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List of who to call
Did you make a list of people to call after your baby was born? Or was it a mass text message?
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Re: List of who to call
I didn't make a list. However, I didn't finish packing my hospital bag until I was in labor (and DD was 2 days late!), so I'm a bit of a procrastinator.
I called my Mom, and my siblings, and DH called his mom/dad, and his sister. Our moms called our grandparents, and aunts/uncles, and everyone else received a mass text message. I would have liked to call more people, but I was too tired!
We didn't make a list. DH called our parents after DS was born and I was in recovery. How sad- we just put the info on Facebook and figured it'd spread accordingly
We did call/text some friends and other family members, but it's the type of news that doesn't take long to spread
DH called both parents & his 2 sisters along w/our Pastor so they could put it on the Prayer/Praise email chain.
Since I'm a planner, I had planned beforehand that we would then just do a mass email (DH brought his laptop with). My juno email account has a List setting in the address book, so I just put all the email addresses together so i could just click on the List I wanted (I made a list for family, friends, etc..) and then just sent them an email stating the basic info.
It's funny w/DS I was the one who called our Pastor & 2 other people only a few hours after giving birth, but w/DD I think I was too drugged up (since I had severe high blood pressure I need some meds that really made you funky) :=) Our pastor couldn't believe I was doing the calling (plus I did the Nest post that night as well). We did have SIL get on my FB & post our info until we could get on later that night. (Since I had an induction & DS was born in the evening we knew people were getting worried that they hadn't heard from anyone).
You could also just have a list & give it to a friend or family member if you really want some people to know by phone.
I had a text message 'drafted' already in my phone with the people I wanted to send it to. That way all I had to do was write the details and press send. DH called our parents, but honestly...he didn't want to have to be on the phone to a million people. It was important to us that we be able to spend time and bond as a family, which would have been much harder with his ear stuck to the phone. Texting was the quickest way to let people know without having to make a bunch of calls.
Later in the day he started to make a few calls here and there, but mostly people called us. Like Renee said, that's the kind of news that doesn't take long to spread.
I know that our parents made a whole bunch of calls right away, so everyone that wouldn't have gotten a text got a call from them.
Next time, I don't think we're going to tell anyone for about 24 hours after LO is born. I mean, of course certain people will know...but I'd like to keep it quiet for as long as possible to give us time to recover and relax.
BFP#2: 8/14/11 M/C 8/30/11 6w1d
BFP #3: 10/26/11
Beta #1 @11dpo: 22 Beta #2 @13dpo: 90 Beta #3 @17dpo: 480
Missed m/c 12w3d 12/28/11, d&c 12/30/11
dx Homozygous C677T MTHFR
My mom and sister pretty much hung out at the hospital the whole time I was being induced. My sister was supposed to be in the room when I was delivering but that didn't happen b/c of the c-section.
My mom called my dad and brother/Sil to come when the c-section was called and Dh called his parents to come who called my sil. So they were at the hospital when DD was born and got to hold her when we got out of recovery.
My sister had access to my fb paged and updated it. Than I am sure the parents called extended family to let them know right away.
Our immediate family knew right away. Everyone who was local (11 people) was in the hospital waiting room all day. It was the biggest mistake we made--calling everyone as soon as I was admitted. We didn't expect them to show up. I was in labor for 18 hours, and they kept hovering around the nurses station, my door, etc. before they were told to go to stay in waiting room. It added so much stress to delivery.
My DD was born at 11 p.m. so we didn't make many calls--just siblings who didn't live close. I'm sure my DH updated Facebook and sent a few texts. We're digital nerds. He sent an email the next day. I made personal calls the next day.
I was the same way. My mom and DH were in the delivery room with me, my mom cut Gabriel's cord instead of DH (he didn't want to). Afterwards my dad, sister, MIL, and SIL came into the room and didn't leave until like 3am. Then we had more visitors later that morning. I didn't really get to have my alone time with Gabriel, which I really wanted, but no one wanted to respect that. Stand your ground so you can have the birth experience YOU want.
BFP#2: 8/14/11 M/C 8/30/11 6w1d
BFP #3: 10/26/11
Beta #1 @11dpo: 22 Beta #2 @13dpo: 90 Beta #3 @17dpo: 480
Missed m/c 12w3d 12/28/11, d&c 12/30/11
dx Homozygous C677T MTHFR
For me our familes are out of town, so just my parents were here since they were watching DD & they came only when they knew it was ok to come. Of course I wanted them to come & see their new grandson & also for DD to meet her new brother. My friends never "needed to come" visit, so unless I asked them, no one came. I had our pastors, my old boss & another friend come, cuz for me, I didn't mind having company, made the daytime go a bit faster.
Remember that the nurses are there for you, they'll be the "bad cop" and tell those that are there to leave if you want them too, you just have to ask them.
For me our familes are out of town, so just my parents were here since they were watching DD & they came only when they knew it was ok to come. Of course I wanted them to come & see their new grandson & also for DD to meet her new brother. My friends never "needed to come" visit, so unless I asked them, no one came. I had our pastors, my old boss & another friend come, cuz for me, I didn't mind having company, made the daytime go a bit faster.
Remember that the nurses are there for you, they'll be the "bad cop" and tell those that are there to leave if you want them too, you just have to ask them.
I just made a list this weekend!
It's very basic, but I don't know how alert I'll be so I made a list for H.
It has all parents/siblings (who will already obviously know that we're at the hospital if they are not yet there themselves).
Also the Grandparents and a couple of close friends. I'm such an introvert, I'm sure I'll wait at least a day or so to announce to the rest of the friends if word hasn't spread by then.