WTF Pregnant until proven otherwise.

ChickenLittle2010 · January 2011

I have a friend IRL that is also TTC, we were just on FB IM and we were talking about how we're both 4 dpo and what not. Then she goes on to say "Isn't it great being pregnant"

I figured she meant before, we both have boys about the same age. I said yeah. I really miss it, I can't wait to be pregnant again.

She goes "No, we're pregnant right now until proven otherwise"

I don't think she realizes how pregnancy works.......am I wrong to totally side eye her for this? Have you ever heard of this mentality.

Milliways · January 2011

I think she was just being optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant, I am sure she knows how it works. I actually think it would be nice to think of things in such a positive way. Now, of course if she starts talking about how she "lost the baby" in 2 weeks if she starts her period, I would say she is BSC, but that might be be a given considering the company she keeps.

CLeigh03 · January 2011

Ummm....that's odd. I'm with you on this one.

salt78 · January 2011

0_o

That's definitely a new one.

Bee101 · January 2011

It's actually kind of sweet and it sounds like she's just trying to be optimistic. I'm sure she knows it's not true!

I feel that I've lost all the innocence of pregnancy because of what I've been through but hopefully she'll never have to!

Mrs.Slick · January 2011

Yes, I've heard of it and honestly if it makes her feel better/keeps her upbeat I don't see what the big deal is. That way of thinking does not necessarily make someone ignorant.

psubride1012 · January 2011

Can't say I have heard of it, but they do start counting your weeks pregnant from the day of your last period (unless you chart and they use your O date), so I guess she is a "glass half full" type of person? If that is what gets her through the stress of TTC, then I say good for her!

jwls84 · January 2011

I couldn't imagine believing I was pregnant each month only to have to AF come around and prove me wrong, that is an interesting thought process. Not wrong to side eye this!!

RhodyMomToBe · January 2011

I'm sure she already knows how it all works since she HAS been through it before. I'm side-eyeing you for questioning her intelligence just because she is being optimistic about the whole thing.

threemarie24 · January 2011

That is all kinds of hilariousness! I can see watching what she does/eats in case she could be PG, but actually thinking she is PG, great stuff right there.

MySweetBaboo · January 2011

Milliways:
I think she was just being optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant, I am sure she knows how it works. I actually think it would be nice to think of things in such a positive way. Now, of course if she starts talking about how she "lost the baby" in 2 weeks if she starts her period, I would say she is BSC, but that might be be a given considering the company she keeps.

I'm with Milliways.

Mrs.Slick · January 2011

Milliways:
I think she was just being optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant, I am sure she knows how it works. I actually think it would be nice to think of things in such a positive way. Now, of course if she starts talking about how she "lost the baby" in 2 weeks if she starts her period, I would say she is BSC, but that might be be a given considering the company she keeps.

Milli, you are a creative genius sometimes. I nearly missed how wonderful this post is. ::two thumbs up::

sourapplemartini · January 2011

I know many women who go through IVF use that phrase.

To each their own.

loveypants · January 2011

Milliways:
I think she was just being optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant, I am sure she knows how it works. I actually think it would be nice to think of things in such a positive way. Now, of course if she starts talking about how she "lost the baby" in 2 weeks if she starts her period, I would say she is BSC, but that might be be a given considering the company she keeps.

Milli FTW

btaylor19 · January 2011

Milliways:
I think she was just being optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant, I am sure she knows how it works. I actually think it would be nice to think of things in such a positive way. Now, of course if she starts talking about how she "lost the baby" in 2 weeks if she starts her period, I would say she is BSC, but that might be be a given considering the company she keeps.

I may have just fallen in love with you Milli Embarrassed

Wish Upon A Star · January 2011

It kinda sounds like The Secret. I understand wanting to be optimistic, I have played the wishful thinking game myself-I think most people have to some degree- I would never say anything like that to another person. It's the sort of thing I hope to myself.

MandyBrownNoser · January 2011

sourapplemartini:
I know many women who go through IVF use that phrase.
To each their own.

Given that with IVF you have already fertilized eggs implanted, you are somewhat pregnant already, just waiting on the second part- implantation.

I say as long as she doesn't go off the deep end and proclaim cp/mc each cycle then to each their own.

reinstone · January 2011

btaylor19:
Milliways:
I think she was just being optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant, I am sure she knows how it works. I actually think it would be nice to think of things in such a positive way. Now, of course if she starts talking about how she "lost the baby" in 2 weeks if she starts her period, I would say she is BSC, but that might be be a given considering the company she keeps.
I may have just fallen in love with you Milli

Just?

