?

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  • ameliaandmattameliaandmatt
    You're not awful at all!  They won't remember their first party, it's more for the parents than the kids anyway.  I think it's a great idea to put the money towards her savings, that's something she'll really appreciate in the long run!
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    imageameliaandmatt:
    You're not awful at all!  They won't remember their first party, it's more for the parents than the kids anyway.  I think it's a great idea to put the money towards her savings, that's something she'll really appreciate in the long run!

    this exactly...

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  • ImMrsMosesImMrsMoses

    imageameliaandmatt:
    You're not awful at all!  They won't remember their first party, it's more for the parents than the kids anyway.  I think it's a great idea to put the money towards her savings, that's something she'll really appreciate in the long run!

    I totally agree with this!

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  • MrsAOMrsAO

    You're not awful at all! I'm not big on judgment of other's choices unless you're putting a child in danger and you're clearly not doing that.

    I'm sure the celebration will be really nice and while she want remember it, she'll have pictures to look back on and say "thanks for doing that Mommy!!"

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  • star21gazerstar21gazer
    No you aren't awful.  The size of a party is a personal preference.  There is nothing that says the first birthday has to be this giant shindig.  Like Amelia said it's great that you would rather save the money, it's something that will be appreciated long term. 
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  • aubie96aubie96 member

    imageameliaandmatt:
    You're not awful at all!  They won't remember their first party, it's more for the parents than the kids anyway.  I think it's a great idea to put the money towards her savings, that's something she'll really appreciate in the long run!

    TOTALLY my thoughts too Amelia.

    Thanks ladies, I just felt like what Amelia said, she won't remember it, we don't have the money and I'd rather have what we can save go towards her later in life.

    ahhhhh........

    and I totally am NOT judging those that have big parties (shindigs as I said, ha) as it's a personal preference.

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  • MissLMSMissLMS member

    No! It's not like they are going to really even remember the party anyways.

    For DD's first, I did a lot as far as invitations, food, etc... but ultimately the party was all family and a few very close friends and we had it at a family lakehouse. Ultimately for her first few birthday parties it's going to be for mostly family for us.

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  • Soon2BMrsWileySoon2BMrsWiley member
    We are having a theme party, but aren't going all out.  He may not remember it, but I'm pretty sure he will enjoy it.  It will be like so much of the experiences his first year...going to the pumpkin patch, football games, the air show, seeing Santa.  He doesn't remember them, but the making the memories sure was a lot of fun!
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  • starsmaycollidestarsmaycollide
    of course you're not awful! I think it's fabulous that people get so crafty and creative with themes  and such, but I'm like you. Next year I'm positive we'll have something small too. It's just more our style.
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  • aubie96aubie96 member

    imagestarsmaycollide:
    of course you're not awful! I think it's fabulous that people get so crafty and creative with themes  and such, but I'm like you. Next year I'm positive we'll have something small too. It's just more our style.

    me too.  I just can't fathom spending the money on all of that when she won't even remember.  Whether it's elaborate or simple as long as we take pics and such that's all that matters - those memories that we can show her later.

    We won't have anything elaborate for a while - like Lydia it's just be mostly family.

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  • Temp206787500007404Temp206787500007404

    Nope, not awful.

    I don't understand huge themed birthday parties for babies (or really even at all other than big milestone birthdays, and even then I'm more inclined to save the money).  We had dinner (build your own tacos, burritos, etc) for our families and close friends followed by cake and ice cream.  That's it.

    I did send invitations, but only because I realized all of her monthly pictures would be cute on one invite and I wanted something for her baby book.

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