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Two middle names? (Long & rambling!)
Clerk9
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I know it's a little early to worry too much about this, but I figured I'd ask for your opinions anyway. 
DH & I have two boy names that we love, so we're set there. But we still haven't agreed upon a girl's name (I say "still" because we've discussed this on & off for years!).
Here's my dilemma:
1. Wanting to name LO after MIL. Her maiden name is Everett, which I LOVE & I even adore as a girl's middle name! (But I wouldn't do that to a girl for a first name.) MIL doesn't have any surviving immediate family, so it would be really nice to honor her in this way. If we have a boy, this will definitely be the middle name.
2. Wanting to name LO, if she's a girl, after my grandmother (deceased). Nonny's name was Adele, which I don't care too much for as-is (plus it's becoming too trendy for my taste), but there are lots of variations that I could like. She was very special to me, & I'd love to name a LO after her. Plus, I had this freaky dream within the past week or so that I told Nonny we'd name our baby after her! (So, pressure from the beyond there.) 
3. Liking the flexibility of picking one of the many other adorable little girl names out there! Of which I may have a list on Microsoft Word. In special font.
My big concern is that we don't know if the future holds another LO for us (heck, I'm still crossing my fingers that we get to meet this one!). And, even if it does, there's no way to tell what the sex will be. So if we have a girl this time, it may be my only chance to name our baby after my grandmother, as I'm considering MIL's maiden name to be unisex for our purposes. But if it's not in the cards for us to have another LO some day, this may be our only chance to pick a name, period! My natural inclination is that two middle names (ex. one for MIL & one for my grandmother) is a little excessive. But it's not crazy out there, is it?
WWPGALD?!? Is anyone else considering two middle names (or has a DS or DD with two)?
FWIW, I'm not really stressing about this. Just trying to work out a game plan. Thank you for any input!
P.S. I didn't want to post on the baby names board because I'm afraid of insane & unreliable responses from people I've never heard of before.
P.P.S. I warned you that I'm rambling!
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Re: Two middle names? (Long & rambling!)
Oh my....well since you asked for opinions....
Having multiple middle names is just so....no. Don't do it. Please.
I'm sure there are no issues when the kid is, well, a kid, but as soon as they grow up, it will become a pain. Here's my reasoning:
Part of my job involves registering people with the Fed. There are ALWAYS issues with people who have two middle names. It is such an effin hassle for me, for the Fed, for the person with two middle names. It's beyond redic. US software systems just aren't set up to handle two middle names. They like one first name, one middle name, and one last name. Now if we were in a different country where two middles names were the norm, and all their software was designed to handle this, then sure, go for it. But the two middle names thing means that you're setting the poor kid up with a lifetime of hassle whenever they need to submit their full name for something. Many times, it will come out like: First Middlemiddle Last.
I'm not a fan of made up or conjoined names for first names, but the nice thing is, you can get away with a lot for middle names. Given any thought to making up a middle name that combines both grannies' names?
"Evedele" maybe?
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Hmmm...maybe not.
Hee hee. But points for originality!!! 
I had NO IDEA of what a hassle that could be! Ugh. The two middle names thing was just a recent brainstorm, but it's definitely a cop out. I think we're just going to have to go back to the drawing board...
Thank you SO much for that very useful information!!!
You're totally right...I may just have to come up with some other special way to acknowledge our families. Still, I know there will be hurt feelings if we pick one family to name LO after & not the other (but people can get over it!). Funny, because my two sisters & I were all named after people on my father's side of the family, but I think my mother would be the one most hurt if we named LO after DH's family!
And THANK YOU for sharing about your mother. This idea is sounding worse & worse!
You ladies are invaluable.
Harper Oksana, born on her due date, January 20, 2011, and the love of my life
So if it's a boy it sounds like middle name is Everett. Not sure how you would integrate your deceased grandmother there....unless there is a masculine name comparable to Adele.
If it's a girl, perhaps name it after your grandmother, and then have MIL be a godparent if you are planning to have LO baptized? That way she would be honored with this LO in a special way and so would grandmother.
I personally am not a big fan of the 2 middle name thing, fwiw.
Thank you again for your input, ladies!
Spincat: Yeah, if LO is a boy, we're not even going to try & name him after my grandmother. And I don't think we're going to be doing Godparents, although that is a lovely suggestion!
I think I may just have to get more creative with the one middle name scenario. I hadn't even made the 2 middle name suggestion to DH yet...when he got home from work today, I told him about the idea & this thread & he just giggled at my silliness.
We've still got some time to figure this one out. If we're fortunate enough to make it to the anatomy scan, I'll fill you ladies in on the final verdict.
Thanks again!