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Mother's Day, 2011
Did you read the Wonder Weeks?
Will you please tell me that I can and will get through this eight week hell?
I'm exhausted from the night wakings and the nursing every 90 minutes. I'm in pain from trying to rush through everything with her in my arms or a hastily wrapped sling in order to get anything done before she needs to eat again. I can barely get anything done even on the days when M is home, and if one more person says "just don't do anything, just nurse and play and love your baby" I will stab them with the pointy bit from inside a Dr Brown's bottle because if I can't get things done, I will fail three classes and lose my scholarship.
AKA, I'm at my wit's end. I don't know how I'm going to get through another day of this, much less tomorrow when M is teaching all day and Saturday when he goes to help his sister move.
Encourage me. Help me think of new ways to feed her constantly and not sleep without wanting to curl up in a ball and curse everything. Tell me it will get better and this will end...please...
Mother's Day, 2011
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Re: Did you read the Wonder Weeks?
This too will pass...
Do you have a Moby? There's a way that you can nurse in the Moby. I'm not smart enough to figure it out, but I'm willing to bet you can. Ideally you'd be able to feed her, then quickly move her to a position to either hang out or sleep while you have your hands free to get something done.
Were you able to find a swing?
Have you tried the Baby Crack machine? I was totally against it until I broke down last week when Olivia was not willing to sleep in her crib. It could at least be a temporary distraction.
It will end - swear!
I can't relate to the BFing, but one suggestion: would it be possible to nurse her in a wrap or sling? That might help, if you need to get something done.
As for sleep, is it possible for her to sleep with you? I know both of mine would sleep longer if I slept with them and my SIL nursed her baby and would sleep topless with her so the baby could basically latch on and she'd barely wake up.
Hugs, Krista! I've found with both of mine just when I think I'm about to lose every bit of sanity I have, they start sleeping more, or eating better, or whatever was driving me insane.
I caved and "hired" a friend to come over twice a week and bring her little girl to watch DS1 and to hold/rock DS2 when he wouldn't settle. I paid her going babysitting rate, plus a bonus, and honestly, wouldn't have survived last semester without her. She's a SAHM and it was perfect for her, she got some pocket money for essentially a playdate. It was amazing for me, since even though I was in the house and on-call for feedings, I still had that in-between time to rush around and get stuff I needed done. Is there someone who could do something like this for you? As a super added bonus, the companionship of another mom was a HUGE help to me, when I needed to cry or vent. We didn't really have the money for it, but I really needed it.
She had her 2nd baby recently and so the deal is off at the moment, and I really miss that "me time" it gave me.
It does get better. I feel like around 6-8 wks something clicked and things felt much better. I can't think of anything that hasn't already been suggested.
(((hugs)))
You CAN do this!
But, is there anyone (other than your bat-***-crazy in-laws, that is) who can come give you a hand for a few hours each day? It really sounds like that's what you need!
Thank you women. We're already co-sleeping, and I can't imagine how bad it would be if we weren't.
We skipped the Moby and went straight to a woven because it offers better back support, but I can look up the Moby videos to see how to nurse in a wrap. I hadn't thought of that, but hopefully it will help!
I have a friend who's going to come over next week a few hours for a few days, which should help a lot. It's just the getting through the next few days, you know?
I really appreciate the support and suggestions!
Mother's Day, 2011
If you have a Moby, this video should help: m.youtube.com/#/watch?desktop_uri=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DTLduLJFSJn4&v=TLduLJFSJn4&gl=US (sorry it's not clicky) I was never Abe to nurse G in a wrap because he was too long by the time I tried but I know Kat uses that method with Eliza - she shared the video with me.
(((HUGS))) I hope things get better soon! You have so much on your plate. If I livrd closer, I'd come pitch in
I just want to echo the above. It will get better. It's all about survival at this point.
Nursing in the wrap is awesome. I had trouble doing it while I was walking around but I was able to nurse hands free sometimes, which was helpful. The problem was that my LO hated baby-wearing (yes, she is strange), so I wasn't able to do it often. It sounds strange, but not wearing a shirt would be helpful. Just put your wrap on and then stuff some receiving blankets or cut up tshirt squares in front of your boobs to catch any leakage (assuming you're still needing breast pads). Your baby will be able to latch on quicker and allow less fuss to get everything ready for nursing.
Get some help, as it sounds like you are.
I think I felt a lot better at around 10 weeks post partum. It shouldn't be too much longer for you!
As someone who has been there (haven't we all), the only thing I can reiterate is that you CAN and WILL get through it, and somewhere down the road you'll forget how insane your life was at this moment.
You're an amazingly strong person and Mari is so lucky to have you!