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Trouble TTC
mrsharris15
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Lets talk about sperm...
mrsharris15
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DH's SA came back 2 days ago and he has low morphology (2%), everything else is normal. I was suppose to start clomid this next cycle (PCOS) and now that we have to add an iui to the list DH says no. I think he is in shock or something, he won't really discuss it, and I am worried. Did anyone elses DH have a similar reaction? Did it take them a few days to process? I'm hoping and praying he will come to terms with this...
On another note, does anyone know of success stories with a low morph and iui?
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Re: Lets talk about sperm...
MH has 2% morph also. He says he is prepared to do whatever it takes to have a child of his own. We just had our first IUI and the RE is very hopeful even with the low morph because his total number is good. I dont think he would waste our time on IUI if it were not possible to get pregnant that route.
Maybe if your husband has a little time to let it sink in he will come around. T&P for you and your husband.
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui)
#1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
#2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015
#4!!!!!!! due June 2017
There are plenty of success stories with low morphology (even without IUI). It's one of those things that is kind of controversial- some REs think it's important, some don't. MH is at 3%, my RE was not worried at all (he is more concerned about volume for us). He said "it's only 1 below the cut off, not a big deal". I've seen other women say their doctors have sent them straight to IVF, but I think that's pretty extreme. His urologist wasn't concerned either.
Here's a link to a blog I love written by an RE at NYU- it's specifically about morphology and I think it makes a lot of sense: https://infertilityblog.blogspot.com/2010/07/sperm-morphology-new-guidelines.html
It takes a lot of men a bit of time to process, so I wouldn't worry too much about that. As for being anti- IUI, MH was kind of like- I think we can do it on our own, but if it helps get us there faster, I'm in. Maybe you can explain it like that so he doesn't feel like he NEEDS IUI in order to get you pregnant? More like, hey, doesn't hurt to get a little help, right? But I would suggest a second SA, as the numbers can fluctuate.
Also, there are a bunch of studies on vitamins/supplements that have improved morphology, if you want a list, just let me know
Good luck!
I hope it is ok I respond. I 100% agree with what the PP said about morph. It can vary so much from sample to sample. If his total count and his motility are ok then I would not be overly concerned or fear IUI will not work for you. I do agree that IUI is your best bet though but I feel that way about any medicated cycle regardless, after taking the meds why take a chance on not making sure the timing is right and the sprem gets where it needs to be.
My DH was on board once we received his results, it took him a long time to get the first SA done though because he refused to think we could both have issues at a young age. He would also get very quiet/upset on the morning on IUI when he would have go drop his sample because he was always fearful about how bad it would be.
I think you have a great chance at IUI doing the trick and I hope your DH comes around. I am sure he will. ((hugs))
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Oct. 2010 = IVF #1 = B/G Twins (passed away Feb. 2011)
May 2011 = Myomectomy and trans-abdominal cerclage (TAC)
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Feb.2012 = Hail Mary IUI #4 = BFN
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I am sure he will come to terms with it...eventually. When my tests came back normal and we were waiting on his results I could tell that he wasn't going to handle any bad news well. Our tests came back ultimately with low sperm, poor motility and "abundant" head, neck and tail defects. I think for my DH it wasn't the matter of the percentages but rather it was a hit to his manhood. My DH didn't brave the conversation for weeks and if it was brought up he asked to stop.
Since his first SA (august 08) he has definately talked about the fertility situation more. But he is still guarded in that he refuses to tell his family, not sure if that's the same in your case.
My advice? Time! Don't be defensive or pushy (which I tend to be) just be there when he is ready.
HTH and GL
MH's SA came back with low rate and low viscosity. I shared the results with him over the phone, fully expecting he would want to talk about it more when we both got home from work. But he didn't and really hasn't asked any questions. He seem's pretty disinterested in it. But we also already had an RE appt scheduled, so maybe he figured he would wait to see what the doctor said. Because of our ages, I've told him all along that I will go as far as I possibly can to try to carry a biological child.
I agree with the PP. Give it some time and let him process it on his own. Sorry though, I'm sure its frustrating!
Im so sorry about your news. We are not dealing with MFI but i wanted to share my experience anyway. MH is very into things happening naturally and in the beginning did not want to hear about any of this. He didn't know how time sensitive these things are and was just hoping we'd hop in to bed and end up pg. Since we dont have MFI issues, we were doing TI. I didn't respond to Clomid but if i had, TI would've been fine. We did one round of Gonal F and finally got the chance to trigger. Our RE suggested IUI and had me preapproved for it, but MH didn't want it. He freaked out and said he would like to at least try once on his own. I couldn't argue with him because he had a valid point. I was willing to take that risk because of the way the cycle had gone i was unsure about its outcome anyway. We had fabulous timing and all went well, but i found out i didnt O after all of those shots and triggers and such. He was in agreement that since i went through all the treatments and needles and ultrasounds and such that if we tried TI once and it didnt work that if i was going to go through all of that again, that we would do an IUI. I just had a lap done last week and am currently waiting to take provera to start AF again and we are going to try another injects cycle before moving on to IVF.
I know some guys need things to sink in and they need to feel like they are doing things on their terms. I never pushed him to do the IUI the first time and we compromised. We will still have sex around the IUI and someone told me you never know which sperm it was that fertilized (when and if that happens) so maybe it was the IUI maybe it wasn't. Definitely give YH some time, and usually when they hear it from the REs mouth it holds more water. I feel like i leave the office some times in my head saying, "see i told you so" lol Best of luck to you and YH!