ChickenLittle2010 · January 2011

threemarie24:
That is all kinds of hilariousness! I can see watching what she does/eats in case she could be PG, but actually thinking she is PG, great stuff right there.

She already eats super healthy and gave up booze to TTC. But no, I don't think she is the type of person to ever claim a CP or MC because she looks at it this way. She's already been TTC since september and has never been down at all about it. I was just wondering if anyone else thinks of it like this.

JSRICH · January 2011

loveypants:
Milliways:
I think she was just being optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant, I am sure she knows how it works. I actually think it would be nice to think of things in such a positive way. Now, of course if she starts talking about how she "lost the baby" in 2 weeks if she starts her period, I would say she is BSC, but that might be be a given considering the company she keeps.

Milli FTW

Yes.

Tootsie1213 · January 2011

Milliways:
I think she was just being optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant, I am sure she knows how it works. I actually think it would be nice to think of things in such a positive way. Now, of course if she starts talking about how she "lost the baby" in 2 weeks if she starts her period, I would say she is BSC, but that might be be a given considering the company she keeps.

Ba ha ha! Well done Milli, well done. Yes

tigerhearted · January 2011

Sounds to me like a quirky little tongue-in-cheek comment. Sounds like something my husband or I would say to each other. XD

BarooGirl · January 2011

At first thought, I was thinking- awww, how sweet- she is so "glass half full". Maybe I should try it...

Then I thought -Screw it, I wouldnt be able to drink or have sushi..

I think it is a cute positive way to be hopefull, but not for me.

HoneyBee111409 · January 2011

RhodyMomToBe:
I'm sure she already knows how it all works since she HAS been through it before. I'm side-eyeing you for questioning her intelligence just because she is being optimistic about the whole thing.

I don't think this is true at all. There are a lot of people out there who have had kids before but are completely clueless about how getting pregnant actually works. AND you have no way of knowing if she was "just being optimistic" or really just is clueless. I'm side-eyeing YOU for thinking that because people have been pregnant before they are incapable of actually believing they are pregnant at 4dpo.

RhodyMomToBe · January 2011

HoneyBee111409:
RhodyMomToBe:
I'm sure she already knows how it all works since she HAS been through it before. I'm side-eyeing you for questioning her intelligence just because she is being optimistic about the whole thing.
I don't think this is true at all. There are a lot of people out there who have had kids before but are completely clueless about how getting pregnant actually works. AND you have no way of knowing if she was "just being optimistic" or really just is clueless. I'm side-eyeing YOU for thinking that because people have been pregnant before they are incapable of actually believing they are pregnant at 4dpo.

I think you woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning and just needed something to pick at. However, I will reply.

You have no way of knowing that either. So why not give someone the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming they're a dumbass? How do you know she didn't gather a lot of information/knowledge when trying for her first child? You know, like YOU are TRYING for YOUR first and reading/learning about it. Unless you're really just a fat, bald, old man who gets his rocks off in front of a computer screen while reading about CM, periods and vaginal ultrasounds. Which, again, I will give the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not.

I think it's sad that just because she is thinking about things differently than other people (who shall remain nameless) that people automatically assume she is clueless.

brookelynpaisley · January 2011

RhodyMomToBe:
HoneyBee111409:

RhodyMomToBe:
I'm sure she already knows how it all works since she HAS been through it before. I'm side-eyeing you for questioning her intelligence just because she is being optimistic about the whole thing.

I don't think this is true at all. There are a lot of people out there who have had kids before but are completely clueless about how getting pregnant actually works. AND you have no way of knowing if she was "just being optimistic" or really just is clueless. I'm side-eyeing YOU for thinking that because people have been pregnant before they are incapable of actually believing they are pregnant at 4dpo.

I think you woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning and just needed something to pick at. However, I will reply.

You have no way of knowing that either. So why not give someone the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming they're a dumbass? How do you know she didn't gather a lot of information/knowledge when trying for her first child? You know, like YOU are TRYING for YOUR first and reading/learning about it. Unless you're really just a fat, bald, old man who gets his rocks off in front of a computer screen while reading about CM, periods and vaginal ultrasounds. Which, again, I will give the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not.

I think it's sad that just because she is thinking about things differently than other people (who shall remain nameless) that people automatically assume she is clueless.

While the original comment cited by the OP isn't something I'd ever say, optimistic or not, I have to agree with this.

