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katecham
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New, question about sensory issues
katecham
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Hey, I'm new to this board but have a question. My 6 year old SD has decided she won't wear underwear. Last summer ALL of her clothes were "too loose." Her pants had to be literally digging into her leaving marks for her to wear them without whining the whole day.
Within the past few months she has started complaining about underwear. She will throw a huge fit, crying and screaming, for an hour. It has gotten out of control. She says they "give her a wedgie." We have tried the wedgie-free undies, we have tried bigger panties, we have tried smaller panties. Nothing works. She started going commando with leggins, but now even those are "giving her a wedgie." Her mom called today and said that she has stopped wearing her leotard at dance and gymnastics for the same reasons. This week her mom said she was going to take SD to the doctor. When SD wouldn't eat her dinner, the doctor told her she needed protein and it worked like magic-she is very good about "nutritional foods" now. SD told her mom that she wants to go to the doctor...
Her mom just had a baby in November. I would normally think that the baby has something to do with it, but the clothes issue has been going on for longer than the baby has been around...
She is above average in school (testing a grade ahead) and has no signs of autism as far as I can tell (I have 2 cousins with autism and work with special needs kids), but autism spectrum is the only thing I can think of that would have such huge sensory issues.
Anyone have any experience with something similar or have any advice/information? We have no idea what to do anymore. We just can't keep doing the HUGE fight every morning!
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Re: New, question about sensory issues
Not to contradict MrsSR but neurofibromatosis rarely presents through sensory issues like this. -IF- the child has many 1-5cm cafe-au-late spots (type of birthmark) it might be more pragmatic to believe this, or if the family has a history of schwannomas, but otherwise I believe this may be a behavioral issue though I agree a doctor should be consulted to rule out any physical cause for the change.
Urinary tract infection, perhaps? Those can manifest with little pain sometimes but great heaps of irritation.
Also as a woman with a 5 year old who went through something similar with underware issues it was due to her budding awareness of her own sexuality and it was not until I sat with her and explained vaginas were meant to be moist and that was ok and the tenderness could get worse and hurt more if she rubbed too much, but there were also good ways to explore that were perfectly healthy but she needed to do that in her room? Well you get the idea. Perhaps offering to let your daughter wear what she wants in her room only, would help, and then you set the standard all layers of clothing are required if she wishes to (or must go) outside of her room.
I know I was really squeamish about all this stuff but... just trying to help!