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Loveys
If your LO has a lovey - when do you let them have it? At night only? Anytime they want? During the day if the ask? Do they take it to DC (if they go to DC)? Car trips? When you're out of town, do the "rules" bend, if any?
DS has had a various little "loveys" we got since he was born, but became attached to one in particular. We have just been limiting him to the crib and car trips, but just recently, he has been crying for him in the morning. We started letting him have him after we got him dressed, but have to distract him b/c we don't send it to school. Then, as soon as we get home, he calls for it.
I was to just limit it to sleep, but I am not sure if I want to just pick my battles here and just give in. It's not like it's candy! (although maybe as addictive! lol)
Oh - and just for fun - what is your LO's lovey's name? DS calls his Lamb-y (I think we had called it that just for lack of a better name since it was a lamb, and it stuck.
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Re: Loveys
Amelia now has 3, yes 3! She brings them to the family room with her in the morning, but they rarely go anywhere with her with the exception of school (in her nap mat...my desperate attempt to get her to nap at school).
She has a Piglet from Pooh that we call Piggy, a little gold cat called Goldy and she loves her Astros blanket (brick red satin on one side and stripes on the other)...it's a colorful mess when you see her carrying all of them together (pink, brick red, white, black and gold).
Sarah has a lovey she calls "silky baby." It's a Little Giraffe satin square and it's been loved almost to death! It's got a big rip down the middle and it's falling apart. It leaves the house whenever we travel or if she has sleepovers at her grandparents' house. Little Giraffe doesn't make that style anymore, so if it gets lost we are up a creek. Sarah will be 5 in June and still sleeps with her lovey. She really only needs it at night.
Elizabeth has a lovey from The Black Dog store that she calls "silky puppy." I got smart and ordered a second one for backup. One goes in her backpack to school to help her nap. I don't limit her use of it. She also sucks her thumb, which to me is much more worrisome than the lovey.
Also, have you ever tried a switcheroo if you couldn't find the exact toy? Of course, his lovey is discontinued, and it is getting nasty. I would love to have 2 or 3 of them to rotate into the wash (spot clean, my a$$!), since he really doesn't like to part with it at night - and that's when I usually do laundry.
This is his:
Do you think I could do this one, instead? Or do kids really reject a similar item?
I considered this one which looks more similar to his lamb, but he is most attached to the strings at the top of his head b/c he drags him around by them and rubs them to fall asleep, so I don't think he would be fooled. I guess I could get both and just risk it!
We aren't too creative in the naming either b/c we have "Baa Baa" which is a lamb. DS has slept with this since he was 4 months old. We had an almost identical one for naptime at daycare. We found out that they never give him the other one for naptime anymore so now that one is back home and has joined him at night time. It is an elephant but we call him "Other Baa Baa"!
DS used to carry Baa Baa with him around the house and would especially need him if he was upset about something. Lately though he likes to take both of them out of the crib in the morning while I get him dressed but before we leave his room he throws them both in the crib. When getting ready for bed he will ask for them again and he will hold onto them while we read books etc. So right now they are night time only. I don't really have a problem giving them to him if he asks for them at other times though. There have been a few mornings that he won't give it up so it goes in the car with us. I will usually try to take it away before getting out of the car so that we don't lose it. He is pretty good about giving it up but sometimes tears ensue. If possible I would just have a backup of a favorite one in case it ever gets lost. DS cuddles with his at night and I think they definitely help him sleep so I am paranoid about losing them!
The one we used to keep at daycare was almost identical to the one at home. The only difference is one is a lamb head and the other is an elephant. They are made by the same company, same size, color, etc. He definitely knows that they are different though. My niece actually has 2 identical loveys that she calls one baby and two baby. My sister wrote which was which on the tag but other than that you can't tell a difference. My niece knows though. We think she knows by smell because one is the main one and the other is just kind of backup. It is pretty crazy!
DS is very attached to his blankets. Not any blanket though. I made him several flannel blankets with crocheted edges before he was born (two of my girlfriends did too). He LOVES these blankets. Luckily, we have about 10 so if we lost one it wouldn't be a big deal. He's not particular about which one he has, just as long as he has one. He calls them "bebe."
DS has a "bebe" most of the time. At school he only has it for naps but when we're home he has it all the time. We take one with us every where we go too!
Evan has a lovey that he sleeps with, which is a blue elephant named Ellie. As soon as we realized she was a winner, we bought a backup from Babies R Us. Recently he has become attached to a brown dog that was a gift from DH's aunt. We named him Bart, don't ask me why. Since Evan is starting to have separation anxiety, we have started taking Bart in the car, and yesterday and today I let him take him to daycare. His naps improved greatly from Monday (without Bart) to Tuesday with him. Apparently, he will go off and play with toys and other kids, but he keeps comiing back to Bart.
I am now on the hunt for a backup Bart - just in case. I think DH likes anything soft that has long ears he can play with, but I rather have a clone in case he gets clingy.
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DS has a stuffed dog we call Rufus. DH named him that just to be silly. He got very attached to Rufus around 18 months out of the blue. We took him everywhere, slept with him, etc. As he's gotten older the affection has tapered off some, but he still wants Rufus in bed with him most nights. When he started preschool in August he wanted to take Rufus with him to school everyday, but their policy is no toys, etc from home. Since he will nap fine without it, we just had to keep telling him that Rufus wasn't allowed to go to school and eventually he forgot about it. We never put a limit on when he was allowed to have him since it was a phase he grew out of pretty quickly. The period where Rufus actually went in the car with us places was less than a year probably.
Sam's lovey is a blanket we got to match his infant bedding. It's very soft, kind of like a Gund stuffed animal. We let him have it any time he wants while at home. I don't see an issue with it for him personally, because when it's time to go somewhere, or if it's mealtime, he is okay with leaving it behind (and always has been). Sometimes he asks to bring it in the car, and we let him with the stipulation that he leave it there when we get out. He's fine with it--but he IS 5, so he is more accepting of the rules than a 3 year old would be. He calls it "my blanket."
Hannah is an equal opportunity lover. She goes through short phases with certain stuffed animals, but sometimes it changes daily. She calls them her pets, and they're almost always named Fluffy. Edit: She only calls them Fluffy when someone asks if her pet has a name. She always nods and says Fluffy. But at home, she just calls them "my turtle" or "my little brown doggie" or "my yellow doggie," etc.
LOL! Eloise does this too, but everything is named Lucy.
Gideon didn't get attached to his lovey/blanket until he was well over a year. And it wasn't as if it was special or he even used it much before then. But then he started asking for "giggy" and it had to be that specific one. He now referrers to it as his blanket. He sleeps with it, brings it downstairs with him, upstairs to get dressed/play/whatever and at times misplaces it then he gets upset about it. He also takes it in the car and used to bring out with us but once he turned 3 we had a talk and told him he was going to have to leave it in the car from now on, which he has been okay with.
I think his obsession came from me always, and I mean always having a blanket with him in the stroller or carseat, and since we were out and about so often he feel asleep in the car/stroller with the blanket. What's funny is that the blanket he used back then is not the same one he has as his lovey now.