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NMR: Starting the journey of gestational surrogacy
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gee, wonder how many views that title will get
Not for us, DH and I are done (at least for now). I've always been intrigued by surrogacy, but never knew if I could "do" it. DH was totally opposed when I brought it up months ago. I brought it up again a week or so ago and he's very supportive about it now (don't know what changed, maybe just me talking about my feelings towards it, etc). Living in MO is already proving to be an obstacle apparently MO isn't a very "friendly" state when it comes to surro. I did find an agency in IL that will take on MO residents, I have the application filled out (just need siggys, scan, and e-mail, too bad my scanner's crapped), profile (for the parents to review), background check, medical release (OB has to say that I'm healthy enough for another pg), and that's about it. Once they get all of that, do the background check, then DH and I will go for psych eval to make sure that we're sane enough and understand what we're committing to. Once we pass that, we'll be shown to parents. Their site says that their average time line from application to pg is about 4m. So excited, wish us luck.
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Good luck! You're doing an awesome thing for the couple that chooses you.
If you don't mind my asking, are you using your eggs or will you be using donor eggs?
Thats great! May i ask your reasoning for doing this? To help others?
I have debated doing this, but im still chickening out. I was very blessed to have such an easy pregnancy and i see so many of the ladies on these boards that try so hard for years and it never happens. I would love to help!
Keep us updated.
I'll definitely not be using my eggs (Traditional Surrogacy). I'll either be using the mother's eggs or donor eggs (GS). I think if I did TS I would feel like the baby was mine. With GS, no part of that baby is MY baby, I'm just giving the baby back a heck of a lot bigger than I received it.
I'm doing it for a slew of reasons. For one, I've been so blessed with our wonderful boys. They're the light of our lives, it saddens me that someone may have to miss out on that b/c of reasons out of their control. I enjoy being pg (well enjoyed it more with my singleton than with my twins, but still). If it comes so easily to me, why shouldn't I share this gift that I've been given? Not that this is the driving reason, but I'll be compensated for my time which will help us get rid of some of our debt.
I'm specifically looking for a husband/wife couple that can't bear for one reason or another. For example, a friend I used to have could never carry b/c she had some trauma and her uterus was 95% or 98% scar tissue (so nowhere for the embrie to implant). I've read stories of women in their 20's needing emergency hysterectomies, etc.
Good for you!
I've been thinking a lot about it lately too, I loved being pregnant and would love to give the gift of a child to someone. But, I just don't know if I could handle the little kicks and hearing the heartbeats without getting attached. You are much stronger than me!
I was originally worried about this. The more I think about the fact that I won't have any biological connection to it, going into it referring to baby(ies) as THEIR baby, it not being a baby with DH, I don't foresee a problem. I must admit that I didn't feel very connected to my own kids until their birth (though it was instantaneous). Like I said, I couldn't do TS, I know I would have too much of an attachment to that baby.
I just can't wait to call the parents and say, "your baby kicked for the first time today", or "your baby had the hiccups today", etc.
that is awesome. i am happy there are people like you and your husband. we have close friends who have been trying for many years to have children and to give families another option and hope that is just a wonderful gift. good luck and i hope it all works out.
Mom to Megan(5), Bridget(4), Tessa and Annie (2) and Mary (brand new)
I think that's wonderful! Good for you!
I always get a little teary at the Baby Story episodes with the gay couples who choose surrogacy. My favorite was these two guys who got twin girls. They were so excited and appreciative. Plus, the babies were just adorable.
I think this is so wonderful of you to do. I really wish you all the best of luck and hope that a lucky couple gets to share this experience with you!
I feel like I've read a lot of recent articles and/or TV programs that explore this journey (did you see the "twiblings" episode of the Today Show where the woman had tried IVF 6 times w/o success and then had 2 different women carry her embryos, both took, and so she has a son and a daughter born 5 days apart--really amazing story!). All in all, I think it's such a beautiful gift you can give to someone who would love a child. How selfless and rewarding!