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VBAC
New Here and question (kinda long)
Hello!
I don't get to spend too much time on the bump, but I recently noticed this board. I have one son who was born via c-section 4 months ago. I was in total shock that I had a c-section because I never thought in a million years I would need one. I had a great pregnancy with no complications. I went 10 days past my due date and was scheduled to be induced, but I fortunately went into labor the night before. Labor was painful, but I endured, eventually giving in to an epidural. When it came time to start pushing, I gave it my all and pushed for 2 and a half hours, trying everything, even opting to turn off the epidural. My doctor then said she thought he was caught on my pelvic bone and didn't think that I would be able to push him out.(She confirmed this, once she cut me open-he was really stuck) She knew I didn't want a c-section, so she gave me the option of waiting, but his head was stuck and not going anywhere, so I agreed that a c-section was the best for baby and me. I was exhausted and shaking.
I am healing well. I don't feel at all like I was forced into having a csection. My issue now is I really want to try for a VBAC, but I don't know what questions to ask and where to start on my research. I plan on discussing this with my doctor when I see her in March, but I want to know what I should ask. DH and I are planning to start trying for #2 this summer. I would just like to make an attempt. I sometimes feel a little disappointed that my body didn't quite do what it was supposed to and I just want that experience! That was my first time I ever had to stay in the hospital and first surgery I ever had, so needless to say, I was not prepared for it at all.
Thanks for reading and for any advice/information that you have.
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Re: New Here and question (kinda long)
My CS was my first hospital stay and surgery also (and not planned) so I hear you! Definitely talk to your doctor at your follow-up. I had a midwife and I successfully VBACed my second child. It was a wonderful experience and I am glad I did it. That said- one thing you need to do is come to peace with your CS and make sure you understand that it COULD be the result the second time around. I am glad CSs are available in certain situations, but I just don't think they should be used out of convenience. So, check out your options and the ICAN website and make your own informed decision.
Good luck!
Your story sounds like about 70% of the VBAC hopefuls on this board, including me. A lot of us had similar experiences - overdue baby, long inductions, "baby is stuck", failure to progress, etc, etc. I personally believe that my story could have been different if I was stronger, better prepared, had more support, wasn't tied to monitors, etc, etc
The biggest factor is finding a provider who will support your wish for a VBAC. And probably a doula, too. Then you'll probably want to work with someone on methods and positions to open your pelvis before and during labor.