HoneyBee111409 · January 2011

RhodyMomToBe:
HoneyBee111409:
RhodyMomToBe:
I'm sure she already knows how it all works since she HAS been through it before. I'm side-eyeing you for questioning her intelligence just because she is being optimistic about the whole thing.
I don't think this is true at all. There are a lot of people out there who have had kids before but are completely clueless about how getting pregnant actually works. AND you have no way of knowing if she was "just being optimistic" or really just is clueless. I'm side-eyeing YOU for thinking that because people have been pregnant before they are incapable of actually believing they are pregnant at 4dpo.
I think you woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning and just needed something to pick at. However, I will reply.
You have no way of knowing that either. So why not give someone the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming they're a dumbass? How do you know she didn't gather a lot of information/knowledge when trying for her first child? You know, like YOU are TRYING for YOUR first and reading/learning about it. Unless you're really just a fat, bald, old man who gets his rocks off in front of a computer screen while reading about CM, periods and vaginal ultrasounds. Which, again, I will give the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not.
I think it's sad that just because she is thinking about things differently than other people (who shall remain nameless) that people automatically assume she is clueless.

I didn't advocate for either side. I simply said that you have no way of knowing which one it was, and that I wouldn't assume that just because people have been pregnant before that they understand how it all works. I didn't assume she was a dumbass or that she actually knows these things. You, my dear are the one getting your panties in a bunch and throwing out lame-o insults just because I didn't agree with you.

RhodyMomToBe · January 2011

Posted before I was done.

herbnhollie · January 2011

If that gets you through the 2ww then go for it. But does she get depressed after when she's not?

RhodyMomToBe · January 2011

HoneyBee111409:
RhodyMomToBe:
HoneyBee111409:
RhodyMomToBe:
I'm sure she already knows how it all works since she HAS been through it before. I'm side-eyeing you for questioning her intelligence just because she is being optimistic about the whole thing.
I don't think this is true at all. There are a lot of people out there who have had kids before but are completely clueless about how getting pregnant actually works. AND you have no way of knowing if she was "just being optimistic" or really just is clueless. I'm side-eyeing YOU for thinking that because people have been pregnant before they are incapable of actually believing they are pregnant at 4dpo.
I think you woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning and just needed something to pick at. However, I will reply.
You have no way of knowing that either. So why not give someone the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming they're a dumbass? How do you know she didn't gather a lot of information/knowledge when trying for her first child? You know, like YOU are TRYING for YOUR first and reading/learning about it. Unless you're really just a fat, bald, old man who gets his rocks off in front of a computer screen while reading about CM, periods and vaginal ultrasounds. Which, again, I will give the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not.
I think it's sad that just because she is thinking about things differently than other people (who shall remain nameless) that people automatically assume she is clueless.

I didn't advocate for either side. I simply said that you have no way of knowing which one it was, and that I wouldn't assume that just because people have been pregnant before that they understand how it all works. I didn't assume she was a dumbass or that she actually knows these things. You, my dear are the one getting your panties in a bunch and throwing out lame-o insults just because I didn't agree with you.

::bangs head against brick wall repeatedly:::

1 - Honey, if my panties were in a bunch you would know it.

2 - You didn't assume that she was a dumbass? Side-eyeing me for giving her the benefit of the doubt pretty much does that for you.

3 - I have a snow day to enjoy so I am done with this post.

MrsHteaching4life · January 2011

Milliways:
I think she was just being optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant, I am sure she knows how it works. I actually think it would be nice to think of things in such a positive way. Now, of course if she starts talking about how she "lost the baby" in 2 weeks if she starts her period, I would say she is BSC, but that might be be a given considering the company she keeps.

::dead:: Milli how I miss thee

DChunt09 · January 2011

RhodyMomToBe:
Posted before I was done.

Certainly with Rhody on this one. Plus, If I read correctly, the conversation happened through IM. You can't hear tone or sarcasm over IM. You can only ASSUME what one means until you ask more in depth. If this were a friend of mine, I wouldn't assume she was ignorant. Also, if it keeps her upbeat, good for her. We all do things that other people may not understand.

ProcrastinatingBride · January 2011

Knowing that this is commonly-used language during the IVF process makes even the title of this thread kind of anger-inducing in me. Super Angry

StephK · January 2011

ProcrastinatingBride:
Knowing that this is commonly-used language during the IVF process makes even the title of this thread kind of anger-inducing in me.

I can only hope and assume that CL didn't realize this. Otherwise, I'm giving her the side eye for being insensitive. Hmm

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