GRR! Get over it mom!

Uwannalala · January 2011

So, yes, it's true, my husband and I weren't necessarily trying to get pregnant. But we weren't trying not to either. Either way, we are excited and it's really no ones business but ours.

Well, tell that to my mother. Of course, the night I told them she did the initial "what happened?!" "Why weren't you on birth control?!" conversation. Which is NONE OF HER BUSINESS. Im 27, not 17.

Now, every single phone call she mentions what a "surprise" it was and how it happened "so fast" in a negative manner.For example, tonight she asked if I was excited about my ultrasound tomorrow. By nature, I honestly just don't get really excited about things until they happened. Which I told her. Her response... "YEAH, it all happened kinda fast huh?"

She is excited and she likes my husband.. so I don't know why she is donig this. She is one of those people who really cares about what people think so maybe shes trying to validate it. But it makes me feel "bad" and a "failure" like I did something wrong.

Ugh, just had to vent. It was so hard to bite my tounge on the phone!!

babybchbum · January 2011

This is the exact reason we haven't told my parents. I feel your pain, this is how my parents were in regards to my engagement and I have a feeling they won't be excited for this news either. "They are too young to be grandparents"

angiek1 · January 2011

That would drive me nuts. What does she want you to be bummed out? I would talk to her and let her know how she is making you feel. Maybe she doesn't realize she is projecting her reaction on you so much.

Fisherman'sWife · January 2011

We were in the same boat and were nervous about how the parents would take it. My dad flat out asked us if this was planned and my mom asked me if I was on BCPs (more out of safety risk for the baby).

I just responded, we are very happy and excited and thats all that matters

amama87 · January 2011

Ours wasn't exactly planned either. We've already told our parents, but we're dreading telling the rest of our families for fear of the "WAS IT PLANNED?!!" question. DH is particularly afraid of telling his cousins, because they will instantly bombard us with questions and look at the pregnancy negatively if they know it wasn't necessarily intentional. We are MARRIED, that is no ones business but our own. Ugh!

Breezy1979 · January 2011

When my husband told his ex-wife (his son's mother) that I was pregnant, her first question was, "Was it an accident or planned?" Then her next question was, "Did you use in vitro?" WTF kind of question is that? I am 31 years old, so it is not like I am young, but I couldn't believe she asked something so off the wall. I know she 'accidently' came up pregnant right around the time they started having relationship issues, then ended up getting married, so maybe she thinks that is the norm.

tourqeyes · January 2011

babybchbum:
This is the exact reason we haven't told my parents. I feel your pain, this is how my parents were in regards to my engagement and I have a feeling they won't be excited for this news either. "They are too young to be grandparents"

As words of encouragement, my mother originally said this before we got pregnant. I was extremely nervous to tell my parents, but when I did they had an amazing reaction, MUCH better than I could have ever anticipated. I was afraid they would be upset and stressed myself over it but was very, very surprised.

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