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Having kind of a frustrating day...
Aubrey is so close to walking...I mean so close! Yet something is still holding her back. I have just been going about my business with it lately, but this morning something was sent to me that really got to me...I'm not sure if it made me mad or hurt my feelings or both.
An aquaintance of mine sent me a long email basically telling me that it's weird that Aubrey isn't walking yet and that something must seriously be wrong with her. She said all babies are walking by their first birthday and seeing as how Aubrey is well past her birthday that I should see the red flags. Okay let me stop right here and say this person has zero kids...so there's her credibility.
I'm really not sure how to handle this. I mean this literally came out of the blue, and I haven't really talked to this person in a few months. I don't really even want to respond to her because I don't feel like she even deserves the time it would take me to respond to her.
So I'm thinking I should just ignore her...she clearly doesn't know what she is talking about and there isn't anything wrong with my child. I just don't get where she comes off sending me this email.
To top it off Wes is really sick...he's at the urgent care place right now because he thinks he has the flu, and when he called his regular doctor they refused to see him because they don't see possible flu patients (which is weird to me) and I am hoping I don't get it. This might be a stupid question, but if it is the flu, and Aubrey has had a flu shot, does that mean she can't get it, or does it just lessen her chances?
Sorry to vent...I just needed to get that off my chest. Thanks 
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Re: Having kind of a frustrating day...
Ugh, I'm sorry that she sent you that email and that it upset you. Girl, there is absolutely nothing wrong with Aubrey. As you said, she has NO kids, so her credability went out the window!! I'm pretty snarky about things like that, thus I would email her back. It would be something along the lines of mind your own business, you have no idea what you're talking about, you have no kids therefore your input doesn't mean anything to me. People without kids never understand that each baby is different. Plus, I just hate people that feel like they know best for others and actuallly have no idea what they're talking about.
As for the flu, I heard on the news the other night that the flu shot takes approx 6 weeks to get fully in your system and start working. So I would think that Aubrey would be protected if she'd had her flu shot before 6 weeks ago. I've always understood it to mean if you got the shot you, you wouldn't get the flu.
I would just ignore the email. She is your child, and you know your child better than anyone else does. All kids develop at differently. My nephew refuses to crawl and he should be he also didn't roll over when he was supposed to, but his Dr. says he is fine and will do it when he is ready.
As for the flu shot. It just lessens your changes of catching the flu.
I agree with a lot of this! Does she know about your earlier concerns, or that Aubrey has been receiving PT? If she does know that and still said something, I would be even MORE upset! Either way though, she had absolutely no right to email you in the first place. I would probably respond with a snarky email too, but don't let her worry you! Aubrey is a happy, healthy little girl!
I honestly would be livid if I were you. Your child's development is you and your DH's business... no one else's. I can't believe she would send you unsolicited advice, especially when she's never had kids of her own.
Plus, I have heard plenty of people whose kids first walked well after 1 year!
I would basically reply and tell her that Aubrey been to PT before and that according to the child development books, as long as she's walking by 18 months or so she's completely normal. I would also tell her to keep her nose in her own business.
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This. I wouldn't be able to let that one go without a reply. Perhaps a, "WOW, I didn't realize you were a pediatrician! Congratulations!" would suffice.
Thanks ladies.
I did reply to her telling her that there really was nothing to be concerned about, that Aubrey is currently in PT and has come a long way since July and that she will walk when she is ready. I did inform her that not all babies are walking at 1 years old and that most pediatricians are not concerned unless you have reached 18 months of age with no indication of walking anytime soon (this means no cruising, pulling up, walking while holding onto hands etc-all of which Aubrey do just fine.)
She then replied to me saying "Well if you weren't concerned then why did you have her in PT at 9 months old?"
That one I replied a bit more snarkily(is that a word?) to. I told her "Well not that it's any of your business and I'm not sure why you are so concerned about my child and think you know better than me, her mom, but we put her in PT in July due to concerns of her not bearing weight on her legs. This was done by recommendation of her pediatrician. Now I'd appreciate it if you would quit drilling me and telling me my child is weird because she's not...she's a normal 14 month old who is happy and healthy. Talk to me again when you become a mom yourself and realize just how different every child truly is."
That made me feel better
I agree with every bit of this. If it were me, I wouldn't be able to ignore it. Otherwise I would stew and get more and more mad until I blew up.
People kill me! I can't believe some of the crazies that exist these days. Sorry she hurt you.